queenie01 Posted July 8, 2005 Share Posted July 8, 2005 Why is it that exs have to often resurface? I feel like mine emails me whenever im getting close to being over him... WHAT IS THE POINT??? Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted July 8, 2005 Share Posted July 8, 2005 To keep his options open, and his Ego fed... You're a sweet girl Queenie I really believe eventually there is going to be a time when this assclown emails you and it's going to suprise the both of you when you really don't care... Hang in there Girl Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted July 8, 2005 Share Posted July 8, 2005 Originally posted by queenie01 Why is it that exs have to often resurface? Better target for torpedoing Link to post Share on other sites
Author queenie01 Posted July 8, 2005 Author Share Posted July 8, 2005 Thanks guys....i hope you are right and for now I think I am going to disappear again, change my gym schedule and avoid him at all costs and if in fact he does email me again i am going to ignore it. After all he hurt me and right now he is living the best of both worlds....he can see me at the gym whenever he wants and he also emails me whenever he feels the need to talk and when i respond he decides when to stop the email communication...whatever!! He needs to just leave me be! Link to post Share on other sites
Author queenie01 Posted August 19, 2005 Author Share Posted August 19, 2005 Ok im bringing this topic up again because i just cant quite figure out why the exs have to resurface. Why cant they just leave well enough alone! My ex emails me to see how im doing and how my family is doing? why? then he asks if im dating anyone? Why does he care, if he moved on he shouldnt! Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted August 19, 2005 Share Posted August 19, 2005 If you block his email and phone number, you won't have to worry about it anymore - because you'll be continuing to move on - uninterrupted. Link to post Share on other sites
Author queenie01 Posted August 19, 2005 Author Share Posted August 19, 2005 Its not that easy, i work for a corporation and they dont allow us to block email addresses. I just wish i understood why he does this tho, i am fine, i am living my life to the fullest - no joke! He is the one who inquires about everything and he will usually contact me about every 3 weeks.... If his life was so great he should have no desire to care about my life. Link to post Share on other sites
J dub Posted August 19, 2005 Share Posted August 19, 2005 I think its for "insurance" Link to post Share on other sites
New_Wife Posted August 19, 2005 Share Posted August 19, 2005 If you have Outlook, you can still create a rule to dump his emails directly into the trash instead of ever hitting your inbox. They should put that in their advertising, really. "Outlook - we help you avoid buttheads" Link to post Share on other sites
sundrop Posted August 19, 2005 Share Posted August 19, 2005 They want to keep their options open. Also you can always delete the emails before readig them , don't open them up as though as that would be. (easy for me to type hard for me to do myself) Link to post Share on other sites
JS17 Posted August 19, 2005 Share Posted August 19, 2005 curiosity? unresolved issues? Link to post Share on other sites
Jeannie Posted August 20, 2005 Share Posted August 20, 2005 My ex resurfaced after I dumped him and told me "We both know it's not really over". Being the self absorbed narcisstic idiot he is - I had to reassure him "There is no WE here dude - the only "we" is you and your ego unable to accept it's over.....". Basically his ego couldn't take rejection. All those times he bragged "You'll never leave me" hit him in the face. He's probably still saying "She'll be back - I'm Mr. Wonderful - she can't live without me". Last thing on earth I'd ever do is call him or go back - he's a slimeball and a cup of grease. When I think of him the only thing that comes to mind his him sitting on his toilet with his pants around his ankles and a Swank magazine on the floor staring up at him. Major turnoff - I've done buried the dead and moved on! Bleeechhhhh.......... Most of the time they resurface just to see if you're still interested. My theory on breakups is make sure before you breakup that it's what you really want - if not, don't break up. If so break up and give it a proper burial. Link to post Share on other sites
JS17 Posted August 21, 2005 Share Posted August 21, 2005 uch, I am the worst at breakups. One of my recent ex's keeps resurfacing via email and I'm so bad at cutting him off, I just get sucked back in. It just goes from us being mean to each other to apologizing to each other to being mean to each other again. I feel so torn even though neither of us want a romantic relationship with each other. I hate it when these things get messy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author queenie01 Posted August 22, 2005 Author Share Posted August 22, 2005 I agree that they resurface just to keep our interest...I really dont think my ex has moved on yet...if he had he wouldnt be emailing me concerned about how ive been and my familys doing. Sure its a nice gesture but come on! If he found some new fabolous girl he wouldnt care whether i am dating anyone or not. I dont think hes dating anyone, therefore the wants to keep his options open with me..basically keep my interest. Link to post Share on other sites
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