figgurinoutlife Posted July 8, 2005 Share Posted July 8, 2005 Maybe some of you can figure this one out. My ex wanted me to come see her at her job (porn store) to see her puppy again, (obviously and excuse to get me up there). So I say I guess I can drop by on my to a friends house. I go in and her boyfriend is there too (he works there as well). Well the whole time I'm there she shows me around, and kind of flirts with me and stands very close to me the whole time. I don't know why she wanted me to come up there, sometimes I think it is to show me off to her boyfriend, I am very nice looking and her new boyfriend is not very nice looking, even though he is very nice. So I buy something while I'm there, some lube actually. I just figured, why not. Anyways her boyfriend gave me my ex's employee discount of 20%. I then leave. The next day my ex calls and acts normal wondering what I'm doing, and I tell her I'm going out of town by myself on a mini vacation because I couldn't find any one to go with. She says "you didn't ask me." I don't know if she was being serious (probably not because her boyfriend was with her). I told her I was going to some clubs and to shop. Later as I'm driving my ex calls my cell phone and just rips me a new ***hole saying I did not thank her boyfriend for giving me the 20% off, but instead I rolled my eyes at him. I told her I must have subconsiously rolled my eyes because I kind of remember doing it. Anyways she goes off on me saying that not everyone is as lucky as me with life and that I shouldn't look down upon others when they work in a porn store and that her boyfriend was nice enough to give me the discount and I just rolled my eyes at him. I apoligized and said I never looked down upon him or anyone. She was upset and have not heard from her since, that was 2 days ago. Why didn't she rip me a new ***hole when I was talking to her before, when I was telling her I was going out of town? Why did she wait till I was driving? Does anyone know what she's doing here with the whole wanting me to come to her work in front of her man, then chewing me out later for the eye roll. I feel like she was waiting for me to screw up? Link to post Share on other sites
markraine Posted July 8, 2005 Share Posted July 8, 2005 she's jerking you around man, classic safety valve, she likes having hold of two branches, strictly an ego thing, that way, no matter which one she f%^ks over, she still has something left to hang on to. I'd help expedite the process and get the hell away from her, not call her or anything, she'll get the clue that she can't keep messing with people's heads like that Link to post Share on other sites
NightsEcho Posted July 8, 2005 Share Posted July 8, 2005 Dude, I like ya, you seem like a nice guy. Why don't you take the advice of all the people on here who care for you and do what we have said all along Cut this girl off Link to post Share on other sites
Zaira Posted July 8, 2005 Share Posted July 8, 2005 I agree. Cut her off. Not only does she still want you pining after her, but she wants to make her poor new boyfriend jealous as well. Sounds like he's too good for her too. Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted July 8, 2005 Share Posted July 8, 2005 WTF? She yelled at you for not thanking her BF for giving you a discount on Lube? For Christsake how much could the Lube have been?! If you have the opportunity you may want to tell her that you really needed the lube for the new a**h*** she ripped you over something as petty as this, and the next time you'd like a kiss and perhaps breakfast in the morning before she does so again.. Sheesh! Link to post Share on other sites
Author figgurinoutlife Posted July 8, 2005 Author Share Posted July 8, 2005 Why does she want to make her boyfriend jealous? Link to post Share on other sites
markraine Posted July 8, 2005 Share Posted July 8, 2005 So she can get both of you running around like chickens with your heads cut off, competing for her affection. It'd be funny if both of y'all got together at once and said in unison "SCREW YOU!" Guaranteed to make her mouth drop, she's playing both of you for fools here, trying to see which one tries harder for her affection, of course once that trial is over, the "lucky winner" is guaranteed to go through some other hell. Its not worth it, she's playing games, tell her you're all out of quarters and its time to go home. Link to post Share on other sites
Author figgurinoutlife Posted July 8, 2005 Author Share Posted July 8, 2005 I am definitely not competing for her affection. In fact, I am not competing at all, I am doing nothing to make her think I want her back. I have not called her since she chewed me out last, and I won't either. I still think it's soo strange she wanted me to come to her work and see her puppy, (I already saw it). It's like "why on earth would she want me up there w/her boyfriend?" Would she be acting like this if she really loved him? I know she does though. Her boyfriend doesn't act jealous when I'm around unless he's hiding it, he is actually nice to me. It is like she's a vulcher and she's stooped on the pole watching me, waiting for me to mess up and for me to show a sign that I'm jealous, but should she be SOO mad at me for rolling my eyes? Link to post Share on other sites
Zaira Posted July 8, 2005 Share Posted July 8, 2005 Originally posted by figgurinoutlife I am definitely not competing for her affection. In fact, I am not competing at all, I am doing nothing to make her think I want her back. I have not called her since she chewed me out last, and I won't either. I still think it's soo strange she wanted me to come to her work and see her puppy, (I already saw it). It's like "why on earth would she want me up there w/her boyfriend?" Would she be acting like this if she really loved him? I know she does though. Her boyfriend doesn't act jealous when I'm around unless he's hiding it, he is actually nice to me. It is like she's a vulcher and she's stooped on the pole watching me, waiting for me to mess up and for me to show a sign that I'm jealous, but should she be SOO mad at me for rolling my eyes? Just tell her to sod off. Playing games is for children. Link to post Share on other sites
ggallin13 Posted July 8, 2005 Share Posted July 8, 2005 She's a whack job. Be glad to be rid of her. I know it's hard, but there is no figuring it out. It'll go over, and over, and over in your mind until you are insane, too. Put it in the "what-the-f**k-ever" file and move on. You're lucky to be rid of her. I feel sorry for her new BF and that poor puppy. When she tore you a new a**hole you should have just said, "What? Relax. I just bought some lube. That's all that happened. If you want to freak out go ahead, but leave me out of it." and slammed the phone down. Link to post Share on other sites
Author figgurinoutlife Posted July 8, 2005 Author Share Posted July 8, 2005 yup, she's a flake. She started calling me again after I wrote her and told her I wanted NC. We did NC for 2 months until she started sniffing around and calling. At first she was bitter talking to me, then we talked like friends a few calls later. She came to my friggin door after we started talking again saying her life was "crap" and she seemed to say it was because her "rock" was gone, which was me. She said she had been somewhat happy though, but her life was crap. She said she wanted me help to get things better, and I said I would help her and be her friend now. Now she's pissed at me again! Link to post Share on other sites
fundamental Posted July 9, 2005 Share Posted July 9, 2005 It seems like she was trying to make the both of you jealous and it didn't work. She probably figured that he wouldn't get too upset because he is a "nice" guy. She isn't getting enough attention from him so she is trying to cause havoc. You acted like you didn't care--which is a good thing--and went on your way. It's time for you to cut her off. Next time she calls, thank her for the huge discount because without it, you would not ever be able to afford a bottle of lube....then hang up. Link to post Share on other sites
mixwell Posted July 9, 2005 Share Posted July 9, 2005 Why dont you tell her to piss off.... Why do you continue to go through this ? when are you going to get it in your head.. she is just playing head games.. just cut her off and avoid her. whats with you man ? STOP THIS NOW !! you seem like a nice guy and you don't deserve this shiz.. cmon think about it now !!! STOP IT !!! STOP IT !!! STOP IT !!! ok take care oh yeah and STOP IT !!! Peace PS. STOP IT !!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author figgurinoutlife Posted July 9, 2005 Author Share Posted July 9, 2005 Well, it seems she has cut me off!! Guess I pissed her off or she's dead, because she has not tried to call since she told me off, and believe me I won't call her! Link to post Share on other sites
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