azwe Posted October 7, 2016 Share Posted October 7, 2016 So I've known this girl for a year before we started dating. We met at this summer camp and we started out just as FWB. We both went into it with the idea of no commitment just FWB. Then she caught feelings and as did I, we spent 3 months together all day every day and fell madly in love with each other. We clicked way to well, we treated each other with such compassion, and we were there for each other whenever either of us were upset. We obviously had something special. We were LDR only about an hour and a half - two hour drive and we would see each other every weekend-every other weekend, sometimes being together for a week. We were so happy together, we would both be so upset and sad about having to leave each other for the short period of time. We ended up breaking up a few days ago because she said she isn't ready for a relationship. She went on to say "right person, wrong time. it's a ****ty cliche but its true." We were best friends before this all happened and we don't want to lose each other. We both have said that we miss each other and don't want to lose each other. She has said she loved me as a person and has very strong feelings for me its just not the right time in her life. She has had problems in her life where when she gets to comfortable and happy her mind will play tricks on her and make her believe what shes saying makes sense. We have a mutual friend at the camp who goes to the same school as her and talks to her daily and agrees she's just being stubborn and believe well work out eventually. I truly love her, and know she loves me. but what does she mean when she says shes not ready for a relationship? she's admitted that we were meant for each other how can she not be ready for this. Is there any chance we can reconnect and get back together? I'll be seeing her at the camp again in a week, I've been doing the LC/NC but I've been struggling with this whole thing and I see she posts stuff on Social Media about "craving the presence of someone" "once you get the taste of sleeping with the one you love, and you go back to sleeping alone sucks" all those type of things. I plan on talking to her at the camp where we fell for each other and just talk about how we were meant for each other its right person right time now. We can grow together. And I would write her a letter (she hates technology, and would appreciate the letter) explaining why we are meant to be. Our love. etc all that stuff. So what does she mean when she says all those things? The not being ready, wanting to find herself, the distance. (we won't be LD forever) Is there any chance of us getting back together? We love each other and are best friends and right person, wrong time. Please any advice, opinions, everything will be helpful. Link to post Share on other sites
cucumber95 Posted October 7, 2016 Share Posted October 7, 2016 I think she wants to enjoy life as single? experience new things maybe? how old are you both? Link to post Share on other sites
Author azwe Posted October 7, 2016 Author Share Posted October 7, 2016 I think she wants to enjoy life as single? experience new things maybe? how old are you both? I am 21, she's 20. Yes I know we are young but I've never been this upset about a relationship until her. I've never looked online for advice or help. (Not that it's bad) I just know she's the one. Link to post Share on other sites
cucumber95 Posted October 7, 2016 Share Posted October 7, 2016 I know how you feel, I have same thing with my ex, I know she is the one but there is no chance I am getting her back... my advice would be to give her time and space. I did not give it to my GF and now she is my ex... Link to post Share on other sites
Ace of Pace Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 I think there is a salt of truth to the right person, wrong time quip considering how young she is but most likely she simply lost her attraction to you. You probably didn't do anything wrong but your ex most likely saw flaws in you during your time together that were simply unattractive and they were enough for her to break things. I bet she also felt constrained during the relationship. And does she still love you? If she did would she unceremoniously dump you like that? Think about it. So what do you do? i suggest you go completely NC (no contact) immediately for at least one month. No letters, no texts, no spying on her through mutual friends, nothing. Completely avoid her at all costs. Use the time to reflect and figure out why this happened. Try to improve on those things and also accept that she moved on and that you should move on as well. After that if you still want her back then try to start a new relatioship with her. Link to post Share on other sites
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