Wookin Pa Nub Posted September 30, 2016 Share Posted September 30, 2016 We are both pretty conservative people. I can be controlling at times and use to get a little jealous but that doesn't happen as much as we have aged. We are early-mid 40s. Anyway, I want my wife to get real dolled up, maybe even a little slutty looking, which is probably pretty tame in most opinions, and then we head to a bar. I want her to go in alone. I would come in later and just observe. We would have a signal if things got uncomfortable for her. Then after a while I would come and "hit on her" and then she'd leave with me. I think I just get satisfaction that I know I control the outcome at the end of the day if that makes sense and she will choose me. It might go back to that I felt abandoned and hurt by girlfriends in high school and college that didn't choose me. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
NTV Posted September 30, 2016 Share Posted September 30, 2016 Sounds like you trust your wife a lot if you think she will go along with it. That's a good thing. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
doyathinkso Posted September 30, 2016 Share Posted September 30, 2016 So what are you going to do when you come in later and she's not there? 4 Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted September 30, 2016 Share Posted September 30, 2016 I don't think it's exactly common but ppl have all sorts of diff kinks so go for it! Sounds like fun. (Just be careful she/you don't get in over your head, like seducing some guy who won't take no for an answer.) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SaveYourHeart Posted September 30, 2016 Share Posted September 30, 2016 A little role play can be fun! I know couples who do this type of thing at hotel bars to get away from the kids! If it makes BOTH of you happy, go for it! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Wookin Pa Nub Posted September 30, 2016 Author Share Posted September 30, 2016 So what are you going to do when you come in later and she's not there? Not gonna happen. I would come in 15-20 min after her and more importantly she has no interest in other men. Link to post Share on other sites
central Posted September 30, 2016 Share Posted September 30, 2016 It's a fun little game, so enjoy. Playing like you're trying to pick her up, and eventually succeed, makes it interesting. If you want her all dressed up, pick an upscale place when it's not so busy that you can't get near her at the bar. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
kgcolonel Posted September 30, 2016 Share Posted September 30, 2016 Not gonna happen. I would come in 15-20 min after her and more importantly she has no interest in other men. My wife and I have done this exact thing except I will go in and sit down the bar for a while (always a nice restaraunt) and will start by sending a drink down her way, then go sit next to her, followed after some sexy convo with finding a table close to the bar and on home for fun time....as much a show for the bar staff as creating anticipation for our time at the house......as others have said,,,be careful though to avoid other third parties who may intrude. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted September 30, 2016 Share Posted September 30, 2016 Anyway, I want my wife to get real dolled up, maybe even a little slutty looking, which is probably pretty tame in most opinions, and then we head to a bar. I want her to go in alone. I would come in later and just observe. We would have a signal if things got uncomfortable for her. Then after a while I would come and "hit on her" and then she'd leave with me. Is she to encourage even slightly the interest of other men? Talk to them? Flirt with them? Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
Pete2304 Posted October 1, 2016 Share Posted October 1, 2016 Personally I'd say it's playing with fire and to what end? Where's the harm in just getting dressed up and going out together and enjoying some romance and some fun that maybe hadn't happened in a while. It can still be a date, go out drinking, dancing, whatever but I think this is one of those silly little things that could be something you end up regretting. Just my opinion and hope you have some good nights out either way and get a bit of the magic back. Link to post Share on other sites
RecentChange Posted October 1, 2016 Share Posted October 1, 2016 Kinda similar...... I can ..... be a flirt, sometimes when I don't even realize, and the Mr and I go out on the town often. I have most certainly noticed a pattern - I dress cute, and get attention from other guys - HOT sex between us that night. Go as far as to flirt with another guy a bit? It's on. I don't know, maybe its something about reclamation, or seeing your wife is desired by others, but it obviously turns him on. (Oh, and it turns me on when women flirt with him, or he relays stories about it) The other thing I like about getting the two of us sexually charged in public - makes for an opportunity for teasing, for anticipation. If we were at home - we would just go at it, but being out in public means we have to wait, and tease, and taunt, and build that desire up. The other day he had an evening engagement downtown that I didn't particularly want to attend - so I waited at the bar next door for him. A female alone at a bar is gonna get attention, no doubt, and this was no exception. He would pop in and check on me - go back to his event.... That night? "I saw you flirting with that guy" (I was?) - and he gave me a delicious "punishment" for my transgression. I am just not one for theater, or purposefully role play - but setting up little scenarios, to create a bit of "drama" and excitement 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Mr R Posted October 1, 2016 Share Posted October 1, 2016 I've heard of a lot of people having this fantasy our doing this type of roll playing. As others have said make sure the wife is into it as well you don't want to put her into an uncomfortable situation. I would for sure be careful with the location you pick to do this. Some establishments would not be well suited for pulling this off. I mean where I live the types of bars around here if another guy starred hitting on her and she gave you the signal to move in because she's uncomfortable you would end up in a fight because the other guy would assume you're Cock blocking him. And he would be ready to show you what for. Link to post Share on other sites
dichotomy Posted October 1, 2016 Share Posted October 1, 2016 All I can think of is this bit from the show "Modern Family" 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Wookin Pa Nub Posted October 3, 2016 Author Share Posted October 3, 2016 Is she to encourage even slightly the interest of other men? Talk to them? Flirt with them? Mr. Lucky She is naturally VERY friendly and IMO flirty even tho she doesn't know she is. Women don't understand, many men think eye contact alone means the girl wants to eff their brains out. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted October 3, 2016 Share Posted October 3, 2016 ^^^ Then with testosterone-charged suitors, I'd anticipate some interesting interactions when you show up... Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
RecentChange Posted October 3, 2016 Share Posted October 3, 2016 Okay - while I agree many men interpret eye contact, or even speaking to them as "flirting" (basically anything less than telling them to F' off) - do you all really think she would take it so far that some random at the bar would be ready to FIGHT her husband when he came in? They would have to be some pretty damn good actors to make the dude at the bar believe they had never met before. And do guys really go to fist to fist that quickly over some perceived flirting? I go out to bars etc a lot, and can't say I see violence break out..... I doubt the wife is going to promise a night to remember to the stranger at the bar. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted October 3, 2016 Share Posted October 3, 2016 ^ There are some psyches out there that wouldn't want to let it go, yeah. Personally I don't think that's sth to cower in terror over and they should still do it, but just use a little common sense caution and maybe keep the psycho looking biker guy on the outside. Link to post Share on other sites
Cephalopod Posted October 3, 2016 Share Posted October 3, 2016 I saw a thread on another site where a husband had his wife do this a lot, even to the point of having her flirt with men at nightclubs. One night she got too drunk and ended up leaving the club with another man, right in front of him, and didn't come home till the next morning. You cannot control how your wife dresses in public. But to encourage her to cat slutty is..well...I think you are walking a slippery slope if you do this. Link to post Share on other sites
Lois_Griffin Posted October 4, 2016 Share Posted October 4, 2016 Methinks it's only a matter of time before the OP is suggesting hot-wifing. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted October 4, 2016 Share Posted October 4, 2016 The cuckold/hotwife thing usually is at the center of this kink but lots of couples who roll that way are content to play it limited, where the edges are just poked like w this bar public flirting/promiscuity thing and in the end they always just still end up in bed w each other. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
imaginarium Posted October 4, 2016 Share Posted October 4, 2016 My boyfriend has an ongoing fantasy with me as an innocent schoolgirl, which makes sense because I was 16 and went to an all girls catholic school when we met in high school. Usually it's just fun bedroom talk, but once he was having a bad week. So I put together an outfit that was mostly schoolgirl but just alternative enough to fly in a bar around town that caters to the geeks and nerds and punk crowd. Then I went there and when he called to say he was leaving work, I told him to meet me there instead. As soon as he walked in I could tell he just wanted to get me home, but I spent the next hour making him buy me girly drinks and flirting heavily with him. We had a great time and fantastic sex when we got home and it's something I would totally do again. I don't see the harm in having a little fun. 7 Link to post Share on other sites
Michelle ma Belle Posted October 4, 2016 Share Posted October 4, 2016 Been there and done that and it can definitely be great fun and an even greater prelude to some amazing sex (and it should go without saying that trust between a couple is important otherwise be prepared to handle the outcome) 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Wookin Pa Nub Posted October 4, 2016 Author Share Posted October 4, 2016 I also have this weird insecurity/controlling issue where it is a turn on to me to get jealous, confront wife and have her, in essence, show her support/loyalty to me. Maybe this is what this role play is about if that makes any sense. I guess my jealousy issues go back to high school and college gfs that chose others over me. I had one college sort of gf (not official bf-gf thing) I really liked but she liked to hook up with others. Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted October 4, 2016 Share Posted October 4, 2016 I also have this weird insecurity/controlling issue where it is a turn on to me to get jealous, confront wife and have her, in essence, show her support/loyalty to me. Maybe this is what this role play is about if that makes any sense. I guess my jealousy issues go back to high school and college gfs that chose others over me. I had one college sort of gf (not official bf-gf thing) I really liked but she liked to hook up with others. When that jealousy or insecurity is a turn-on, that's cuckoldry. It takes lots of sub-forms but the basic premise is infidelity or the risk of it. Don't feel bad about that, it's pretty common today. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Cephalopod Posted October 4, 2016 Share Posted October 4, 2016 When that jealousy or insecurity is a turn-on, that's cuckoldry. It takes lots of sub-forms but the basic premise is infidelity or the risk of it. Don't feel bad about that, it's pretty common today. Agreed. Leave it as a fantasy friend, unless you actually want to share her. Pandora won't help you if you flip that lid back. Link to post Share on other sites
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