LooperDooper Posted October 11, 2016 Share Posted October 11, 2016 Let me start off by saying I do not feel clinically depressed at the moment, so let's get that out of the way, I just feel lonely and like I don't matter to anybody at the moment. I am a simple person, boring and shy at first but I become better when I feel comfortable around people. I have not a lot of friends, but a good share of them and I do have a strong core of friends I hang out with when I can. However, they are not tight tight as in I don't talk to them every day. Now here's my thing. I've been single for over a year and a half, and frankly it's the most single I've ever been. I don't have even a potential girl around, nobody talking to me, nothing. I feel completely irrelevant right now. My friends don't talk to me unless I talk to them. My family is always there but even that isn't enough as some days they or I am to busy to talk. I am a very busy person in my academic activities but the people I see every day just don't fill me enough to feel like I am important or that I matter. I could go a week without initiating a conversation and I feel like I'd have 0 messages. I am not very active on social media so my phone and messages are pretty much my only contact with people. I don't have any girls interested in me so that makes it worse. My friends are currently dating so their mind is in another world. I see other not so close friends that have amazing friendships in that they tell each other everything every day and are always writing to each other whenever they don't hear from them in a long time. I am very independent, but I guess I miss that kind of friendship with somebody. I don't know what it is in this moment specifically that makes me feel this way, I don't have any life changing things going my way in my personal or professional life, it's just a sad moment that doesn't keep on going. I repeat, I am not depressed, I just feel down. What can I do to feel better or feel that it is going to change at some point? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
NopeNah Posted October 11, 2016 Share Posted October 11, 2016 Save up and travel(when time permits). Do other activities solo(gym,running,ect..).. Just do things in general. After my breakup I was left a "ton of free time" in my life. I've chosen to dive into my work and play as much golf as possible,for example. I'm nursing a wound at the moment or I'd be at the gym 5days/week. Today I'm home cleaning and going through my closets for the upcoming winter season. I'll toss some things away and go shopping over the weekend..alone,but I'm fine with that. Link to post Share on other sites
Heatemyheart89 Posted October 11, 2016 Share Posted October 11, 2016 I feel exactly the same way as you ! I could have written this . Hang in there Link to post Share on other sites
stemac Posted October 12, 2016 Share Posted October 12, 2016 I am in world of feeling lost to I have friends but dont see them so spend alot of time on my own so yes I can feel your loneliness you just have to keep plodding along, try keep your mind occupied, I go for walks even if its just for 20 mins, I do volunteer work at my local hospital that helps alot because I see lots with mental illnesses and it puts my problems perspective, I know ot hard but try keep your chin up Link to post Share on other sites
FTM042014 Posted October 13, 2016 Share Posted October 13, 2016 Maybe try looking into Meetup.com? Great way to meet people and hang out based on interests. And if there isn't anything you like start one yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
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