Can't work him out rant and update to "Just need space..."

[tashfv]

I'm getting progressive irritated by this as I feel like I'm to get through a maze with no exit!

So to update quickly my last post was "just need space at the moment" following that I left him for 3 weeks up until I had to message him to tell him I was leaving the country for a few months and my number will be changing. We ended up talking as if he had never asked for space to begin with. Felt like I was going crazy!

Now what's really bugging me is this indecisiveness my issue with him definitely is the sitting on the fence. (Will try and keep this short) I broke up with him 10 years because he seemed so indecisive and unclear to me.

What I find very annoying is he has told me consistently he has wondered what it would be like if we got back together and asked if I felt the same and basically getting info from me about how I feel. I'm fine with that if he would follow through with something. Instead he asks, I respond and then when I'm tired of him still on the fence I get on with life only to have him contact me or tell me he was going to do something but then I was dating someone else or something! I'm thinking what do you expect I can't wait forever when you are not being very clear!

Neither of us should have got married (after, we both said we knew it wasn't right)as we are both divorced now and before we both said "I do" we talked about leaving our partners for each other but obviously didn't.

 

Sorry bit of a rant but basically I just feel like if he wants to try again say, if not say and we can move on as friends or in a relationship but don't come to me after the event and then accuse me of getting rid of you or ignoring you its just a bit silly. I try and talk to him as a friend and include if he is dating or if I am, which I'm not ready but he doesn't like talking about it and is offended by me discussing other guys.

I just have no clue anymore.