Forever broken Posted October 29, 2016 Share Posted October 29, 2016 Yes, but his posts are depressing for me when I read them. I realized that too but you will receive all kinds of advice bitter and sweet. I have seen post very painful to read but had a lot of truth in it. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted October 29, 2016 Share Posted October 29, 2016 Yes, but his posts are depressing for me when I read them. Maybe, but having read bits of your story it seems your AP is definitely all about sex. He texted me after work and was talking about watching porn when he got home. He said that he liked to think about and would like to watch me f-ing. He refers to us having sex as f-ing. He said that when we got together next time we could watch porno involving threesomes. When we were together before, he made a comment about how I might like a threesome and I said that I wouldn't. I don't know how to take those comments. Is he basically trying to make me his sex toy? I know it sounds funny, but that's what it feels like. Link to post Share on other sites
Survivor12 Posted October 29, 2016 Share Posted October 29, 2016 It may not be JUST about sex but it's ALL about ego & his need for attention. Look, between you & his wife (and perhaps even others), he's getting all of his needs met. On the other hand, not one of you are getting 100% of his attention or interest. Stop trying to look for reasons to justify staying in touch with him. What does it really matter that he denied that he is using you for sex? Be honest. If you had thought that he would have admitted it, you wouldn't have asked the question. Besides, you now know that he is married. Why are you still asking him about his feelings for you? In fact, why are you still talking to him at all? Not only is the man married but he keeps it a secret. Ask yourself what possible motive he would have to do that. Do you think that your employer would care? How about his guys friends? Would it make a difference to them? No, the only reason to hide his marital status is to appear "available" to women who would otherwise reject his advances. You don't really even know this man. If he can lie about being married what else can/does he lie about? What (or who) else is he hiding? Stop it. There is no pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. In fact, now that others know that he is married, you could end up compromising your job as well as your reputation by continuing to engage with him. Do yourself a favor & let it go. Regardless of why he was using you (sex, ego, boredom, attention), he was/is. You have absolutely no reason to believe that he has any intention of committing to you or that it's anything more than a fling. Please take off the rose colored glasses & deal with the reality. Don't you deserve better than a guy who is not only married but willing to lie about it? I believe that you do. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
lftbehind Posted October 29, 2016 Share Posted October 29, 2016 Maybe, but having read bits of your story it seems your AP is definitely all about sex. Yes, he reminds me of my AP. He is all about sex. I really enjoy talking to him and being with him, but unfortunately he probably has been in it for the sex. Now he doesn't seem to want that and doesn't talk to me much. It hurts a lot when you realize that they are using you and don't care about you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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