johnnysparks Posted July 6, 2005 Share Posted July 6, 2005 Okay, I've been around the block on more than a few occasions and I'd imagine that I'm not alone in this dilemma. After coming out of a four year relationship and starting anew I took a little time off from the dating scene to just get back to my roots so to speak. Started picking up and going out with friends and meeting new and interesting (some to the point of lunatics) people and having a generally good time. It's now nine months later and I'm thinking it's time to get back out there because I'm twenty eight now, not old but not quite a spring chicken I notice on my our excursions (which are numerous from golfing, hiking, bar-hopping, etc) that a friends girlfriends friend (if that makes sense) is always being very nice to me, and I catch a look in her eye, but that all goes away when we all go out for an evening of dancing or drinks and she becomes very cold. I never really tread the water to see if she wants to pursue anything on a meaningful or an un-meaningful scale because it's sort of taboo to me to date amongst my "tribe". But am I somehow correct about this gals intentions towards me, when she sees me talking to girls at a bar she always makes a point to scare them away. Anybody else have a dilemma like this? And if so, how what steps can you suggest I take to solve this, I really don't want a relationship with this gal and I think it would screw up the group dynamic if we were to mess around here and there but I don't want to let my re-emerging social life suffer in the process of keeping things cool. Sincerely, Sparks Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted July 6, 2005 Share Posted July 6, 2005 You can't stop her from liking you, but you can stop going to bars with her. Link to post Share on other sites
homegrown Posted July 19, 2005 Share Posted July 19, 2005 Do you like her at all?? cause if you do, screw dating within the tribe, Go for her!! but i'm sure there is some reason why you haven't gone for her yet other than the fact she's part of the "tribe". Link to post Share on other sites
Author johnnysparks Posted July 19, 2005 Author Share Posted July 19, 2005 It's sort of one of those things where I thought she was cute when I first met her but certain personality traits took away a great deal of that attraction. From time to time I think about it but I figure it's only because it's not an option, we've both been forbid by other peers. I have taken myself out of the group for a few outings just to lone wolf it and I will get back to the group soon, I don't want anyone thinking that I'm displeased with them, it's of course not that Link to post Share on other sites
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