katiegrl Posted October 2, 2016 Share Posted October 2, 2016 (edited) Men who use emojis .... still haven't figured out how I feel about this. Normally I don't like much, but there was one guy I was chatting with via email who used them a lot.... and I liked it. But I also liked *him* so maybe that's why. Now there another guy I met who uses and I don't like much... so I guess it depends on the guy using and how you feel about *him*? Thoughts? By the way, I use them a lot, to me they are kind of a *girly* thing. Except like I said when the one guy I was chatting with used, I liked it! Edited October 2, 2016 by katiegrl Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted October 2, 2016 Share Posted October 2, 2016 I use the egg plant one with a few others when texting my wife I have an aversion to LOL.. unless it is used sparingly... I don't know if it tells you anything about a guy other than he might not get how dumb a text with tons of smileys comes across... Link to post Share on other sites
Author katiegrl Posted October 2, 2016 Author Share Posted October 2, 2016 I use the egg plant one with a few others when texting my wife I have an aversion to LOL.. unless it is used sparingly... I don't know if it tells you anything about a guy other than he might not get how dumb a text with tons of smileys comes across... Yeah my ex HATED the LOL too. lol (sorry) Curious what don't you like about it? There is also XD that indicates funny too. Are you okay with that? I agree about too many emojis looking rather dumb, and that is how I feel now with this new guy. But again ....with the other guy, I liked it!! But I really liked *him* so perhaps that is the difference. Interesting when I think about it. Link to post Share on other sites
Gloria25 Posted October 2, 2016 Share Posted October 2, 2016 I don't think it's a girly thing...actually, until this thread, I didn't think anything about a guy who uses them Now, back in the day when I used to chat on AOL message boards in real time, yea, I hated people who literally chatted with endless emoticons. Ridiculous... I mean, each sentence barely had a word in it or no words at all, just pure emoticons or use of symbols to make up emoticons. Link to post Share on other sites
losangelena Posted October 2, 2016 Share Posted October 2, 2016 I literally do not care if a man uses emojis or not. Is he kind? Is he funny? Does he have half a brain? Yes, then he can send me an effing novel-ful of emojis, I don't give a crap. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted October 2, 2016 Share Posted October 2, 2016 It's generally a sign of gender confusion, often subconscious. 7 Link to post Share on other sites
madjac74 Posted October 2, 2016 Share Posted October 2, 2016 Yeah my ex HATED the LOL too. lol (sorry) Curious what don't you like about it? The fact that most people end every sentence with "lol" as if it were an exclamation point. I refuse to use "lol". If I actually do laugh I use "haha" or Link to post Share on other sites
Aniela Posted October 2, 2016 Share Posted October 2, 2016 I don't think I've ever judged someone on this. Unless passive-aggressive smilies are used, but that isn't gender-specific, and isn't a big deal. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author katiegrl Posted October 2, 2016 Author Share Posted October 2, 2016 (edited) Yeah, I think my dislike of them with new guy is cause I just don't like *him* all that much and am looking for ****. Time to next I guess. As I said, with other guy who used, I *did* like. Thought some of them were pretty funny! Especially when used in context. My ex never used at all! Nor did few guys I dated after him. So this emoji thing is all new for me. Edited October 2, 2016 by katiegrl Link to post Share on other sites
central Posted October 2, 2016 Share Posted October 2, 2016 Emojis are part of modern culture - nothing wrong with using them moderately to emphasize a point, especially if the context is vague and they help clarify the intent. Using a lot - not so much! That goes for women, too. Too many emojis make me think that the person isn't intelligent enough to express themselves properly in words. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
normal person Posted October 2, 2016 Share Posted October 2, 2016 Men who use emojis .... still haven't figured out how I feel about this. Normally I don't like much, but there was one guy I was chatting with via email who used them a lot.... and I liked it. I never use them, they come off as effeminate to me. Even if you don't think that way as a guy (which is fine), you always run the risk of texting a girl who does think so. There's no benefit to using them, only downside. If you can't communicate your idea without them, or the person isn't capable of understanding you without them, something might be awry. But I also liked *him* so maybe that's why. Usually if you like someone, you'll find ways to rationalize or overlook their flaws. Link to post Share on other sites
Gloria25 Posted October 2, 2016 Share Posted October 2, 2016 It's generally a sign of gender confusion, often subconscious. I knoooow.... Especially if they use the one with kissy lips... Ok, I'm joking. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gloria25 Posted October 2, 2016 Share Posted October 2, 2016 The fact that most people end every sentence with "lol" as if it were an exclamation point. I refuse to use "lol". If I actually do laugh I use "haha" or Ok, I just checked the texting dictionary and could not find "haha". I highly recommend you consider using lol... Ok, just joking... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author katiegrl Posted October 2, 2016 Author Share Posted October 2, 2016 (edited) I never use them, they come off as effeminate to me. Even if you don't think that way as a guy (which is fine), you always run the risk of texting a girl who does think so. There's no benefit to using them, only downside. If you can't communicate your idea without them, or the person isn't capable of understanding you without them, something might be awry. --- **Usually if you like someone, you'll find ways to rationalize or overlook their flaws. ^^ Oh I agree, except with him I didn't see it is as a *flaw* I was overlooking. I actually thought they were funny! HE was funny! Made me laugh, smile... and they made sense in context. Did not come off as effeminate at all....omg hardly! lol With this new guy, they just seem silly. Oh well, not gonna stress about it. I figure sometimes I will like and sometimes I won't! Depending how they're used and how much I like him. Thanks! Edited October 2, 2016 by katiegrl Link to post Share on other sites
Author katiegrl Posted October 2, 2016 Author Share Posted October 2, 2016 (edited) It's generally a sign of gender confusion, often subconscious. Hmmm, gender confusion? Interesting theory, in what way? Would you elaborate on that? I am inclined *not* to agree unless as Gloria said he is using the kissey lips! Haha lol Never had a guy use those, thank goodness! Edited October 2, 2016 by katiegrl Link to post Share on other sites
Author katiegrl Posted October 2, 2016 Author Share Posted October 2, 2016 (edited) Just read a great article in the New York Times' Men's Style section called "Should Grown Men Use Emoji?" Great article, I cannot link from my tablet but will later when I get on PC. And no it has nothing to do with gender confusion according to article. In fact Reddit.com gave men using them a thumbs up! Suggesting that a man who is actually very secure in his masculinity would be more inclined to use! Interesting! Will link later. Edited October 2, 2016 by katiegrl 1 Link to post Share on other sites
NuevoYorko Posted October 3, 2016 Share Posted October 3, 2016 Whoa. I never imagined that a man is judged by some based on his use, or lack of use of emojis. A whole new concept to ponder. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
normal person Posted October 3, 2016 Share Posted October 3, 2016 Men typically communicate to exchange information, women more often communicate to bond. So that's something to consider when thinking about predispositions to use emojis or not. This question reminds me of the one that asks whether or not grown men should wear shorts. Some men wear shorts and see no problem with it, others will never and swear it makes men look less dignified, like children. I think it's more popular with the younger crowd. Sort of like "selfies," I never understood why people take them and are so obsessed with the practice, but I definitely see more younger people doing it. I certainly don't have any contempt for men who decide to use them, but it's not something I'd do. I've just never felt compelled to, it just seems childish to me. I've had discussions with women my age (27+) about male emoji use and responses generally range from "yeah, it's a little weird" to "definitely not a fan." I've also noticed a lot more emoji use in younger girls than older ones. Just read a great article in the New York Times' Men's Style section called "Should Grown Men Use Emoji?" http://www.nytimes.com/2015/04/03/fashion/mens-style/should-grown-men-use-emoji.html There are some other opinion pieces on it which talk about things mentioned in this thread, which may or may not be worth reading: Why Grown Men Should Never Use Emoticons - Beer. Humor. Fun. - SloshSpot.com https://goodmenproject.com/ethics-values/emoji-and-the-policing-of-masculinity-inside-the-conversation-gmp/ It's a mixed bag of opinions. And no it has nothing to do with gender confusion according to article. In fact Reddit.com gave men using them a thumbs up! I'm not certain but I think the Reddit crowd skews very young. After some thought, I wonder if the question is just as, or more pertinent to, age. Young people of both genders as well as older women seem to be fine with them, but older men are the only ones whose use of them is sometimes seen as disconcerting. Link to post Share on other sites
hippychick3 Posted October 3, 2016 Share Posted October 3, 2016 It can be overused by both genders. But with the RIGHT guy, the use of emojis can be funny and cute and attractive. With the wrong guy, it's very annoying. My BF is major alpha type male in personality and looks: very confident & assertive, tall & muscular with deep voice...nothing effeminate about him at ALL. He uses emojis and I've never found it weird. They're cute and funny and FUN when he uses them. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted October 3, 2016 Share Posted October 3, 2016 They're not only girly, they're little girly. So is writing hearts over your i's and drawing smiley faces on your signature. Teenage and below, and girly. Link to post Share on other sites
Author katiegrl Posted October 3, 2016 Author Share Posted October 3, 2016 Whoa. I never imagined that a man is judged by some based on his use, or lack of use of emojis. A whole new concept to ponder. Oh I think it's par for the course in those early stages. When one isn't really attracted to or into another, I think it's fairly common to go looking for **** to justify nexting. Not that any justification is necessary... but I have been known (especially when I was MUCH younger like early 20s) to next a guy because I didn't like his shoes! Not particular proud to admit that, but it was just an excuse I came up to justify nexting him. And we all judge, whether consciously or not. Par for the course. As for this new guy I have been dating and chatting with, I don't like him... I am not attracted to him so cut it off. But as far as men using emoji in general.... after reading that article I have a whole new admiration for men who use them! Link to post Share on other sites
SwordofFlame Posted October 3, 2016 Share Posted October 3, 2016 I only use them when the woman uses them. However, I never use them more than the woman though. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author katiegrl Posted October 3, 2016 Author Share Posted October 3, 2016 It can be overused by both genders. But with the RIGHT guy, the use of emojis can be funny and cute and attractive. With the wrong guy, it's very annoying. Thank you! This was precisely my point. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author katiegrl Posted October 3, 2016 Author Share Posted October 3, 2016 (edited) They're not only girly, they're little girly. So is writing hearts over your i's and drawing smiley faces on your signature. Teenage and below, and girly. LOL yeah that's a little much. I limit mine to the occasional smiley face, wink, and my favorite, tongue sticking out! If a guy started sending me the kissey lips or even this :love:... I'd probably get a little freaked! Edited October 3, 2016 by katiegrl 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SwordofFlame Posted October 3, 2016 Share Posted October 3, 2016 Just wanted to add that emojis sometimes don't do a good job at conveying someone's personality. I went on a few dates with a woman who initially used lots of emojis through text, but in person was far less animated and facially expressive so to speak... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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