Author Selynn Posted September 26, 2016 Author Share Posted September 26, 2016 How many people have to tell you to STOP contacting her and move on? You are obsessed and it's not healthy. You need to pull yourself together and respect that woman's wishes and leave her alone. You're becoming stalkerish. I thank you for your comment. To be honest when I had applied for jobs down there just to be with her when she moved, being told 24/7 that she was ready to try and being pulled along when she knew she was lying to you for around 4 months. It's pretty hard to just be dropped at the last minute, and expected to just forget about everything she said. I would have never lied to her, it's the height of disrespect. And yes I messed up by begging and pleading with her, however that lasted for a week. I got the picture and backed off, then she was the one to call and ask me to her leaving night. To then be told that she's so happy you came, and that it meant the world to her. Then with a click of the fingers she's blocked me on everything, and moved away like I didn't exist. It's a harsh reality that yeah, she'll probably never see herself being in the wrong. But I'm not a stalker, I am hurt and just wanted her to answer my question, which she's too much of a coward to do. So yes I will not contact her again, while she continues to play her games. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Selynn Posted September 26, 2016 Author Share Posted September 26, 2016 Update; she has recently emailed me with "Did you just call me?!" Which I didn't. Should I reply and say no? Is this breadcrumbs? Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted September 26, 2016 Share Posted September 26, 2016 Update; she has recently emailed me with "Did you just call me?!" Which I didn't. Should I reply and say no? Is this breadcrumbs? Silence. Cut the cord. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Blanco Posted September 26, 2016 Share Posted September 26, 2016 But I'm not a stalker, I am hurt and just wanted her to answer my question, which she's too much of a coward to do. So yes I will not contact her again, while she continues to play her games. It doesn't sound like she's playing games. It sounds like she ended a relationship and you refuse to accept it, so you've continued to prod her. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted September 26, 2016 Share Posted September 26, 2016 It sounds like you've got her so paranoid that every time there's a wrong number she thinks it's you. Either that or you did dial her and hang up. You'll use this excuse to contact her because that's what you want to do so bad. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Selynn Posted September 26, 2016 Author Share Posted September 26, 2016 It doesn't sound like she's playing games. It sounds like she ended a relationship and you refuse to accept it, so you've continued to prod her. I've accepted the relationship is over, I want nothing to do with her. She got in contact with ME twice, to ask me to stay in her life. And then blocked me, of course anyone's going to be a bit confused. She took the time to invite me to her leaving nights, and ask to meet for coffee. Yet as soon as she moves she cuts the cord. Would it not be a bit more respectful to tell the person, instead of just keeping them there to pass time? She had this planned out for a while, she knew exactly when to message to keep me on her heels. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Selynn Posted September 26, 2016 Author Share Posted September 26, 2016 It sounds like you've got her so paranoid that every time there's a wrong number she thinks it's you. Either that or you did dial her and hang up. You'll use this excuse to contact her because that's what you want to do so bad. I haven't called her. And out of all the times I reached out to contact she ignored them. Why suddenly after I go quiet does she ask if I've called? If she thought in any way that it was me, it would be ignored, like all the other times. And I have deleted. Link to post Share on other sites
aloneinaz Posted September 26, 2016 Share Posted September 26, 2016 I'm simply astounded that you're not grasping ANY of the advice that people having taken the time to provide you. You're doing the exact OPPOSITE of what is being suggested. You then come with today's question of "should I let her know I'm going NC"? Really? Seriously? Why do you come here and post and continue to ask the same questions different ways? You need to look really deep inside my friend at why you're bothered by what an EX did IN THE PAST. Who cares! She's not your problem. Everybody has been screwed over in a relationship. We learn from it and vanish from their lives. WE DON'T continue to contact them like a 13 YO saying "you hurt my feelings and treated me poorly and you owe me an apology!" Sorry to be so blunt but come on man! Find your self respect, block her on everything and move on w/your life.. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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