Consensus On Men Who Use Emojis

[katiegrl]

Just wanted to add that emojis sometimes don't do a good job at conveying someone's personality. I went on a few dates with a woman who initially used lots of emojis through text, but in person was far less animated and facially expressive so to speak...

 

That happened to me too, many years ago when I did OLD.

 

Was chatting with this guy over email and he pulled me right in.

 

On line he had the most gregarious, fun and outgoing personality ever!

 

But when I met him, he was a total dud. Like two entirely different people, it was weird.

 

I went out with him a few times too.... thinking he may be shy in person... and wanted to give it (him) a chance.

 

But nothing changed, that was the "real" him. His on line personality was a facade.

 

He stalked me too after I ended it, that was REALLY weird. lol

 

But since then I am convinced that some people have two different personalities.

 

Their on line personality and their real life personality.

 

That is why I am such a huge advocate of meeting in person first, before allowing yourself to become too invested.

 

You just never know, no matter how long you have been communicating on line.

Edited October 3, 2016 by katiegrl

[Shepp]

I use emojis a lot actually! Probably one per text/whatsapp.

 

I don't like lines of emojis though

:laugh::p:laugh: Isn't needed haha! I don't like it from either gender but it is more of 'girly' thing I guess!

And I'd don't really send just emojis on their own... except sometimes i'll send the missus a kissy face and she'll send me the middle finger one

 

I don't think I've ever judged someone on this. Unless passive-aggressive smilies are used, but that isn't gender-specific, and isn't a big deal.

haha yes! They are the worst!!! Don't be a jerk and finish it

[deep_night]

my boyfriend does use emoticons sometimes, but never stickers. just one specific sticker that's an inside joke we have, and even this happens rarely. on the other hand i send him girly stickers all the time, without any trace of dignity ;p

[Tribble]

I don't really mind either way. I quite like it when a guy uses them. I use them a lot myself. Mainly to confirm when I'm joking or to convey an emotion that would come across in my facial expression if we were talking face to face. But I have lots of conversations over text so I guess that's one reason I like them. My new guy has sent me kissy ones haha. But I like it, it's like a good night kiss. I like that he's secure enough to do that and I know him quite well. With someone I'd just met, it would be weird!

[august14]

I think everything is fine in moderation, although now that I think about it I really hate people who choose to be grammatically correct when they text and wouldn't miss a punctuation mark.

[katiegrl]

I think everything is fine in moderation, although now that I think about it I really hate people who choose to be grammatically correct when they text and wouldn't miss a punctuation mark.

 

LOL I am a little bit like that actually.

 

Working on it though!

[amaysngrace]

I think emojis are cute and bitmojis are better especially when they look like the dude but FaceTime is best ?

[planning4later]

It's generally a sign of gender confusion, often subconscious.

 

?

 

Ten letters.

[Miss Peach]

I like them. I like getting hearts, kisses, etc. from men.

[GorillaTheater]

They're not only girly, they're little girly. So is writing hearts over your i's and drawing smiley faces on your signature. Teenage and below, and girly.

 

 

I'm with you.

[SammySammy]

In the early days of chat, I can remember magazines and newspapers printing articles about emoticons and telling people what they meant.

 

Chatting with just text alone was often misinterpreted because the same words can mean different things depending on how they were delivered. Facial expressions and vocal inflections help us understand what people mean when we communicate. There was never a suggestion that emoticons were only for women. We all use facial expressions when we communicate.

 

I've used emoticons (and eventually emoji) for over 25 years and will continue to do so. The idea they have anything to do with a man's sexuality is relatively new and has no relevance to me.

 

There are millions (possibly billions) of men in this world whose sexuality didn't change because they used an emoticon or emoji. Or several. I'm willing to say no man's sexuality has anything to do with an emoji.

[katiegrl]

I like them. I like getting hearts, kisses, etc. from men.

 

Really? The kissey lips? lol

 

I draw the line at that one... but everything else is pretty much fair game.

 

I love the green-eyed monster one (indicating anger).

 

Not sure why but that one turns me on.

 

I think I will need to explore that!

[Aniela]

LOL I am a little bit like that actually.

 

Working on it though!

 

So am I. Full sentences, commas, capital letters, and emoticons.

[katiegrl]

So am I. Full sentences, commas, capital letters, and emoticons.

 

Thank you for saying that!

 

Yeah I am almost anal about it!

 

Probably cause one of my majors in college was English!

 

And as such, among other things, were graded on punctuation, grammar, etc.

[Miss Peach]

Really? The kissey lips? lol

 

I draw the line at that one... but everything else is pretty much fair game.

 

I love the green-eyed monster one (indicating anger).

 

Not sure why but that one turns me on.

 

I think I will need to explore that!

 

I love that! I had a man the other day send me a really nice thank you for such a great date text. I sent him back a response with smiley faces and kissy faces. He sent me back smiles, blushing, kisses, hearts, etc. I felt really good. He even sent me some emoji flowers and flower pics the next day and that made me smile.

 

I don't like it when a man smothers me but I do like knowing he's interested and had a good time just as he wants to know that stuff from me. As long as he's leading, asking me out, planning dates, etc. I'm not going to feel he's not masculine because of a few kissing emojis.

[katiegrl]

I love that! I had a man the other day send me a really nice thank you for such a great date text. I sent him back a response with smiley faces and kissy faces. He sent me back smiles, blushing, kisses, hearts, etc. I felt really good. He even sent me some emoji flowers and flower pics the next day and that made me smile.

 

I don't like it when a man smothers me but I do like knowing he's interested and had a good time just as he wants to know that stuff from me. As long as he's leading, asking me out, planning dates, etc. I'm not going to feel he's not masculine because of a few kissing emojis.

 

Hey no worries!

 

To each his own, right?

 

Like I said, I like the angry green-eyed monster.

 

Go figure on that one! LoL

[Miss Peach]

Hey no worries!

 

To each his own, right?

 

Like I said, I like the angry green-eyed monster.

 

Go figure on that one! LoL

 

This is why they say there's a lid for every pot.

[normal person]

 

I've used emoticons (and eventually emoji) for over 25 years and will continue to do so. The idea they have anything to do with a man's sexuality is relatively new and has no relevance to me.

 

There are millions (possibly billions) of men in this world whose sexuality didn't change because they used an emoticon or emoji. Or several. I'm willing to say no man's sexuality has anything to do with an emoji.

 

It's all about perception, though. No one's suggesting that a man's sexuality actually changes as a result of emoji use, the issue is regarding how those men come across. You probably don't doubt yourself, because you know yourself. If you type an emoji you're not going stop suddenly and think, "wait, am I gay?"

 

The issue is there are some women out there who might raise their eyebrows at it a little. Kind of like if you just love Britney Spears' music. Liking it doesn't mean anything about your sexuality, but when you tell other people about it, they might think differently. And if they're the person communicating with, you probably care about their perception of you to some extent.

 

I suppose it all comes down to how much you like emojis and how little you care about you're perceived. Personally, I always thought of them as a little childish, as someone said "little kid stickers" or something. That being said, I have similar thoughts about grown men who play video games, are obsessed with sports, dress like children, etc. So maybe I'm not the best gauge to go by. Even from women, I don't care about the occasional, well placed emoji, but if there's one every text (or multiple every text) then I can't help but question her maturity for some reason. I've had this conversation with a girl before and we laughably concluded that she had the perfect rate of usage at 1 emoji per 100 texts. We were joking around, but there was still some element of truth to it.

 

You could probably make a similar argument about exclamation points.

[ChickiePops]

I mean..I'm not the biggest fan of men using emojis but to each his or her own. I wouldn't dump someone for doing it but I might make fun of him gently.

 

My fiancé only uses them when he's teasing me..he is not the emoji-using type.

Edited October 10, 2016 by ChickiePops

[SammySammy]

It's all about perception, though. No one's suggesting that a man's sexuality actually changes as a result of emoji use, the issue is regarding how those men come across. You probably don't doubt yourself, because you know yourself. If you type an emoji you're not going stop suddenly and think, "wait, am I gay?"

 

The issue is there are some women out there who might raise their eyebrows at it a little. Kind of like if you just love Britney Spears' music. Liking it doesn't mean anything about your sexuality, but when you tell other people about it, they might think differently. And if they're the person communicating with, you probably care about their perception of you to some extent.

 

I suppose it all comes down to how much you like emojis and how little you care about you're perceived. Personally, I always thought of them as a little childish, as someone said "little kid stickers" or something. That being said, I have similar thoughts about grown men who play video games, are obsessed with sports, dress like children, etc. So maybe I'm not the best gauge to go by. Even from women, I don't care about the occasional, well placed emoji, but if there's one every text (or multiple every text) then I can't help but question her maturity for some reason. I've had this conversation with a girl before and we laughably concluded that she had the perfect rate of usage at 1 emoji per 100 texts. We were joking around, but there was still some element of truth to it.

 

You could probably make a similar argument about exclamation points.

 

I have to walk in my own truth.

 

If I know using emoji, loving sports, playing video games or using an exclamation point doesn't make me have sex with men, then I can't be concerned about some women's erroneous "perception".

 

No man should take such a woman seriously, much less care about what she thinks.

[normal person]

I have to walk in my own truth.

 

If I know using emoji, loving sports, playing video games or using an exclamation point doesn't make me have sex with men, then I can't be concerned about some women's erroneous "perception".

 

To each their own. You have your own truths, everyone else has theirs as well. Although someone's perceptions might be factually erroneous, to them, it's valid because our "realities" are just whatever we perceive in our own minds.

 

No man should take such a woman seriously, much less care about what she thinks.

 

If you're happy, that's great. But if other peoples' perceptions of you affect your happiness, as is often the case with a lot of posters here (not you, I imagine), then you'll have problems. Let's say there was a 28 year old guy who used tons of emojis all the time and it turned women off, but he never knew why he wasn't successful, and was upset about it. Presumably he'd be happier with women than he would be with emoji use/overuse. If that was the case and it was adversely affecting his life, I'd suggest in that scenario that he care what they think.

 

At the risk of starting a philosophical debate, I don't think there's any "right" or "wrong" way to perceive things. They're just feelings you have that you can't help. If someone has some mannerism or affectation that you turns you off, it's your right to feel that way as it is their right to do it. All it suggests is that it won't be likely you two end up together.

 

If you want to eat with your hands, by all means, do it. Some people won't care. Some people might, but just because they do doesn't mean that person shouldn't be taken seriously, or that you should stop eating with your hands -- unless that person's admiration of you would make you happier than eating with your hands.