Madame_Noire Posted September 20, 2016 Share Posted September 20, 2016 Hi guys I have been in my current role for two years. I have tried countless times to hand in my letter of resignation but the one person in the HR/Personnel department will not accept it, beg me to stay and ask what they can do to change my mind. I am happy to work my notice period and train whomever will be replacing me but they always try and talk me out of it. It seems they cannot take no for an answer and it affects my morale at work because I really do not want to be there anymore. The reason I wish to leave is because I have to rely on others to raise and complete the apporiate paperwork to fulfil what is asked of me on it and get it delivered to the customer. I tried to resign 18 months ago and they called a meeting saying what they would do to change. Suprise suprise, nothing changed. So I am back to square one. There are people there that purposely slack and do not pull their weight, the owners of the company is aware of this but chooses to turn a blind eye because they do not like confrontation. It is so frustrating working with people who seem incompetant with a poor work ethic and it hinders me being able to carry out my role. Today I tried to resign and they said they don't want me to leave, they will do whatever they can. I told them that was all said before. Why won't they accept my notice?? It is now affecting my mood and homelife now. Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted September 20, 2016 Share Posted September 20, 2016 Well, you're not a slave. Either submit a letter of resignation effective on a date certain and stick to it, or demand a huge raise to make this BS somewhat worth your while. 14 Link to post Share on other sites
S2B Posted September 20, 2016 Share Posted September 20, 2016 Find another job. Start the new job. Don't show up at the current job... They don't have that kind of power over you! You want to quit = then quit! After the allotted time goes by (2 weeks is gracious) don't show up at the current work place. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Madame_Noire Posted September 20, 2016 Author Share Posted September 20, 2016 Thank you for the responses so far. I am already in the process of applying for new jobs. As soon as a suitable one arises that fits my skill set, I will be off and I will advise the new employer of the issues if there is an unsatisfactory reference. Thanks again. Link to post Share on other sites
Survivor12 Posted September 21, 2016 Share Posted September 21, 2016 Did you have other jobs lined up the "countless times" you have tried to resign? Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Peach Posted September 21, 2016 Share Posted September 21, 2016 I had the same thing happen when I quit my last job. You just tell them you really appreciate the offer but you feel it's in your best interest to move on. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Madame_Noire Posted September 21, 2016 Author Share Posted September 21, 2016 I have two jobs. I wanted to drop this job and remain in my primary job, just having one employer. Don't worry, I do not plan on being a burden to the public purse and claiming benefits. Now the managers, PA and directors kept asking if I am okay. Really creeping around me. Link to post Share on other sites
GunslingerRoland Posted September 21, 2016 Share Posted September 21, 2016 It sounds like the bigger issue is that you can't say no to people. It's affected you in the job, and you can't even say no when they ask you not to leave. You should really work on your assertiveness as this isn't going to magically stop when you leave this job. People will continue to use you in whatever way they see fit if you let them. But this is a pretty simple problem. You hand in your resignation and you stop going to work in 2 weeks. They can't refuse to accept it. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
SammySammy Posted September 21, 2016 Share Posted September 21, 2016 It sounds like the bigger issue is that you can't say no to people. It's affected you in the job, and you can't even say no when they ask you not to leave. You should really work on your assertiveness as this isn't going to magically stop when you leave this job. People will continue to use you in whatever way they see fit if you let them. But this is a pretty simple problem. You hand in your resignation and you stop going to work in 2 weeks. They can't refuse to accept it. Assertiveness would probably fix the problem at this job. There's not a whole lot of difference between asking people to provide you what you need to do your job (and not getting it) and asking somebody to resign (and not getting it). Wondering what to do when they turn down the resignation. How would things be different or better at another job if it's apparent what you say or ask for can be overlooked or ignored? Learning to be more assertive would beneficial to her career and possibly other areas of her life. How to make what you say impactful and effective. That could be the deeper issue here. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
S2B Posted September 23, 2016 Share Posted September 23, 2016 Resigning isn't a request - it's a statement or a command. I think your delivery isn't clear and concise. Be direct - as in, my last day is ____. You. We'd to work on your delivery of what message you send... Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted September 23, 2016 Share Posted September 23, 2016 In many of my past roles they have said no to my resignation but I got out whenever I wanted to. I don't buy a salary increase or a promise of things changing to make me stay. I recall one time when I had a Director haul me in from the French office (whom we reported to) she literally screamed her head off at me - massively unprofessional and the fact I was very soon due to report direct to her made my mind up even more!! In work you choose your own path - you don't just choose to do whatever people want. Link to post Share on other sites
Survivor12 Posted September 23, 2016 Share Posted September 23, 2016 I have two jobs. I wanted to drop this job and remain in my primary job, just having one employer. Don't worry, I do not plan on being a burden to the public purse and claiming benefits. Now the managers, PA and directors kept asking if I am okay. Really creeping around me. Now I'm even more confused. First you said that you were looking for another job & commented about an "unsatisfactory reference" & now you're saying that you have another primary job & wanted to drop this one. It seems that there is more to the story than lack of assertiveness, but without clarification, offering helpful advice is impossible. Whatever the case, I hope things work out for you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Madame_Noire Posted May 15, 2017 Author Share Posted May 15, 2017 This is a bit of a long vent. Please bear with me as I have to provide clarification... I worked two jobs for the past 4 years. One where I was outsourced to a company for the past 4 years as a cleaner or janitor as you call it in the U.S. Then, as soon as the first shift/job ended, I commenced a role for the place I was outsourced to directly for the last 3 years whereby I put company logos on garments for various businesses, this could be hundreds of garments a day. In March, I resigned from the clothing job because I felt I didn't get recognition and acknowledgment for all the work I did. Also, I think every company has a diagram showing the hierarchy and who is who. I was not even on there, I only recently stumbled across it. That was like a kick in the teeth. When I wrote my letter of resignation, I stated, that if it was not for the role I did, the customers would not get their orders. My predecessor walked out of the job without giving notice and the company begged me to take the role while I was doing the cleaning role because they had a backlog of orders. I would have thought they would have worshiped the ground I walked on seen as I said yes to help them out. The final straw was when my grandmother died and colleagues were moaning about the time I took off for bereavement because I was the only one that did the job and my manager would frequently complain about not having the time to cover my work. I never had a sick day, was never late and got on with my work. The day my gran died, I stayed at work because I didn't want to leave my employer in the lurch because there was alot of work on and saved the time off for the funeral and the day off, so they had two weeks notice at least. Coincidentally, the day of the funeral was time I had already booked off a month before, well in advance. I continued doing the first job for the company. There was no animosity, I remained professional and continued my role.....I have now been offered a new role elsewhere, completely different career, closer to home and the clothing job employers, who I left in March are upset I didn't tell them and had to hear it from the outsourcing/ cleaning company - my current employer. The clothing company I have had issues with and I have tried many times to hand in my notice but they would not accept it, they said they didn't want me to leave and they say I do a good job. I wanted them to put their money where their mouth is and asked for more money. They said they could not do that. I then asked them to allow me to work my notice period. I asked for more money because other colleagues have openly discussed what their income is and I was on minimum wage. Why are they being like this? I didn't have to tell them, they are not my employer any more. Hope this is clearer, sorry for any previous confusion. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted May 15, 2017 Share Posted May 15, 2017 Tell HR nothing had changed from the last time you agreed to stay if things changed. It might not even be the same HR person and maybe she doesn't even know or whatever. But they can't stop you from just walking out. Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted May 16, 2017 Share Posted May 16, 2017 I don't understand how that company operates.... Ive been a business owner for almost 30 years...Its even rare that I allow someone to stay that gives notice...I normally just pay them to that point and show them the door...Like you accurately stated...Once someone doesn't want to be there, then you have to get them out of there, so they don't disrupt morale and/or start to become the workplace lawyer.. No disrespect, but no one is irreplaceable...I just don't understand their attitude.. My advice is just dont come in and forget about giving notice...I never judged a new hire on whether or not they gave notice...Its not as important as people make it out to be.. Good Luck.. \ TFY 2 Link to post Share on other sites
GunslingerRoland Posted May 16, 2017 Share Posted May 16, 2017 Honestly nothing about this situation makes much sense to me. I'm actually really surprised that they were willing to let you stay there as a cleaner when you resigned from your other job there. Let alone begging you to stay. But really I think it tells you everything that you need to know, that they were begging you to stay but unwilling to give you any more money. Don't mean to sound harsh, but it sounds like it wasn't your work that was valuable, but the fact that they were underpaying you greatly that was. I'm hoping your new job is more fitting for you, because honestly just reading your posts on here, you do not sound like someone who should be making minimum wage. Really that is typically reserved for high school students, and even then you still get raises. Link to post Share on other sites
missingu Posted May 20, 2017 Share Posted May 20, 2017 You need to leave and you need to stick to it. If you are not happy then you need to leave. You are not being fair to yourself,especially if you get offered a better opportunity. Things won't change. You are past it and as much as it hurts and everyone you will miss, you need to go. We are not meant to stay in one place. Link to post Share on other sites
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