Late Nights Posted October 24, 2016 Share Posted October 24, 2016 TBH i would cut her. I have been thru this and shes not worth the pain and headache. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Logo Posted January 4, 2017 Author Share Posted January 4, 2017 TBH i would cut her. I have been thru this and shes not worth the pain and headache. I want to, but why can't I bring myself to do it? It's as though I'm curious. Link to post Share on other sites
Been Posted January 4, 2017 Share Posted January 4, 2017 Because you want to know the why. And really the only thing is she's trash. But your stuck on the why she did it. Why didn't she just be honest with me. Because she's about herself. Link to post Share on other sites
enddeck Posted January 4, 2017 Share Posted January 4, 2017 The reason she is contacting you with meaningless comments is to give other people the idea that you are ok with each other.If people know you are texting or talking with each other then they think she didn't do anything wrong.The only way to stop this in its tracks is to let everyone know she cheated but you aren't going to do that are you. Link to post Share on other sites
kztar Posted January 4, 2017 Share Posted January 4, 2017 People cheat for different reasons. Not that they are excuses but that does not mean that you are not in love or love them. Yes it hurts to be cheated on, however we are not taking into account the feelings of the person cheating. I've been on both sides and honestly they both suck. Being cheated on is no fun , however when I cheated I loved my boyfriend more than anything at the time. The problem was that he was neglecting me in every possible way. Making me feel like I was needy and all these other issues. This and that and honestly that is a turnoff. That KILLS feelings. I wanted to feel good not ugly and neglected and someone else offered me that temporarily. YES I wanted to have my cake and eat it too. I had someone who I had ZERO interest in, yet giving me ALL the attention and compassion that my "boyfriend" wasn't giving me. I tried everything with my boyfriend and it didn't work. I truly loved him but he refuseddddd. I got sick and tired of fighting against the current so I went and did my thing. All physical. Like someone else said sex is different for everyone. Anyhow, that happened and it's done. I'll take that one to the grave though. LOL:D Link to post Share on other sites
Author Logo Posted January 4, 2017 Author Share Posted January 4, 2017 (edited) The reason she is contacting you with meaningless comments is to give other people the idea that you are ok with each other.If people know you are texting or talking with each other then they think she didn't do anything wrong.The only way to stop this in its tracks is to let everyone know she cheated but you aren't going to do that are you. You mean like telling her friends that she cheated on me? Texting them or telling them in person about what she did? Or hang a banner in her front yard that says "Here lives a wh***?" No I haven't done that yet, because I didn't want to stoop to that level. Was I wrong in not doing that Do most people do that? I felt like telling her friends at some point, but my friends told me, what difference would it make? We don't hang out in the same social circles or live in the same town or city anyway. But I had moments where I thought about doing just that. Edited January 4, 2017 by Logo Link to post Share on other sites
Author Logo Posted January 5, 2017 Author Share Posted January 5, 2017 (edited) Because she's about herself. Yes. That much is true. Edited January 5, 2017 by Logo Link to post Share on other sites
Author Logo Posted January 7, 2017 Author Share Posted January 7, 2017 I wonder what would happen if I showed up at her doorstep unannounced. Link to post Share on other sites
dumbass2 Posted January 8, 2017 Share Posted January 8, 2017 You would officially acquire the label of "crazy ex" Link to post Share on other sites
Author Logo Posted January 8, 2017 Author Share Posted January 8, 2017 OK. Skip that. Next option, meet someone new, kind, caring and smart. Link to post Share on other sites
carsrcool Posted January 8, 2017 Share Posted January 8, 2017 I wonder what would happen if I showed up at her doorstep unannounced. You would officially acquire the label of "crazy ex" Yea, the crazy stalker ex. If you go through with that, her friends won't care if she cheated because they will conclude that you "are just crazy and it would have ended anyway." She cheated. Unless you told her up front that you are okay with polygamy, there should be no reason to keep in contact unless you work together or some other similar reason. OK. Skip that. Next option, meet someone new, kind, caring and smart. Yes! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Logo Posted January 8, 2017 Author Share Posted January 8, 2017 Yea, the crazy stalker ex. If you go through with that, her friends won't care if she cheated because they will conclude that you "are just crazy and it would have ended anyway." She cheated. Unless you told her up front that you are okay with polygamy, there should be no reason to keep in contact unless you work together or some other similar reason. Yes! No. There's no working it out together. I can't bring myself to be with her. I won't be able to even look her in the eyes at this point. It would be like living with a cellmate, locked in a small space, wanting to get out, and constantly wondering if you can trust the other person or not. No thanks. I was just fantasizing that maybe in an alternate universe things would have worked out differently. Such a shame. What's with this pendulum of emotions? Link to post Share on other sites
Sweetfish Posted January 8, 2017 Share Posted January 8, 2017 If she cheated... I don't care how much I love her. There is NO second chance. If we break-up and she has sex and comes back in the future... totally different story. But sex with another man while we are together... NOT GOING TO HAPPEN. There is no talk. There is no begging. No we can't work it out. No you didn't make a mistake. Do not pass go. Lets be realistic.. where talking about the average man. Most likely your the average (insert country) man who works 5 days a week or more. If not you will be in the future. If she gets pregnant you will be the provider and father to her kids. If there is a fire or burglar in your home , you will protect them. Most likely you will make the hard decisions in the families life. You will bring in most the money. You will cut the yard, fix the bathtub or pay most the bills. If you divorce she will get half of your stuff and usually 90% custody of children. You most likely will die before her. Most likely you will get a pair of pajama pants for Christmas for your hard work or maybe a nice tie. If your lucky a really cool tool box from Sears. As the man you will plan out the vacations or at least pay for them. You will be responsible for mothers day, her birthday, anniversary and Valentines day. You will foot the bill for the washer machine, dryer, refrigerator and other devices in the house. Is this 100% fact no its not.. but were talking about the average dude here... not the slight percent of relationships that are 50/50. most at minimum are 80/20 NOW ask your self this question? Does a person that cheats MAN or WOMAN deserve your 80%.. Do they deserve your sacrifice to her/him. My answer to this is there is no second chance... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Been Posted January 8, 2017 Share Posted January 8, 2017 I agree with the above poster in the sense does someone that cheats on you deserve you working hard for them?To sacrifice for them? My ex wife cheated on me. I forgave her at first. And for about 3 months she was great. Then around the 4th month my gut was telling me something wasn't right. Sure enough she resumed cheating. Cheating opens too many doors up that don't need to open. It kills trust. And face it. Even if you forgive and move forward the relationship is never and will never be the same. Because people that cheat do it for themselves. And usually they only feel bad about it when they get CAUGHT. And think about that. If you hadn't caught them would they ever have told you? More then likely no. Link to post Share on other sites
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