This Fantasy with Wife Common?

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I guess I am weird, but I am having a hard time picturing the scenario where some agreed upon light flirting - where the couple has been married and dedicated for years...... is going to lead to her saying screw you, I am going home with this stranger I met at a bar.

 

I mean really? A flirt at a bar is going to cause her to walk away from her marriage? Some stranger will be so intoxicating she would want to leave her husband?

 

Like I mentioned before, my husband and I have played with this - but it wasn't preplanned like the OP has suggested. My husband didn't see it has a threat, because it wasn't, he knows I am leaving with him.

[Pete2304]

Different things work for different people both in relationships and every other aspect of life but I truly think this has got bad idea written all over it. Ok so on a cuckhold level it might be enjoyable to an extent but it's not right is it? If you truly are in love and everything is perfect why on earth would you want to do this? I got so desperate to save my marriage I turned a blind eye to my wife's cheating just to keep her but shock horror it didn't work out. This smacks of a relationship in trouble and won't be saved by encouraging jealous thoughts. Just my opinion of course, I've been wrong before and most certainly will be again but I can't see what good can come out of this.

 

You might go home and rip each other's clothes off that night but it's days or weeks later when you might start to wonder if he or she actually deleted that number they pretended to want from some stranger, if when you had such an amazing time in bed that night it was actually you they were turned on by?

[Popsicle]

We are both pretty conservative people. I can be controlling at times and use to get a little jealous but that doesn't happen as much as we have aged. We are early-mid 40s.

Anyway, I want my wife to get real dolled up, maybe even a little slutty looking, which is probably pretty tame in most opinions, and then we head to a bar. I want her to go in alone. I would come in later and just observe.

 

 

We would have a signal if things got uncomfortable for her. Then after a while I would come and "hit on her" and then she'd leave with me.

 

 

I think I just get satisfaction that I know I control the outcome at the end of the day if that makes sense and she will choose me. It might go back to that I felt abandoned and hurt by girlfriends in high school and college that didn't choose me.

 

I think it's a nice fantasy. Where it gets weird is when the husband wants his wife to screw some other man. (we get those posts here)

[road]

I've read where the wife let another man get her drunk in front of her husband and then went to spend the night with this man leaving her husband at the bar.

[Wookin Pa Nub]

When that jealousy or insecurity is a turn-on, that's cuckoldry. It takes lots of sub-forms but the basic premise is infidelity or the risk of it. Don't feel bad about that, it's pretty common today.

 

Maybe it's a loose variation of cuckoldry but I would never want another man to touch my wife. It is just a part of me likes to be jealous and for my wife to show her loyalty to me.

[Pete2304]

Maybe it's a loose variation of cuckoldry but I would never want another man to touch my wife. It is just a part of me likes to be jealous and for my wife to show her loyalty to me.

 

You obviously find your wife very attractive. On that basis, there's a fair chance other men will have in the past and in the future, find her attractive as well. I don't know of any woman in a long term relationship who at some stage hasn't turned down an offer or made it clear to some bloke that's flirting with her that's she's taken. I'm sure your wife is no different so there's your loyalty. I wish you all the best but I'm utterly convinced you will end up back on here one day with a new thread along the lines of "fantasy went too far, heartbroken". I hope not but why do you need her to flirt with someone else to know she wants you? There's underlying problems here in my opinion.

[spanz1]

that is a pretty sexy role play idea. but don't be surprised if she thinks you are nutz! She probably does NOT want to get hit on by other men like that. So it is FINE to suggest it, but do not be too pushy about it. Allow her to say no.

 

There are other types of role plays that might be easier as a first start. Like you ring the doorbell, and pretend to be a meter reader who needs to check her water meter, or whatever, and work your way into the bedroom. things like that to get her kinky mind going.

[Wookin Pa Nub]

 

There are other types of role plays that might be easier as a first start. Like you ring the doorbell, and pretend to be a meter reader who needs to check her water meter, or whatever, and work your way into the bedroom. things like that to get her kinky mind going.

 

 

 

But what if she does things sexually with the "meter reader" that she never does with everyday me?

[jen1447]

Have you floated this idea to your wife at all or ever dabbled in the possibilities? Or is this just sort of an "I wish" thing?

[Chica80]

I think it sounds like a great idea!! You should be able to explore your fantasies with your partner. It adds excitement and anticipation which all makes for great sex!

 

I think explain to her what you want, why it would turn you on. And let her make some boundaries that are safe for her.

[Wookin Pa Nub]

Have you floated this idea to your wife at all or ever dabbled in the possibilities? Or is this just sort of an "I wish" thing?

 

I have not just a thing I have kept to myself.

Early in our marriage there were a couple incidents where she was out with girl friends drinking and the next day she told me she danced with a guy (it was an outdoor festival type thing so I don't think it was dirty dancing) and another time she said she was hit on. I was pretty jealous and upset and told her she should not be going to bars without me or drinking a lot without me present. I actually liked that feeling of being jealous and then reprimanding her.

 

 

TBH I have this weird fantasy (if you can call it that) where we are out (probably a bar/dance club) and she flirts/dances with someone bc she is mad at me and wants to piss me off. I confront the situation and then get pushed/hit by the other guy. Then she feels extremely guilty for the whole scene and then I can get pissed off at her. I know that is weird but I think about that for some reason.

[jen1447]

^ Does she take up w the other guy after he beats you up?

 

Srsly tho do you think she'd be at all up for some play like that? I guess that's mainly what draws the line here between fantasy and healthy bonding thru sex play. If it's just your secret thing, that's kinda unfortunate.

[dichotomy]

 

 

TBH I have this weird fantasy (if you can call it that) where we are out (probably a bar/dance club) and she flirts/dances with someone bc she is mad at me and wants to piss me off. I confront the situation and then get pushed/hit by the other guy. Then she feels extremely guilty for the whole scene and then I can get pissed off at her. I know that is weird but I think about that for some reason.

 

I appreciate fantasies.... but consider this variation "guy hits you with a powerful hook, knocking you out and you fall to the floor. You head hits the tile floor -or the edge of the bar - hard. Your dealing with brain injury and your wife has to help feed, dress, and wipe your ass, for the rest of your life (no sex). Or the guy does not stop with one hit, but gets you in the high mount position pummeling your head repeatedly breaking your jaw, and detaching one of your retinas. Or he waits outside the bar with a gun or a knife for both of you."

 

Keep this specific part as a fantasy.