4x4storm Posted October 14, 2016 Share Posted October 14, 2016 So after breaking up with my first girlfriend I still had many feelings attached that did not go away even though the relationship was 4 months long and we hadn't seen each other for that amount of time. We met on okcupid and after the break up I noticed she would log on once a month and that was it I took advice and retrained from messaging her. But one morning I felt like I had to get something off my chest so at 2:00AM I turned on the computer and sent her a message. It wasn't until a few weeks ago she viewed the message then my profile and never responded. I know many people may see what I did as weak and wrong but in all honesty it showed me exactly where she stood on things resulting in me no longer having any feelings. This was only advice so I suggest some people could use it if struggling after a recent breakup. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Bialy Posted October 14, 2016 Share Posted October 14, 2016 Whatever gets you closer to closure and healing is good in my book. If this has helped revealed her true colors, mission accomplished. Link to post Share on other sites
Kelley Posted October 15, 2016 Share Posted October 15, 2016 I also agree with the above, if it has helped you move forward there is nothing wrong with that. In my case I have had my closure, and any message I sent my ex would be out of anger or betrayal and would accomplish nothing. I have my self respect back and will never contact him again. Link to post Share on other sites
Offspring Posted October 15, 2016 Share Posted October 15, 2016 (edited) I have had my closure. This is key. I am still struggling with what went wrong: was it me? Was it her being a betrayer? How much of it was genuine, was she a game player? Why has she come out of it so unscathed? The worrying thing is that i think everything i've accused her of, is actually 'me'! Edited October 15, 2016 by Offspring Link to post Share on other sites
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