Nadine123 Posted October 10, 2016 Posted October 10, 2016 Hi everyone For the people who dont know my story (my boyfriend begged me to go back to him after a break up to then ghost me). I am starting to feel alot better but Ive noticed during the last month that his best friend has been all over my social media. I know this might sound stupid to many of you but for example, she wouldnt add me on facebook but she's following me instead (really weird). The second I upload anything on snapchat she is the first person to see it. Why would she even bother? None of my friends deal with him or check on his stuff. btw, we were never really friends. Also, it's been over two month since the incident and I can say that im 90% healed. Is it okay if I check his page now? Im dying of curiosity or will this set me back?
Author Nadine123 Posted October 10, 2016 Author Posted October 10, 2016 can someone please get back to me?
JewelD Posted October 10, 2016 Posted October 10, 2016 Him and his friend should both be blocked then you wouldn't have to worry about this stalking that isn't really stalking. You're probably not 90% healed or you wouldn't care about this and you wouldn't be dying to check on his page to see what he's doing. Just leave it alone. 3
Author Nadine123 Posted October 10, 2016 Author Posted October 10, 2016 (edited) How is it not really stalking when im the only person she follows on facebook and she checks my stuff the second I post it? Edited October 10, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator rude~T
Zahara Posted October 10, 2016 Posted October 10, 2016 (edited) How is it not really stalking when im the only person she follows on facebook and she checks my stuff the second I post it? You need to stop analyzing. Pull yourself back and put this behind you. If you feed into the drama, it only keeps you still staying emotionally attached and affected by your ex. If you block her, you don't need to stress about it. Keep these people blocked and move on. Reading into every little bit of drama is going to keep you stuck. Edited October 10, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Author Nadine123 Posted October 10, 2016 Author Posted October 10, 2016 @Zahara Im not analyzing anything, I just found it really weird I mean wouldnt you? @humanmachine its his best friend, not him. He is already blocked everywhere.
JewelD Posted October 10, 2016 Posted October 10, 2016 (edited) How is it not really stalking when im the only person she follows on facebook and she checks my stuff the second I post it? Just clarifying that what you're describing is not stalking. Specifically because you could block this person and you wouldn't have any more contact with them. Edited October 10, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Author Nadine123 Posted October 10, 2016 Author Posted October 10, 2016 I understand but cant you atleast admit that this is reall weird? wouldnt you be surprised as well?
JewelD Posted October 10, 2016 Posted October 10, 2016 It wouldn't happen to me because my ex's friends would have been blocked at the same time he was blocked. I think you want to believe that it's your ex trying to reach out or something but really, it takes 2 seconds to make a fake profile. The friend is probably just bored and nosey. You're looking very hard for something that's probably not there.
basil67 Posted October 10, 2016 Posted October 10, 2016 Block her. And leave him blocked. Problem solved. 1
kgcolonel Posted October 10, 2016 Posted October 10, 2016 I'd be willing to wager that it is actually your ex using this friends account to monitor you.....think about it, you blocked him why would his friend have any interest? 1
Author Nadine123 Posted October 10, 2016 Author Posted October 10, 2016 I had that in my mind as well, especially that it ended really badly so there is no way his best friend would ever want to be friends with me or see what Im doing. I am also the only person she's following on facebook (if she wanted to be friends she could just have added me). I know people here might think that Im reading into this too much or im hoping it would be him. Yes, the solution would be to block her, which I just did on snapchat but I was just curious as in what is going on and why his best friend would have THIS much interest?
stillafool Posted October 10, 2016 Posted October 10, 2016 Yes it's weird but so what? Good that you blocked her and that your ex is still blocked. 1
basil67 Posted October 10, 2016 Posted October 10, 2016 but I was just curious as in what is going on and why his best friend would have THIS much interest? This is the kind of question that you will never have an answer to. And you'll just do your head in while trying to figure it out. Best to just block her and move on.
elaine567 Posted October 10, 2016 Posted October 10, 2016 She may have her eye on him now that you are out of the picture, so she is just checking out the competition, or she has a crush on you perhaps? I think though that kgcolonel is probably correct in that your ex is blocked so he uses her account to check up on you, or she checks up on you and relays the info back to him.
Zahara Posted October 10, 2016 Posted October 10, 2016 @Zahara Im not analyzing anything, I just found it really weird I mean wouldnt you? Yes, it's odd. Then what? Now what? Regardless of what the motive, it's useless information. Besides, you'll never be able to pinpoint the exact reason as to why this is happening. So, let it go. You need to start accepting him for who he is and when you focus on that you'll be able to let go of this type of drama because at the end of the day, he's not someone you want in your life. 4
Author Nadine123 Posted October 10, 2016 Author Posted October 10, 2016 so @zahara you agree with keeping her blocked as well everywhere right? thank you for the advice as usual
Zahara Posted October 10, 2016 Posted October 10, 2016 so @zahara you agree with keeping her blocked as well everywhere right? thank you for the advice as usual Yes. Block anyone and remove anything that triggers you. If you don't, you'll be two steps forward and one step back. 2
preraph Posted October 11, 2016 Posted October 11, 2016 Good lord, just block her. She's just passing information he's no longer entitled to back to her. Block them both real good. 1
Author Nadine123 Posted October 14, 2016 Author Posted October 14, 2016 so i took everyones advice and i blocked everyone related to him, thank you all for the advice as usual 1
Toodaloo Posted October 14, 2016 Posted October 14, 2016 Also, it's been over two month since the incident and I can say that im 90% healed. Is it okay if I check his page now? Im dying of curiosity or will this set me back? No - it is not OK. Why? Because you are dying of curiosity. The whole point is to get you to the point where you are completely indifferent. You are not 90% you are around 30%... Do not contact him, his mate or anything else to do with him. Ignore his friend and just leave it alone.
Author Nadine123 Posted October 14, 2016 Author Posted October 14, 2016 just to confirm that everyone here was right, I saw her yesterday and she didnt even come up and say hi to me, which i found to be really weird since she was following my every move. Im really glad i blocked her as it was setting me back. does anyone have any thoughts about this|? I kno everyones going to reply back and tell me not to care but im just interested in your thoughts so please dont get angry at me:) @toodaloo i dont even care enough to check his page anymore Bought a really nice book called power of now and its helping me alot
Author Nadine123 Posted October 14, 2016 Author Posted October 14, 2016 you know what, dont even answer that. I took the decision to not care anymore what he or his friends did and for what reason. Its time for me to put this behind my back and stop asking questions anymore because basically this part of my life is over and I should be wasting any more time on it. thanks everyone! 1
Zahara Posted October 14, 2016 Posted October 14, 2016 you know what, dont even answer that. I took the decision to not care anymore what he or his friends did and for what reason. Its time for me to put this behind my back and stop asking questions anymore because basically this part of my life is over and I should be wasting any more time on it. thanks everyone! Yes, because there are no answers that are going to change the situation or satisfy your curiosity. Best to turn all that energy and focus on yourself.
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