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stop going NC w/ ex? on 2nd breakup w/ her.


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broke up for the 2nd time in 3.5 yrs, 1.5 months ago. she broke it off both times, 2nd time was almost mutual (i knew we needed time apart). she made it clear she wanted to stay in contact when we broke up and not say its over.

 

so, since we've broke up i've seen her 3 times bc we have the same close friends. i havent done any begging like i did the 1st time. shes now dating someone else (LDR through a friend). i saw her 2 fridays ago when a bunch of our friends got together and she was really looking forward to seeing me.

 

well, i played it differently then i wanted to. i wasn't a jerk to her but i was pretty short with conversations. she tryed following me around the whole night. she asked me why we couldn't talk anymore and i said i would, bc i still talk to my other ex's when i see them (which is about twice a year). she didn't like that comment and makes it sound like she wants me to talk to her.

 

i heard shes not too happy currently. my female friends tell me she still loves me and shes always asking about me. then, she called my last fri night and i did not answer.

 

maybe im an idiot but i still love her. do i slowly start talking to her? or do i tell her i cant talk to her while shes seeing someone else? what do u think of the situation? last time we broke up w/ our gf/bf to get back together, i dont want that situation again. where do i go from here?

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ltomlinson81

All I can say from past experience is don't put too many rules on the breakup. No contact is too strict and kind of silly. If you feel like calling, then call. If not, then don't. Just play it cool and work through it. You never know how things will turn out in the end.

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