Rebecca34 Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 I've been married for 10 years and have two beautiful kids. My marriage is very unhappy. My hubby is an amazing dad but a clueless husband. I'm a stay at home mom and bring no money in. I'm scared I won't be able to survive if I leave. I have no clue how to go about things. So scary. I'd love some advice. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 I'm unfamiliar with divorce laws in Canada but here in California when we divorced had my exW been unemployed or a SAHM or similar (she wasn't) she could have made motions to the court for interim support during the divorce process and more permanent support after dissolution. She also, if she had filed (she did but paid the fees because of not qualifying for waivers) and was also financially disadvantaged, could have received help from the court with filing and service fees. How will you live? Often by the skin of your teeth. After our D, there was plenty of times I eyed the cat and his food and was thinking I might want some of that. Pickin's were pretty slim but hey I signed on for that potential when getting married so it was what it was. Perhaps you can describe what a 'clueless husband' is. I've heard my exW's version and plenty from MW's over the decades but each marriage and version is unique. My short version is, if there's no love left, file and tough the D out and move on. If there is any love left, any, find a way. Look at your kids and your spouse and into the mirror and find a way. Welcome to LS 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 Perhaps you can describe what a 'clueless husband' is. I've heard my exW's version and plenty from MW's over the decades but each marriage and version is unique. My short version is, if there's no love left, file and tough the D out and move on. If there is any love left, any, find a way. Look at your kids and your spouse and into the mirror and find a way. Welcome to LS Agreed, more info would be helpful. While there's probably no excuse for being "clueless", many of the things women prize in a relationship don't come easily to some guys. What have you done to clue him in ??? Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
S2B Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 I've been married for 10 years and have two beautiful kids. My marriage is very unhappy. My hubby is an amazing dad but a clueless husband. I'm a stay at home mom and bring no money in. I'm scared I won't be able to survive if I leave. I have no clue how to go about things. So scary. I'd love some advice. See an attorney or visit the help desk at your local courthouse to gather correct info for your area and situation. You could really get a lot of inaccurate info polling random people - ask a professional in your area. Link to post Share on other sites
Pete2304 Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 I've been married for 10 years and have two beautiful kids. My marriage is very unhappy. My hubby is an amazing dad but a clueless husband. I'm a stay at home mom and bring no money in. I'm scared I won't be able to survive if I leave. I have no clue how to go about things. So scary. I'd love some advice. Rather than take the see a solicitor advice straight away, what's actually wrong? Are you unhappy because you don't love him any more? Are you unhappy because you think he doesn't love you? Have a rant on here if necessary. I have no idea why the relationship you have with your husband is at breaking point because you haven't said much but the fact that he's a good dad says that he's obviously not all bad. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Lowrider93 Posted October 9, 2016 Share Posted October 9, 2016 Someone once told me in regards to having a relationship with a man, She said some are holes, and others are *********s. No one is perfect, what are his major shortcomings? Peace Link to post Share on other sites
Just a Guy Posted October 9, 2016 Share Posted October 9, 2016 Hi Rebecca, you have'nt mentioned a word about what it is that is really wrong with your marriage. Saying that your husband is 'clueless' is hardly sufficient for the good folk on here to be able to give you any meaningful advice about your marriage. Are you having or on the verge of having an affair? Is that why you find your husband clueless? Is he having an affair? Is he emotionally or physically abusive? Ate you simply checked out of the marriage and it has nothing yo do with your husband? There are umpteen possible scenarios which could be the cause of your disenchanent and you would have to amplify on the ones that are impacting your marriage to be able to allow the folk on here to offer advice. Cheers. Link to post Share on other sites
Logan787 Posted October 10, 2016 Share Posted October 10, 2016 Describe why he is a bad husband? Link to post Share on other sites
William Posted October 10, 2016 Share Posted October 10, 2016 Folks, this looks like a drive-by so I'll close it up pending the thread starter's return and engagement. Thanks for your responses! Link to post Share on other sites
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