alulula Posted July 7, 2005 Share Posted July 7, 2005 This guy I work with has been sending me mixed signals since we met. His body language says he's into me (and so does my intuition), and my body langage reciprocates (sometimes unconsciously, sometimes, strategically performed ) BUT his conversation outside of the office revolves around how much fun his new single life is (he's divorced) and how he is suddenly being hit on by women. What do you think is going on? a. he's boasting to test me, to see if i'm turned on. b. he's just not that into me and he's talking to me as if i were one more of his buddies. c. I should cut the crap and ask him out. Other options are welcome. Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted July 7, 2005 Share Posted July 7, 2005 He's probably into you, but it doesn't sound like he is going to rule out other women he might be interested in. Link to post Share on other sites
Author alulula Posted July 7, 2005 Author Share Posted July 7, 2005 then i guess the question would be how to move myself up that list witohut sounding desperate. Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted July 7, 2005 Share Posted July 7, 2005 He might be bragging around that other women have interest in him. Talking about how good it feels to be single probably means he doesn't want a serious relationship right now. But you never know. He may fall in love with you. Keep in mind that some women had been into guys from work and the whole thing ended by having sex with them only once. It creates a very uncomfortable situation afterwards so don't jump too fast in his bed. And don't flirt too hard! Link to post Share on other sites
Iluvsiamese Posted July 7, 2005 Share Posted July 7, 2005 My vote would go to "no he's not into you in particular, he's into his new single life!" He is playing right now. I wouldn't waste my time on him unless just playing was what I wanted. If that works for you, go for it! But if you are looking for something commited or long term, pass him up. Link to post Share on other sites
Rosalind Posted July 7, 2005 Share Posted July 7, 2005 Since his divorce, he's having lots of fun flirting with ALL the girls...he's loving the attention. He's not taking any of it seriously though. Plus - as I've always maintained : it's a very bad idea to date a co-worker. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted July 7, 2005 Share Posted July 7, 2005 body language is a much more accurate indicator than the spoken word. mainly cause body language is mostly unconcious and can only be controlled conciously for a short period of time. Positive body language + positive intuition = almost a sure thing Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted July 7, 2005 Share Posted July 7, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale body language is a much more accurate indicator than the spoken word. mainly cause body language is mostly unconcious and can only be controlled conciously for a short period of time. Positive body language + positive intuition = almost a sure thing Exactly. I think he's into you, but wants to sound cool and as if he has lots of options. I suspect those options will evaporate if you invite him for a coffee or lunch... But if they don't, watch out. Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted July 13, 2005 Share Posted July 13, 2005 Into her as in would like to screw her or he's having a crush on her? Those two differ especially given that they work together. I don't think she wants to sleep with him once and that's all. Link to post Share on other sites
Pocky Posted July 13, 2005 Share Posted July 13, 2005 In my opinion, dating someone you work with is just bad policy. Link to post Share on other sites
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