ladnov2 Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 My husband cheated on me and we have been separated for less than a year. I just found out that his lease was up and he didn't want to live alone so he contacted one of my sisters and made arrangements to live with her and her husband and young son. I found out about it one day before he moved in, after I got suspicious and confronted them about it. A few years ago, my sister purchased a house that was too big for her small family. She lied on her mortgage application to get the house and now she is close to foreclosure. She doesn't want to lose the house so she decided to rent a room out to him. When I confronted her, she said she did it to help him out (My ex makes more money than my sister and her husband together). I asked her how could she say she did it to help him out when he told me that she was struggling with her mortgage and him moving in would help them stay afloat? When I confronted my ex about it, he told me, "You said you didn't want to take me back so I had to move on." How is that moving on??? He knew my sister and I were not on the best terms since we had a disagreement a few years ago and I spilled my heart out to him when it occurred so I wouldn't doubt this was done out of spite. The whole thing shocked me. It's not like they were close during our marriage. We all knew that my ex was a chronic liar who talks his and other people's business whenever given the opportunity. My sister would always make negative comments about his constant lying to me during the years we were married. The two of them don't even have a relationship except the one or two holiday gatherings at my or her home when we were married and an occasional happy birthday text twice a year. Yet, when I confronted my sister about it she said she sees him more like a brother than she sees me a sister. I come from a family of a lot of sisters and, except for one or two of us, we are not close, we all have our issues and usually disagree when we're together but we've never been enemies. So hearing this was shocking and hurtful. Does anyone else think that it was wrong/inappropriate for my sister to welcome him into her home during our separation/divorce? She said since she didn't know the details behind our separation, she felt it was ok to take him in. I didn't realize I had to tell her my whole life story about my marriage for her to understand why she should support her sister. Only my mother and one of my sisters knew the gross details about my separation and other than that I kept it private. Everyone knows that divorces can be ugly. I'm bracing myself as I believe that if he can pull that one, who know what else he wouldn't do? Link to post Share on other sites
Lowrider93 Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 Unfortunately what you think is right in this situation doesn't really matter, as you said you and your sister are not really on good terms and what your husband does with his life is out of your control. Your sister is going to do whatever she needs to do to keep her house regardless of how you feel. Take care 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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