My escort lover... [update: Dating other guys?]

[major_merrick]

Escorts are people too, you know. Yes, there can be the money aspect, but they still want to have friends or maybe even a real relationship just like anybody else. The ones I've known have been escorts for a phase of their life, and then left that behind when things changed or got better.

 

One girl I know worked as an escort and was hired for a night by another girl. They had some pretty insane chemistry from the beginning. After a little while, the escort quit her job to be with her client, and they recently got married.

 

Sometimes you can find love in strange places.

[BadMistakes]

Escorts get paid a lot of money... what is she doing taking a bus?

 

I don't want to say where I live but it's in a big city where public transport is very prominent xD

 

Does she work for an escort agency or is she independent?

 

For an agency I believe, why so?

 

Escorts are people too, you know. Yes, there can be the money aspect, but they still want to have friends or maybe even a real relationship just like anybody else. The ones I've known have been escorts for a phase of their life, and then left that behind when things changed or got better.

 

One girl I know worked as an escort and was hired for a night by another girl. They had some pretty insane chemistry from the beginning. After a little while, the escort quit her job to be with her client, and they recently got married.

 

Sometimes you can find love in strange places.

 

Yeah I know why she is doing this as I've found out more about her....

[amaysngrace]

Escorts get paid a lot of money... what is she doing taking a bus?

 

Scoping out future customers maybe?

[BadMistakes]

Hey there, so there is this girl I've been sleeping with for about over a month...we see each other quite regularly, usually to go out and then sleep with each other...or just the latter

 

she talks to me quite a lot however I don't know if she is just playing games...anyway one time she mentioned to me that some guy came up to her and gave her a number and that she is going to meet him but it never happened and when I asked her she didn't even know what I was on about.

 

But last night on the bus home from a night out she mentioned it again to her friend "you know I have a date with that guy tomorrow" whilst sitting opposite me and then that same night and morning we have been having sex.

 

Now at first I thought she was just testing me or something to see if I get jealous but now I don't know if it's true or not?

[smackie9]

Well it could be one of two things....she wants exclusivity, or she is putting it out there you are just a FWB. I say she is fishing for you to have that conversation with her.....why are you sitting there like a stump? Go talk to her about it.

[BadMistakes]

Well it could be one of two things....she wants exclusivity, or she is putting it out there you are just a FWB. I say she is fishing for you to have that conversation with her.....why are you sitting there like a stump? Go talk to her about it.

 

I think she is putting it out there that I'm FWB because she does play with me a lot and I play along with her if you get my drift...however if I don't speak with her for even a day she starts messaging me...

 

Also I have brought it up before and she said "it's weird that you would be bothered if I date other guys" and once drunk she said I'm just a FWB....

 

So I don't know tbh

[smackie9]

I have a question.....what do you want from all this? A relationship? Different boundaries to be set? Keep the FWB? Do you want to be exclusive? Have you even asked/requested this of her? TBH I don't think you have clearly communicated with her.

[BadMistakes]

I have a question.....what do you want from all this? A relationship? Different boundaries to be set? Keep the FWB? Do you want to be exclusive? Have you even asked/requested this of her? TBH I don't think you have clearly communicated with her.

 

Thanks for your replies I don't have anyone to talk to about this!

 

Also I think I'm afraid of losing the FWB, because atm she gives me a lot of attention and if I'm honest I'm a through and through "Leo" so my ego does take a bit of a hit if she would stop seeing me as much or something. In fact if she starts spending time with other guys then I'd rather not see her at all.

 

It's hard for me to communicate to her about this kind of stuff without sounding like I'm so needy for her only after a month.

 

Also part of me wants to know if this guy she's meant to be going on dates with even exists

[smackie9]

If you are ok with just the FWB, then if she is dating or not, it shouldn't concern you or any of your business. You are not exclusive you both can date other people. IMO you are being naive if you think she is pretending she is dating this guy to push you into exclusivity.

 

I feel you are getting way to invested for a FWB....who are we kidding here? You just need to man up. Either ask her for exclusivity or end it. Any other way you are going to look needy

Edited November 5, 2016 by smackie9

[jen1447]

What is the "ATM" angle? Also I don't pay anything of hers we just hang out usually to watch a movie or something. I don't think it's anything to do with sex soul mate in either of our eyes, she probably just found me attractive as she went out of her way to come and sit near me and talk and I'd say I'm a pretty attractive guy, tall, in good shape etc

 

Sorry I didn't reply before. ATM is automatic teller machine. (Not a** to mouth, haha. )

[BadMistakes]

If you are ok with just the FWB, then if she is dating or not, it shouldn't concern you or any of your business. You are not exclusive you both can date other people. IMO you are being naive if you think she is pretending she is dating this guy to push you into exclusivity.

 

I feel you are getting way to invested for a FWB....who are we kidding here? You just need to man up. Either ask her for exclusivity or end it. Any other way you are going to look needy

 

Yeah I probably am getting too involved. I think it's because she doesn't act like a FWB, she's always asking me weird things which I know is just to mess with me like she'll just ask me "do you like me?" and if I don't speak with her she says to me "why don't you love me anymore"

 

also yesterday when we were out some other girls were talking to me and one came back to talk to me this made her annoyed I could tell and on the way home she said to me why are other girls talking to me etc

 

also she was saying I should only like her...tbh she's a bit strange and let's just say not a "good" girl

[smackie9]

Like I said, you need to just man up and talk about being exclusive if that is what you want.

 

Or you can just throw it back at her and say you are just FWB, I can talk to or date anyone I want, just like you.

Edited November 5, 2016 by smackie9

[NopeNah]

Yeah I probably am getting too involved. I think it's because she doesn't act like a FWB, she's always asking me weird things which I know is just to mess with me like she'll just ask me "do you like me?" and if I don't speak with her she says to me "why don't you love me anymore"

 

also yesterday when we were out some other girls were talking to me and one came back to talk to me this made her annoyed I could tell and on the way home she said to me why are other girls talking to me etc

 

also she was saying I should only like her...tbh she's a bit strange and let's just say not a "good" girl

In my experience girls do FWB differently than guys. They(females) will call/daily,or close to it..Where as guys will go a few days without contact. Thus,creating the "we are not exclusive 'vibe'".. Sounds to me like you are catching feelings and should either talk to her, or start to emotionally disconnect.

[BadMistakes]

Like I said, you need to just man up and talk about being exclusive if that is what you want.

 

Or you can just throw it back at her and say you are just FWB, I can talk to or date anyone I want, just like you.

 

Yeah I understand but I don't think I'm in the position to try and push for some kind of decision tbh, I just want to know what she's actually playing at tbh. Because as I've said she's always saying stuff that makes me think she is thinking about me, always sending me messages like I mentioned above.

 

Also she has been acting really jealous since the last time we went out about girls talking to me and also she found out I was talking to another girl which I let slip when drunk and since that day she always brings up "Girl B"

 

For example yesterday we were hanging out again with a friend and she brought it up again about "Girl B" and then later on that night I was texting and for about 1 hour her and her friend were trying to find out who I'm texting even to the point where they asked me to give them my phone and pin number and if I was sitting away texting she would try to walk up behind me and see what I was doing + the many times I left my phone unintended and she kept trying to log in.

 

Is this normal? Or what?

 

In my experience girls do FWB differently than guys. They(females) will call/daily,or close to it..Where as guys will go a few days without contact. Thus,creating the "we are not exclusive 'vibe'".. Sounds to me like you are catching feelings and should either talk to her, or start to emotionally disconnect.

 

Yeah I think I was catching feelings but now not as much to be honest I sort of get what is going on so I'm trying not to invest too emotionally...and this sounds shallow but if she wasn't a 10/10 in my eyes I wouldn't care that much, but everything about her in terms of beauty ticks all the right boxes for me and sexually too!