What if....

[lynnspies1]

What if...

 

I have made a mistake by staying after the second affair in a fifteen year marriage?

 

He cheats again, gets tired of me again, finds someone who lights a spark again?

 

This is not what I want after all?

 

I have to break the family up, move in with my sister and put my kids in day care just to support us?

 

I am really hurting my kids by staying in a hopeless situation?

 

This is really not the path that I was meant to take and God has been trying all along to get me back on track and I am fighting it?

 

I can't get over the affair this time? I won't be happier than this? I don't get what I want out of life because I am too busy trying to meet his stinking needs?

 

 

 

Then what if...

 

I am supposed to be here? This is what is meant to be and I am thinking of tossing it? We will work through it and be happy one day?

 

-- Why am I feeling this way now when he has not had any contact with her? He is going through a hard time in therapy ( things mostly to do with his father) now and I feel bad because I don't feel bad for him.

 

-- How could I have been so stupid to see signs that this man was not up to the task of being a mature partner, husband, father when we were dating? I overlooked his shortcomings and thought that love would get us through.

 

It is all Walt Disney's fault you know... there is no happily ever after...being married is **** sometimes.

 

Lynn

[Dadubwa]

Hey! OKAY....

 

If he thinks it's okay to screw around with another woman on your watch...and you think that's okay because he's having trouble with 'father' issues in therapy HE'S WRONG!!!! and YOU'RE wrong!

 

You're his only wife. YOU'RE HIS WIFE. You're the mother of his children...and to go off with some other woman because she "lights a spark"...is a load of crap! He should be respecting you and your marriage vows! you shouldn't take that!!...HE'S CRAP

 

Needs!? You're trying to fulfill his needs when he's not meeting yours!? AND THAT'S NOT FAIR!

 

Let me put it this way....I'm only 17...if my father EVER cheated on my mother I would be alot happier they they split! and do it when the kids are young!!!

 

Let me sum this up..

HE'S WRONG...YOU'RE HIS WIFE...HE'S CRAP...AND THAT'S NOT FAIR!!...You deserve better!!! Don't blame it on yourself that you didn't see this coming...People change!!