Annie92 Posted October 14, 2016 Share Posted October 14, 2016 My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over two years now. Everything used to be great between us until he started moving himself in. Long story short, I spoiled him for Christmas and his birthday, but I never even seen a card from him. Besides that, sex has dropped off the table by him- he never initiates and gets annoyed if I touch him. And just recently, I've been having chest pains really bad. I rarely ever get sick or hurt but for an entire week I've had nonstop pain and he would just joke about it even when I cried one night I hurt so bad. My parents wound up forcing me to the ER. I had texted him "Going to ER, won't be able to talk for a bit" and he just puts "ok". When I got home later that day, he never asked if I was okay or what happened. Never brought up anything, so I told him how the visit went and fortunately my problems were not serious. His reply was "So waste of money then". I don't know what to do and I'm getting fed up with him. He's not the same guy I started dating and we've fought multiple times about his attitude and how I feel he's used me and we've turned into just roommates. I want him out but he acts like it's his house too when it's not (it's in my name only and I'm the one that put down a huge down payment, plus I pay for the entire grocery, electric and water bill- the only thing split is house payment which I can make on my own if needed). Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted October 14, 2016 Share Posted October 14, 2016 with the info you posted the only answer in my head is that you should break up with him, he is being pretty rude and disrespectful and this type of behavior isn't going to get better.. he will just start treating you even worse. Sorry.... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted October 14, 2016 Share Posted October 14, 2016 My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over two years now. Everything used to be great between us until he started moving himself in. Long story short, I spoiled him for Christmas and his birthday, but I never even seen a card from him. Besides that, sex has dropped off the table by him- he never initiates and gets annoyed if I touch him. And just recently, I've been having chest pains really bad. I rarely ever get sick or hurt but for an entire week I've had nonstop pain and he would just joke about it even when I cried one night I hurt so bad. My parents wound up forcing me to the ER. I had texted him "Going to ER, won't be able to talk for a bit" and he just puts "ok". When I got home later that day, he never asked if I was okay or what happened. Never brought up anything, so I told him how the visit went and fortunately my problems were not serious. His reply was "So waste of money then". I don't know what to do and I'm getting fed up with him. He's not the same guy I started dating and we've fought multiple times about his attitude and how I feel he's used me and we've turned into just roommates. I want him out but he acts like it's his house too when it's not (it's in my name only and I'm the one that put down a huge down payment, plus I pay for the entire grocery, electric and water bill- the only thing split is house payment which I can make on my own if needed). This guy is selfish/self-centered. I doubt very seriously that he's all of a sudden become "this" guy. This is who he is. Living together just brought it to the forefront. You never REALLY know someone until you live with them. he acts like it's his house too -- He can ACT like that all he wants. Tell him you want him out by Xdate and start packing his things FOR him. In fact, I would wait until he is out of the house doing things and pack up his things so that when he arrives, they are waiting for him. If he's paid his "rent" through the end of the month, put a pro-rated refund check on top the pile. Do not fall for any whining, groveling, promising to change BS because he won't/can't change. I feel he's used me and we've turned into just roommates. -- You feel that way because you are just roommates and being used. His attitude and behavior is not that of a man who loves the woman he is with. Don't waste another minute on him. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Nowty V Posted October 14, 2016 Share Posted October 14, 2016 Why wait? Pack his stuff, put in bin bags outside the property, change the locks. Easy. Link to post Share on other sites
Toodaloo Posted October 14, 2016 Share Posted October 14, 2016 My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over two years now. Everything used to be great between us until he started moving himself in. Long story short, I spoiled him for Christmas and his birthday, but I never even seen a card from him. Besides that, sex has dropped off the table by him- he never initiates and gets annoyed if I touch him. And just recently, I've been having chest pains really bad. I rarely ever get sick or hurt but for an entire week I've had nonstop pain and he would just joke about it even when I cried one night I hurt so bad. My parents wound up forcing me to the ER. I had texted him "Going to ER, won't be able to talk for a bit" and he just puts "ok". When I got home later that day, he never asked if I was okay or what happened. Never brought up anything, so I told him how the visit went and fortunately my problems were not serious. His reply was "So waste of money then". I don't know what to do and I'm getting fed up with him. He's not the same guy I started dating and we've fought multiple times about his attitude and how I feel he's used me and we've turned into just roommates. I want him out but he acts like it's his house too when it's not (it's in my name only and I'm the one that put down a huge down payment, plus I pay for the entire grocery, electric and water bill- the only thing split is house payment which I can make on my own if needed). He isn't going to change and gets an easy ride. Step one buy some boxes or get some old ones from the local store. Step two place all of his belongings in said boxes Step three put all of said boxes by the door Step four when he gets home tell him to give you back your key, tell him he is leaving right now and that you want nothing more to do with him and pass him the boxes Step five close the door behind him and breathe a massive sigh of relief. No one changes. All he has done is give you a glimpse of what your life will be like for the next 40 years - sod that. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
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