Worry Posted July 8, 2005 Share Posted July 8, 2005 Hi, I just started a LDR w/ my bf whom I've been with for only 8 months, I will be away for 6 months and will be back in town in Dec. However, with all my past LDR experience, I Felt that it's just so hard to make it work once we're so far away, the trust issue and the loneiness that makes it even harder. He'll be visiting though in two weeks, and I am very glad, but at the same time I'm so afraid that I am having all my hopes up and that eventually during this 6 months he'll get used to not having me around and eventually losing his feeling for me. I have questioned his feelings so much I know I'm already annoying him. I'm new to this place, and it's like 5 hours flight away from my home, which makes me homesick with no friends around. I'm just wondering if anyone can give me suggestion on how I can maintain the relationship without having to worry so much? I guess in the back of my head I'm always thinking we'll be over, and lately we argue so much as well. I am now trying to give him more space and trying not to question as much. During the last 8 months we did have lots of arguments and fights and emotional up and downs but most of the time we're very happy, at least that's what he's been telling me. I guess I kindda know what i should and should not do but it's just difficuilt to make it happen, I am just very concern. Link to post Share on other sites
Lilyann Posted July 10, 2005 Share Posted July 10, 2005 You have to be willing to trust - without it you have nothing. Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted July 10, 2005 Share Posted July 10, 2005 Relax, have faith in your love, trust him, and don't fight with him! Everything will be good when you get back together in Dec. Link to post Share on other sites
kitchwitch Posted July 30, 2005 Share Posted July 30, 2005 Communication! I know that everyone says trust, trust, trust...that's something you have or don't, I think. And I don't think that it's nearly as important as the ability to maintain communication and respect for the other person outside of "being yours". My husband is a mariner gone 8-10mos/yr. I stay home and raise our children. Before this, we were military. His absence doesn't make me love him any less or more...it just is what it is. It is his job. We email every day and talk on the phone whenever he is in port. I think it's important that way you don't feel out of the loop in each other's lives. Let's face it, life goes on whether you/he are there or gone. But if you can still feel like you are a part of one another's lives and respect that person, even in their absence, it can work. We've been doing it for years. Best of luck. j Link to post Share on other sites
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