Pownap Posted September 15, 2016 Share Posted September 15, 2016 I have been in a relationship with a girl from abroad for 6 months. Her visa ends next year and she will move back to other side of the world. I know where she is from is a lot better for raising a family and also lifestyle. Its logical for me to move eventually, however before I met her I had a stable life, career and am surrounded by loved ones (family/friends). I can't bring it to myself to think about moving away in the next 5 to 10 years especially when my parents are getting older and I want to support them. She doesn't have any family here and misses home as well. Her parents are getting older as well. She has met my family including my niece/friends/cousins...her parents know about me. I love her dearly, and she is most sincere, loving girl I have met. She is my lover as well as a friend but it feels heartbreaking that neither of us would be 100% happy in any country we settle in. I am not sure how to approach it, given I have always been reassuring to her that we can work it out and make a plan. I am almost 30 soon and now is the time to settle as well. I want to talk it out with her but I don't want to lead to an argument about my love for her and how much I love her because that element in unquestioned and I don't want her to be confrontational, I genuinely do love her. Thank you all for your answers. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Lois_Griffin Posted September 15, 2016 Share Posted September 15, 2016 I'm known for saying I wouldn't move across the street for a man, much less move to another country or continent. Honestly? Six months is nothing in the scheme of things. A pregnancy takes longer for God's sakes. Chalk this up as a very special relationship you'll always look back on fondly, then move on when you're ready. But there's no way in HELL you should desert your older parents and everyone and everything you know and love to move across the world for some girl you had a romance with for 6 months. That's beyond foolish. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
suzymil62 Posted September 19, 2016 Share Posted September 19, 2016 I can see your dilemma. It is very hard to keep a long-distance relationship, let alone one of you move across the world. I have seen on here many couples where one of them move to the other country and then are so unhappy because they miss their family that it doesn't end well. I think you're right that you need to sit down in a non-confrontational kind of way and talk through the issue. If you have trouble doing that, I would suggest you go to a couple's counselor and they can mediate between the two of you. You both need to understand the issues that will arise before you move across the globe. A Counselor can help you understand those as well. Good luck with your situation! Suzy Link to post Share on other sites
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