nubbs360 Posted October 4, 2016 Share Posted October 4, 2016 Hey guys my name is Jay and my girl broke up with me 2 months ago and has been hot and cold when i have talked to her over the time of the break up. Last night she said she wanted nothing to do with me right now. She likes someone else but when she is with him she says" i come up in here mind 9 out of 10 times so she trying disconnect with me to see what she wants. should i proceed to get her in the near future or is it done? also shes been telling me she im not ready for anything right now i need time to heal? is she meaning healing to see with me or someone else? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ZayKayWill Posted October 4, 2016 Share Posted October 4, 2016 You need to elaborate a little more. Your post....doesn't make a lot of sense. Not sure what's even going on. Link to post Share on other sites
Author nubbs360 Posted October 4, 2016 Author Share Posted October 4, 2016 You need to elaborate a little more. Your post....doesn't make a lot of sense. Not sure what's even going on. My fault im a mess right now. She likes someone else right now but still thinks about me when she is with him what do i do? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ZayKayWill Posted October 4, 2016 Share Posted October 4, 2016 That's a difficult situation to be in. She says she wants space but at the same time she still shows affection to you. Honestly if I was you I would just let it go. It's not fair to you that she's confusing you like this. If you care about her that mucb and don't want to lose her, then I guess there's no reason to at least try to win her back. Just be careful because she may not change her mind leaving you with a broken heart. Sorry that I couldn't give you a more black and white answer here, but hey, love never is black and white. Always will be complicated. Sorry you gotta go thru with this but you'll figure out what to do. Good luck bro. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author nubbs360 Posted October 4, 2016 Author Share Posted October 4, 2016 Thank you i am so confused cause i love the girl too much and its like she tells me these things but at the same time she wants me to be happy with someone else if that happens for me. all she ever talk about is if were meant to be we will find each other time will tell bull**** smh. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted October 4, 2016 Share Posted October 4, 2016 My fault im a mess right now. She likes someone else right now but still thinks about me when she is with him *what do i do? Hey guys my name is Jay and my girl broke up with me 2 months ago and has been hot and cold when i have talked to her over the time of the break up. *Last night she said she wanted nothing to do with me right now. She likes someone else but when she is with him she says" i come up in here mind 9 out of 10 times so she trying disconnect with me to see what she wants. should i proceed to get her in the near future or is it done? also shes been telling me she im not ready for anything right now i need time to heal? is she meaning healing to see with me or someone else? *There's nothing you can do. Leave here to her own devices, and get on with your life. I'm a bit concerned that you're not maintaining your dignity and self-respect. Do you really want to be with a woman who's pursuing someone else; who says "she wants nothing to do with you right now?" Believe it or not, your dignity and self-respect are more important than the affections of your ex. Please give that some thought. Take care. Link to post Share on other sites
Author nubbs360 Posted October 4, 2016 Author Share Posted October 4, 2016 The reason why she wants nothing to do with me is because i keep asking what should be done. also keep asking when will she heal and if she still loves me. i keep pushing her away with my words but its like i cant stop asking cause i want to hear the right answer and thats not fair to her i guess. its been 2 months i have not given her time to heal. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted October 4, 2016 Share Posted October 4, 2016 The reason why she wants nothing to do with me is because i keep asking what should be done. also keep asking when will she heal and if she still loves me. i keep pushing her away with my words but its like i cant stop asking cause i want to hear the right answer and thats not fair to her i guess. its been 2 months i have not given her time to heal. I'm going to be very blunt now... The relationship is over, but she's keeping you on the back burner, in case the thing with the other guy falls through. If it works out, you will be dropped like a hot potato. Here's a clipping from my journal: There is nothing you can do to make her come back, if she doesn't of her own free will, want to. Not long letters of apology. Not tears. Not begging and pleading. Not buying roses. Not 'fighting for the relationship.' Not writing poems. Etc... Leave her totally alone. It is possible that she'll miss you, and want you back. It is also possible that she won't. Do nothing. No contact. Take care. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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