digger Posted July 7, 2005 Share Posted July 7, 2005 I admit it.. I haven't let go and I still hold out hope. I know her better than anyone and I just think friends persausion and other things have clotted her mind. Weve been separated for 16 months, divorced for 10. She hasnt made one effort to call me other than when she wants the money changed into her name (yeah she got my retirement accounts to) and you could say shes made it perfectly clear she wants nothing to do with me...OR..on the other hand, some people have regrets and are just to embarrased to admit they were wrong or jumped the gun. Anyway, I've stayed away and tried to appear happy and content in front of my daughter. If she relays that I'm doing just fine, thats the whole point of NC right? They like strong, confident men. Its the only way I can get thru that I am (maybe lol) by showing my daughter. To the point: I'm thinking of making a call. A nice call to her. And inviting her out to dinner. Call me crazy (but i havent done it yet). Im pretty sure I'll get shot down and if I do its not gonna bother me nearly as it would of six months ago. Yeah time is healing but I'll never forgive myself if I dont give it every effort. So heres the scenario, the call: EW: Good morning this is ***** Me: Hi Its ***** EW: Hello Me: Just thot Id call and ask you if youd go out to dinner with me EW: I dont think thats a good idea Now, since Im helpless I need to know if you were me, what verbage and emotion would you use for my final line. Inidfference? dejected? Non chalant? Be me, tell me how I end it. What do I act like--what would you say? Link to post Share on other sites
Marshbear Posted July 7, 2005 Share Posted July 7, 2005 Indifference It's the only way to go..... make her think you are doing her a favor by asking her out. If she says no it's no big deal. You got many other fish to fry.... Link to post Share on other sites
b52srock Posted July 8, 2005 Share Posted July 8, 2005 digger....I swear you and I are living the same damned life! Can't tell you how many times in the past year I've wanted to make that phone call or show up on his doorstep...you know, the "Please...make love to me one more time" one. Only thing that's kept me from it is knowing I couldn't live with the rejection. Good luck..... Link to post Share on other sites
Curt Posted July 8, 2005 Moderators Share Posted July 8, 2005 Originally posted by b52srock Only thing that's kept me from it is knowing I couldn't live with the rejection. And there's a major amount that you've said between the lines in this statement. When you look at it, does it make sense to hold out hope in this kind of a setup? Not trying to judge, merely being honest here. Curt Link to post Share on other sites
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