torka99099 Posted September 15, 2016 Share Posted September 15, 2016 I've been in a relationship with a woman for three months. She tells me she loves me with all her heart, and I definitely feel the same. When I'm with her she is all I see and all I care about, but with her, every time a guy walks by, her attention goes to him. If there's a guy on the street or a group of men working, her eyes instantly go to them. I understand that people will always look at one another and it's a normal thing to do,but gawking at someone and drooling at some muscle man, and saying " baby you should get tattoos like that" makes me feel unimportant, and not good enough to keep her attention for very long. We were at a club one night and her head was constantly going from one guy to another. Her friend, who came a long way to see her, was trying to talk and she would pay attention for a little while and then go back to checking out all the men again. Finally I had enough and asked her why she had to do that all the time. I told her it was disrespectful to me and that was it...I was a jealous man! She had been with jealous men before and didn't want to go through it again, my question to whomever may answer this post is: does this person really love me, wouldn't someone who loved you realize that what they are doing is hurting you and stop doing it? I know I would. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted September 15, 2016 Share Posted September 15, 2016 I've been in a relationship with a woman for three months. She tells me she loves me with all her heart, and I definitely feel the same. When I'm with her she is all I see and all I care about, but with her, every time a guy walks by, her attention goes to him. If there's a guy on the street or a group of men working, her eyes instantly go to them. I understand that people will always look at one another and it's a normal thing to do,but gawking at someone and drooling at some muscle man, and saying " baby you should get tattoos like that" makes me feel unimportant, and not good enough to keep her attention for very long. We were at a club one night and her head was constantly going from one guy to another. Her friend, who came a long way to see her, was trying to talk and she would pay attention for a little while and then go back to checking out all the men again. Finally I had enough and asked her why she had to do that all the time. I told her it was disrespectful to me and that was it...I was a jealous man! She had been with jealous men before and didn't want to go through it again, my question to whomever may answer this post is: does this person really love me, wouldn't someone who loved you realize that what they are doing is hurting you and stop doing it? I know I would. I doubt she loves you as much as she claims. If the man I loved told me that I was doing something that was hurtful to him, I would apologize and stop doing it. I have the ability to empathize. She's been with jealous men before . . . they were jealous for a reason. Jealousy without a foundation is a problem, but what she does is a reason to feel jealous. She called you jealous and shifted "blame" to you, something wrong with you, more or less . . . that is a trait of a narcissist. Dump her before she does more than look at one or more of those guys . . . 3 Link to post Share on other sites
angel.eyes Posted September 15, 2016 Share Posted September 15, 2016 Agreed. It shows a lack of respect or empathy for you. Focus on her actions not her words. Words are cheap and easy to say. They are only meaningful when backed by a person's actions. Also, if someone leaves you questioning your own feelings and judgement, chances are it's not a healthy dynamic or relationship for you. Ditto for leaving you confused and doubtful of the validity of your own feelings. She's bad news. Lose her. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
bubbaganoosh Posted September 15, 2016 Share Posted September 15, 2016 I wonder how she would feel if you did the same thing. Bet the house you would get the riot act read to you. I got a feeling that she can dish it out but wouldn't be able to take it if you did it to her. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gloria25 Posted September 15, 2016 Share Posted September 15, 2016 Dump her... But tell her that you realize that "you" are the problem and she deserves better...a man who isn't "jealous" cuz unfortunately all men she encounters are jealous and she deserves sooo much better Link to post Share on other sites
mikeylo Posted September 15, 2016 Share Posted September 15, 2016 I would puke ! She is a male version of an ogler! Salivating and drooling over anything with two legs! Her real person is showing now . 1 Link to post Share on other sites
NTV Posted September 15, 2016 Share Posted September 15, 2016 I her friend single? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted September 15, 2016 Share Posted September 15, 2016 I don't think anyone would be unconcerned by that behaviour. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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