What can I do? She won't give me abother chance

[NIGHT1985]

I am a mess still.. when/how did I become such a puss? I know there are plenty other women but why can't I let this one go? Literally have never acted like this for even a couple days let alone almost 2 months now.. As unhealthy as I know it to be, I just won't let myself move on from this girl. I want to, but I keep pumping myself up and finding hope where there is none to be found. My whole life is consumed by trying and praying to figure out how for my girl to realize what we had and come back. I know, I know. I'm in denial, stupid, crazy, pathetic, etc... Sorry. Love has turned me crazy and weak.

 

 

You need to seek out a therapist. Please for the love of anything, don't reach out to your ex, she'll think you're a psycho.

 

I can't offer much advice, as I've been obsessed with my ex of 2 years, I just don't want you making my same mistakes.

 

- respect her boundaries and don't contact her

- don't follow her social media, or her ex/whatever person she dates

- don't just sit in bed or do nothing around the house

 

+ get therapy

+ read books

+ exercise

+make new friends

+ invest time into new hobbies

[PinkElephants]

Hometown, I've been your ex. I dated a guy who took me for granted; he really thought I'd never leave. Then, one day, I left. I don't think he took me seriously at first but it wasn't long before he was in a panic.

 

He reacted much like you. He asked for another chance, promised to change, offered to take me on vacation so we could start our new chapter on a happy note, etc.

 

He said he'd wait no matter how long it took; even if it took 10 years and dating other men he'd be waiting to try again. True to his word so far, he's been trying to contact me for over 4 years. I've never once responded but he still humiliates himself by trying.

 

There has to be something I can do to increase my chances.. Post pics of me and other girls on social media, make her jealous, send her flowers, call in her bday.. Something!

My ex tried some of these things. He'd poke me on social media trying to get a response until I changed my profile pic to one of my bf and me. I suspect he didn't want to see that so he switched to email and contacting my friends. He's sent me linkedin requests and when that doesn't get a response he tries another way of trying to provoke me into contacting him.

 

FOUR YEARS he's been trying to talk to me. Four years he's been ignored.

 

It's all so pathetically see through. I know what he's doing and I'm embarrassed for him. Is that really how you want your ex to feel about you?

 

How do I regain that respect..

You can't. My lack of respect for me ex is so severe he grosses me out.

 

I refuse to give up.. I am persistent, and I believe I can get her back. I have been nc for 2 weeks now. What should I do. There has to be something that will help. I really want to contact her, I know this is my last chance and I don't want to blow it..

Your last chance is looooooong gone. It was BEFORE the break up but you didn't see it.

 

Im pretty sure her ex brainwashed her into leaving me..

You choose to believe this because it's less painful than the truth: she doesn't like you, she doesn't love you, she doesn't respect you, want you or think about you.

 

You need to stop. When a woman leaves she's likely already closed the door to her heart and there's nothing you can do to reignite what was once there. It's not an emptiness or coldness, you're just sealed out.

 

Everything you want to do is going to repulse her. Wanting to be friends is a lie; you want back in. I can promise she doesn't want to be friends; if she did, she'd have reached out. I'd never be friends with my ex because he has no value to me, he doesn't accept that I don't want him and he's disrespected my wishes to be left alone. He's not good friend material and even worse bf material. You're doing the same to your ex and I bet she's coming to the same conclusion.

 

It's time for acceptance . Don't waste your youth and dignity like my ex.