Nyman2016 Posted September 18, 2016 Posted September 18, 2016 So there is this girl who I have been friends with since like 2010, we stopped talking and reconnected after like 6 years, we started going out this year, and while we were going out she used Sugar Daddy websites (shes been using them for years) even tho I told her to stop using them, she still kept the site up. Then she started using whatsyourprice (A website to get paid to go on dates) I told her I was not comfortable her using the site (yet she still uses it) I was so depressed by it I had to resort to taking St John Wort ( Herbal prozac sold at CVS) We started getting into fights alot over these things. Then she would go on craiglist and model off lingerie for old men in hotel rooms ( I pretended like it did not bother me) Every other week she would say " I don't know if I wanna be in a relationship" and I said I still want to be in one with you but if you are going to keep saying that I dont know, I just want to end it, and she didn't. So then one day in the car she asks me " Can you find us a girl to have sex with us that will pay us money" Then I said " Wait isn't that prostittu..." shes like " No it isn't if we have dinner with them " Then she went on to say how she was unhappy she can't have sex with many people at once ( I told her when you are in a relationship you do not do those things) Here are a few things to consider for you guys reading this. 1) she has no job, she makes her money from Cash for Date sites, Sugar daddy sites, and sex chat lines, the only other income she makes is from modeling for photographers trying to build up their portfolio. 2) She uses men for money, She uses her Moms coworker (57) to drive her to Starbucks and buy her drinks 3) She lives with her parents still (is 23) has no car and no college education. She constantly flirts with other guys in front of me (and even asks them out for dinner ! ) I do not know why I stayed for so long, but on Weds she pulled the whole " I want to be single " and that was that we broke up... But should I feel depressed, I was feeling really down before because I knew this girl for so long and we were best friends, but I feel so drained from everything that has happened, is it worth still being friends and hanging out with this girl? She told me she wants to be famous so bad and only cares about money and older guys that spoil her. Need I mind you during the whole time we went out I NEVER hung out with any other girl. Any I texted her saying I am not happy with all the emotional abuse you have done to me and I want to stop talking to you until late October and she said " I haven't done any abuse to you at all all I did was break up with you " Like how can I still hang out with someone that has done this to me? 1
preraph Posted September 18, 2016 Posted September 18, 2016 Jeez, you should just RUN from this user prostitute and block her forever and move on. You don't get much more messed up than that, and her telling you it's not prostitution if you have dinner first -- how stupid does she think you are??? She doesn't want a relationship with you because you are not paying her for it. She has no interest in only being with you. You said earlier you're friends but then later you said relationship. Doesn't really matter. She's a straight up mess who'll end up diseased, beat on by either clients or pimps, and in jail for prostitution, and if she's not an addict already, she likely will be soon. If you have any self-preservation instincts at all, you'll get away from her and stay away. Who do you think she'll call when she needs to be bailed out? 5
JewelD Posted September 18, 2016 Posted September 18, 2016 I know you want to feel like an abused victim here, but she treated you that way because you allowed it. It's odd that now you are able to lay out how terrible and money hungry and sex-crazed she is and yet it was acceptable enough for you to stay with her. The only reason you're not still accepting is because she broke up with you. and you want to stop talking to her until late October? What happens in late October? Big Halloween plans? Just end it. You can't see a good reason to be friends and she will probably be too busy for it anyway what with her Craiglist and Sugar daddy appointments. 1
Author Nyman2016 Posted September 18, 2016 Author Posted September 18, 2016 Jeez, you should just RUN from this user prostitute and block her forever and move on. You don't get much more messed up than that, and her telling you it's not prostitution if you have dinner first -- how stupid does she think you are??? She doesn't want a relationship with you because you are not paying her for it. She has no interest in only being with you. You said earlier you're friends but then later you said relationship. Doesn't really matter. She's a straight up mess who'll end up diseased, beat on by either clients or pimps, and in jail for prostitution, and if she's not an addict already, she likely will be soon. If you have any self-preservation instincts at all, you'll get away from her and stay away. Who do you think she'll call when she needs to be bailed out? I just wanna update on the situation. This morning I texted her saying I do not wanna talk to her until October at like 10 am, then a little while after I just got a string of texts from her UPDATE: She keeps texting me over and over 11:51 Am " you are being so mean" 11: 52 " I didnt do ****" 11:58 " I did not mentally abuse you "
Author Nyman2016 Posted September 18, 2016 Author Posted September 18, 2016 I know you want to feel like an abused victim here, but she treated you that way because you allowed it. It's odd that now you are able to lay out how terrible and money hungry and sex-crazed she is and yet it was acceptable enough for you to stay with her. The only reason you're not still accepting is because she broke up with you. and you want to stop talking to her until late October? What happens in late October? Big Halloween plans? Just end it. You can't see a good reason to be friends and she will probably be too busy for it anyway what with her Craiglist and Sugar daddy appointments. I tryed breaking it off with her before but she keeps doing the whole I dont know let me think about it every single week.
Satu Posted September 18, 2016 Posted September 18, 2016 Block her on everything. *No direct contact. *No sending or receiving of messages. *Block any means she might use to contact you. *No replies to anything that gets through your blocks. *No indirect contact through third parties. *De-friend or delete from all social media. *No monitoring of her on social media. *No 'little birds' feeding you news. *Tell people that you don't want to know anything about what she is doing or saying. Take care. 5
JewelD Posted September 18, 2016 Posted September 18, 2016 I tryed breaking it off with her before but she keeps doing the whole I dont know let me think about it every single week. That makes no sense. When you break up, it doesnt have to be a mutual agreement. She is not abusing you, you're doing it to yourself. 4
Author Nyman2016 Posted September 18, 2016 Author Posted September 18, 2016 Block her on everything. *No direct contact. *No sending or receiving of messages. *Block any means she might use to contact you. *No replies to anything that gets through your blocks. *No indirect contact through third parties. *De-friend or delete from all social media. *No monitoring of her on social media. *No 'little birds' feeding you news. *Tell people that you don't want to know anything about what she is doing or saying. Take care. I am 100% not replying to her texts, but the social media de friend is hard,
Satu Posted September 18, 2016 Posted September 18, 2016 I am 100% not replying to her texts, but the social media de friend is hard, Nothing will change until you block her. 3
Author Nyman2016 Posted September 18, 2016 Author Posted September 18, 2016 That makes no sense. When you break up, it doesnt have to be a mutual agreement. She is not abusing you, you're doing it to yourself. No I am saying every single week in Aug she would say " I dont know if I wanna be in a relationship let me think about it" and then everything would be fine, then a week later " I dont knw if I wanna be in a releationship" then everything would be fine like the conversation did not happen, It got to a point where I told her, stop doing this **** either we end things or we are still together, and she said no no we can stay, so im like wtf... Her abusing me consists of these things, Asking people out in front of me on dates (asking if they are single) Yelling at me putting me down Trying to control my finances Telling me who to hang out with her using sugar daddy sites (when I told her it makes me very depressed) she still used it Her lying to me about hanging out with older guys, when I see a picture of it on tiwtter There is so many things
Author Nyman2016 Posted September 18, 2016 Author Posted September 18, 2016 Nothing will change until you block her. Why is she so content when she wants to break up, BUT when I say I wanna undfriend her she gets so scared?
JewelD Posted September 18, 2016 Posted September 18, 2016 No I am saying every single week in Aug she would say " I dont know if I wanna be in a relationship let me think about it" and then everything would be fine, then a week later " I dont knw if I wanna be in a releationship" then everything would be fine like the conversation did not happen, It got to a point where I told her, stop doing this **** either we end things or we are still together, and she said no no we can stay, so im like wtf... Her abusing me consists of these things, Asking people out in front of me on dates (asking if they are single) Yelling at me putting me down Trying to control my finances Telling me who to hang out with her using sugar daddy sites (when I told her it makes me very depressed) she still used it Her lying to me about hanging out with older guys, when I see a picture of it on tiwtter There is so many things Yeah, not really abuse. She was fairly transparent about what she was doing and you made threats that you didn't follow through on and then decided to stay with her. You need to take responsibility for the things that you choose to put up with in your life. And you keep saying she abused you and yet you didn't break up with her and you still want to be her friend. You know exactly who she is and what she does so if you continue to go back to her and continue getting played, it's because you wanted to do it. 1
elaine567 Posted September 18, 2016 Posted September 18, 2016 She sounds a very enterprising and ambitious young woman... I guess she is "hot", else why would you put up with all of this. She isn't going to change for you or anyone by the sounds of things, so if you don't like it, then you need to just stay away, 2
Marc878 Posted September 18, 2016 Posted September 18, 2016 She's not your problem. You are. You know what to do
Hoosfoos Posted September 18, 2016 Posted September 18, 2016 This is none of your business. She can do whatever she wants, it's her life. If you are uncomfortable with it, you need to sever all ties with her. 3
Author Nyman2016 Posted September 18, 2016 Author Posted September 18, 2016 She sounds a very enterprising and ambitious young woman... I guess she is "hot", else why would you put up with all of this. She isn't going to change for you or anyone by the sounds of things, so if you don't like it, then you need to just stay away, I stayed because we were best friends before
Author Nyman2016 Posted September 18, 2016 Author Posted September 18, 2016 (edited) Yeah, not really abuse. She was fairly transparent about what she was doing and you made threats that you didn't follow through on and then decided to stay with her. You need to take responsibility for the things that you choose to put up with in your life. And you keep saying she abused you and yet you didn't break up with her and you still want to be her friend. You know exactly who she is and what she does so if you continue to go back to her and continue getting played, it's because you wanted to do it. Trying to control someone Finances is abuse Flirting with other people knowing it hurts their partner is abuse trying to tell someone who they can hang out with is abuse Yelling at someone at the top of their lungs is abuse Cheating is also a form of abuse http://www.healthyplace.com/abuse/emotional-psychological-abuse/emotional-abuse-definitions-signs-symptoms-examples/ Socially isolating an individual, failing to let them have visitors Withholding important information Demeaning an individual because of the language they speak Ignoring or excessively criticizing Being over-familiar and disrespectful Unreasonably ordering an individual around; treating an individual like a servant or child Edited September 18, 2016 by Nyman2016 1
JewelD Posted September 18, 2016 Posted September 18, 2016 Trying to control someone Finances is abuse Flirting with other people knowing it hurts their partner is abuse trying to tell someone who they can hang out with is abuse Yelling at someone at the top of their lungs is abuse Cheating is also a form of abuse Emotional Abuse: Definitions, Signs, Symptoms, Examples - HealthyPlace Socially isolating an individual, failing to let them have visitors Withholding important information Demeaning an individual because of the language they speak Ignoring or excessively criticizing Being over-familiar and disrespectful Unreasonably ordering an individual around; treating an individual like a servant or child And yet you STILL want to be involved with her. If she is that terrible, leave her alone.
SammySammy Posted September 18, 2016 Posted September 18, 2016 I stayed because we were best friends before Why not be her friend now? If you can't make a decision or remove yourself from the situation, then you might as well be her friend. There's a place in this world for male friends like you. Women like her usually have lots of them.
preraph Posted September 18, 2016 Posted September 18, 2016 Why not be her friend now? If you can't make a decision or remove yourself from the situation, then you might as well be her friend. There's a place in this world for male friends like you. Women like her usually have lots of them. She's going to use him up one way or the other.
preraph Posted September 18, 2016 Posted September 18, 2016 By the way, today's prostitution ads are mostly in Backpage. They'll put a fake photo up if they have any brains at all and then send one privately after they're contacted by the john.
Author Nyman2016 Posted September 18, 2016 Author Posted September 18, 2016 By the way, today's prostitution ads are mostly in Backpage. They'll put a fake photo up if they have any brains at all and then send one privately after they're contacted by the john. she uses twitter mostly for that, she will follow someone that looks like they have money and DM them
BlueIris Posted September 18, 2016 Posted September 18, 2016 She’s a prostitute. If you have a problem with that, leave. Or you could pay her bills like Richard Gere in Pretty Woman. Problem solved.
dreamingoftigers Posted September 18, 2016 Posted September 18, 2016 No I am saying every single week in Aug she would say " I dont know if I wanna be in a relationship let me think about it" and then everything would be fine, then a week later " I dont knw if I wanna be in a releationship" then everything would be fine like the conversation did not happen, It got to a point where I told her, stop doing this **** either we end things or we are still together, and she said no no we can stay, so im like wtf... Her abusing me consists of these things, Asking people out in front of me on dates (asking if they are single) Yelling at me putting me down Trying to control my finances Telling me who to hang out with her using sugar daddy sites (when I told her it makes me very depressed) she still used it Her lying to me about hanging out with older guys, when I see a picture of it on tiwtter There is so many things Yes this is abusive. Yes this is sick. I'm sure your self-esteem is decimated. But here's one thing: this is a VERY OPEN SHUT CASE of "this person is not relationship material." AT ALL. Like, I wouldn't encourage ANYONE to date her AT ALL. And you shouldn't either. Stop trying to be nice to her and making her feel wanted. Her behaviour is ridiculous and unwanted. OF COURSE SHE IS PROSTITUTING HERSELF. What exactly do you think Craigslist, whatsyourprice, and "sugar daddy" stuff is!!???!!?! How old are you guys anyhow?
dreamingoftigers Posted September 18, 2016 Posted September 18, 2016 I stayed because we were best friends before Wait wait. Did I get this wrong? You were BF/GF right? Then she started doing a of this crap. You asked her to stop. She stuck around and didn't stop. Finally she dumped you (what a winner) and now you are having trouble unfriending her right? You should have 100% dumped her the second you discovered that she was on those sites. That's dumpable. It doesn't make her LESS responsible for treating you like sht though.
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