Birdies Posted October 13, 2016 Share Posted October 13, 2016 I'm going to believe, like you, that he's actually divorced. Divorced or no, he is definitely still putting his ex-wife and her family and her cultural traditions and all that ahead of you. You are 100% within your rights to tell him that if you two are going to continue being together, he needs to move out and make it clear to everyone that he is divorced and has been for 4 years. If not, he's either being a spineless conflict-avoider or he cares more about his ex than you. Line in the sand, ultimatum time. Good luck! Edit: the kids thing is tough. If he moves out and she moves to Japan with them as a result, I can see that being a huge deterrent to him. I think you guys just need to have this talk though. You can't be in a relationship with someone who is pretending to be married. Link to post Share on other sites
beatcuff Posted October 13, 2016 Share Posted October 13, 2016 his ex's family DOES NOT know they are divorced. My boyfriend is having a hard time breaking it to them <<snip>> since their culture does not believe in getting divorced my boyfriend is American and we live in NYC, so divorce here is definitely acceptable. OP this does not add up. you claim he is divorced but 'can't' tell her family, becuase it is not acceptable, yet they did it. then say 'oh btw' we live in NYC so no biggee... oh wait, sorry, here it is (your first post): I... worry that he might be stalling no need to worry HE IS STALLING!!! Link to post Share on other sites
darkmoon Posted October 13, 2016 Share Posted October 13, 2016 does he stay the night with you? weekends? holidays? come on ... Link to post Share on other sites
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