:(( Dont seem to understand what he really wants, What would you do??

[daisyzee]

Ok so i broke up with my ex 3 months ago bc he cheated on me. he did not stop me from leaving and thats what hurt the most after the break up he would text or call once in a while with simple heys , he would mostly always bring up what happened and said his intentions were never to hurt me and would apologize. He would always ask about the guys iwas talking to and if i was seeing anyone he claims thats none of his buisness anymore and he doesnt care but why bother asking so much if he didnt.

 

Wed stop talking for like two or three weeks then again hed come back we have never stoped talking for more than a month since the breakup its always on and off with him hell contact me then something happens , we stop, i feel like its over and he no longer cares and when i least expect it he comes back. During the begginning of school hed walk up to me ask how i am ect and say little things like "wheres your bf" .

 

Anywho a little during this time he starts snapchating me about how he misses me and how he was rereading our old messages he starts talking sweet and we start texting and this time it actually lasts we talked for a little longer like a week and a half or so he told me he wanted to try again but he knew i would never give him another chance and thats how i would make it seem but deepdown i still loved him and missed him very much i was honest with him and regardless to what he did i told him i would .

 

We tried , but then again we stoped talking he left me on read and i didnt double text because i didnt want to look needy anyway so it stayed like that for a while again with us not talking and i found out he was talking to someone else that completely broke my heart because i thought it was over i thought hed never talk to me again so i tried forgetting about him but it was difficult since he would always and still does somehow end up finding a way to contact me.

 

So a little after he calls me out of no where we start talking and then he starts bringing up about how hes changing for the girl hes talking to and how he cut off everyone for her and thats "shes beautiful" and repeats and keeps talking about her and im sitting there just listening because what am i suppose to say , ill see them kissing at school but he has never seen me see them and it breaks my heart because it makes me feel like its too late and he'll forget about me.

 

Alright so recently hes been trying to snapchat me supposably to start a streak and hes been trying to like three times but i always end up leaving him on open because i feel the more i snapchat him the more iwont be able to get over him. I thought it was over and we werent talking again but a couple days ago once again he comes up to me at school and starts touching my hair on how he likes my new color and starts asking why i always leave him on open and how he wants to start a streak so we started one and just yesterday around 1am he snapchats me telling me we should talk otp we talked for about 4-5 hours and he told me about how he stopped being a player and hes changing im assuming he meant it.

 

bc of his new gf and he starts telling me supposeably he just couldnt sleep because shes "breaking his heart" and he just hopes things will get better i just said o i felt as if he was waiting for a reaction but i didnt give in then he asks "so who are you talking to iknow your talking to someone " and iwas like no one and he says "lie again , i know there must be someone out there you have feelings for" and when he hears my phone vibrating he says "who could be texting u at five in the morning one of your other guys probably , i wish someone could text me at 5am" alright so then he starts talking a bit nasty and were just laughing about it and itell him its not right that i feel bad he keeps asking why and i tell him because his gf is gunna be upset and he says "hahaha not if you dont tell her .

 

Not if this stays between us" and hed bring up past memories too like for example" i remember when we were dating youd get mad because id say this " and So yeah im just confused and i need advice what should i do iwant him back but i just dont know what he wants im so confused were on and off and im afraid his new gf and him are serious and he falls inlove with her ,

 

i have no idea if there is or will ever be a chance i just feel like we ended to soon there was so much more i wanted to do with him and so much more love i couldve gave him i just dont know if its too late?

Edited October 3, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[aloneinaz]

I'm taking this that you're either in HS or college? Either way, most folks with strong self esteem and pride would of dumped a cheater and called it a day. They certainly would not of continued to engage in conversations, texting, seeing each other, etc..

 

It's doubtful that anyone can offer anything to you other than suggest you work on your pride and self worth and stop talking to this guy.

[whatnot]

So a little after he calls me out of no where we start talking and then he starts bringing up about how hes changing for the girl hes talking to and how he cut off everyone for her

HIs new "girl friend" doesn't know he's talking to you.

 

There's things about this guy you feel love for. You see good in this guy. You like him.

 

You can stay or you can go. Just know....this guy is never going to be true to you. You need to know this. Never. Ever.

 

 

 

fwiw....I treated a great woman the same way in college. (We dated 6 years before I began speaking to her about another girl. At the time, I didn't care about "her". My whole life lay in front of me.

 

I didn't know what I had. I was scared. She moved away. We've not spoken in 35 years. I do know she's been married for at least the last 25 years. To this day (I'm 58 years old), to this day....I regret not telling that woman I loved her. She knew me in a way no woman since has ever known me. She accepted me for who I was. (The real me). And...I did to her what this guy is doing to you.

 

You deserve better. And you will find better. Please trust me.

 

Good luck..

[spiderowl]

It sounds really difficult. He's back and forth and you let him. I think if you want to make a go of it with this guy, it's got to be all or nothing. The idea is you tell him that if he wants to be with you, he can, but he gives up other women and he treats you properly.

 

Even if he decides to take you up on this, it's likely he will cheat again. He's been back and forth to you from various women. How are they feeling about that I wonder? It could be that he loved you more than them or (and I suspect this is the case) he respects you more because you dumped him for cheating. If you take him back, the risk is he will do exactly the same again.

[Redhead14]

Ok so i broke up with my ex 3 months ago bc he cheated on me. he did not stop me from leaving and thats what hurt the most after the break up he would text or call once in a while with simple heys , he would mostly always bring up what happened and said his intentions were never to hurt me and would apologize. He would always ask about the guys iwas talking to and if i was seeing anyone he claims thats none of his buisness anymore and he doesnt care but why bother asking so much if he didnt.

 

Wed stop talking for like two or three weeks then again hed come back we have never stoped talking for more than a month since the breakup its always on and off with him hell contact me then something happens , we stop, i feel like its over and he no longer cares and when i least expect it he comes back. During the begginning of school hed walk up to me ask how i am ect and say little things like "wheres your bf" .

 

Anywho a little during this time he starts snapchating me about how he misses me and how he was rereading our old messages he starts talking sweet and we start texting and this time it actually lasts we talked for a little longer like a week and a half or so he told me he wanted to try again but he knew i would never give him another chance and thats how i would make it seem but deepdown i still loved him and missed him very much i was honest with him and regardless to what he did i told him i would .

 

We tried , but then again we stoped talking he left me on read and i didnt double text because i didnt want to look needy anyway so it stayed like that for a while again with us not talking and i found out he was talking to someone else that completely broke my heart because i thought it was over i thought hed never talk to me again so i tried forgetting about him but it was difficult since he would always and still does somehow end up finding a way to contact me.

 

So a little after he calls me out of no where we start talking and then he starts bringing up about how hes changing for the girl hes talking to and how he cut off everyone for her and thats "shes beautiful" and repeats and keeps talking about her and im sitting there just listening because what am i suppose to say , ill see them kissing at school but he has never seen me see them and it breaks my heart because it makes me feel like its too late and he'll forget about me.

 

Alright so recently hes been trying to snapchat me supposably to start a streak and hes been trying to like three times but i always end up leaving him on open because i feel the more i snapchat him the more iwont be able to get over him. I thought it was over and we werent talking again but a couple days ago once again he comes up to me at school and starts touching my hair on how he likes my new color and starts asking why i always leave him on open and how he wants to start a streak so we started one and just yesterday around 1am he snapchats me telling me we should talk otp we talked for about 4-5 hours and he told me about how he stopped being a player and hes changing im assuming he meant it.

 

bc of his new gf and he starts telling me supposeably he just couldnt sleep because shes "breaking his heart" and he just hopes things will get better i just said o i felt as if he was waiting for a reaction but i didnt give in then he asks "so who are you talking to iknow your talking to someone " and iwas like no one and he says "lie again , i know there must be someone out there you have feelings for" and when he hears my phone vibrating he says "who could be texting u at five in the morning one of your other guys probably , i wish someone could text me at 5am" alright so then he starts talking a bit nasty and were just laughing about it and itell him its not right that i feel bad he keeps asking why and i tell him because his gf is gunna be upset and he says "hahaha not if you dont tell her .

 

Not if this stays between us" and hed bring up past memories too like for example" i remember when we were dating youd get mad because id say this " and So yeah im just confused and i need advice what should i do iwant him back but i just dont know what he wants im so confused were on and off and im afraid his new gf and him are serious and he falls inlove with her ,

 

i have no idea if there is or will ever be a chance i just feel like we ended to soon there was so much more i wanted to do with him and so much more love i couldve gave him i just dont know if its too late?

 

You ended it with him! Stick to your guns. If he was really serious about you, he wouldn't be doing this teetering BS, he'd be at your door on his knees.

 

I am not in the habit of allowing someone else to decide what happens with MY life. I even suspect that someone is weighing me as an OPTION, I remove that option.

 

If the relationship is on and off and there is another woman involved, he's a morON and you should be OFF having fun with other people and cutting him out of your life -- block, delete.

[aloneinaz]

 

I am not in the habit of allowing someone else to decide what happens with MY life. I even suspect that someone is weighing me as an OPTION, I remove that option.

 

 

This ^^^^^^^^