Almost every time I tell a woman what I do for work they stop replying

[SammySammy]

I worked retail in graduate school. Constant attention from women. Young women. Bold and direct middle-age women. Shenanigans with female coworkers. At work and away from work.

 

Had a guy ask me if I thought his wife was attractive. Went on to tell me he was a truck driver, would be out of town for the next week, his wife wanted me, and I had his permission to get with his wife.

 

I could go on and on.

 

It's not the job. There are a lot of men who work retail getting laid. Some because of the job, not in spite of it.

 

Your problem lies elsewhere.

[ChickiePops]

I made no assumptions about you. All I said was that I'd like to see you do the very things I had to do to prepare myself to join my country's elite regiment. I never said you lacked motivation or that you couldn't do the stuff that I did to prepare. Nor did I imply or say that you didn't have problems and that you didn't come through difficult periods in your life. I was addressing your criticism of a lack of motivation which I felt applied to me. I did not make any assumptions about you because I do not know you.

 

Why would you like to see me do those things? What does that have to do with anything?

 

Why not encourage the OP to do that instead? He's the one who lacks discipline, not me.

 

I still don't understand why you're so defensive. I've implied multiple times that I admire your work ethic and that I don't believe the OP is anything like you. There's nothing to defend yourself against here..I've been nothing but nice to you.

 

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[Fishfingersareyummy]

Why would you like to see me do those things? What does that have to do with anything?

 

Why not encourage the OP to do that instead? He's the one who lacks discipline, not me.

 

I still don't understand why you're so defensive. I've implied multiple times that I admire your work ethic and that I don't believe the OP is anything like you. There's nothing to defend yourself against here..I've been nothing but nice to you.

 

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I was referencing you because my post was directed at you because I felt your post was indirectly aimed at me because I am in a similar situation to the OP. Obviously I don't expect you to do those things, I was typing figuratively. Also I am merely trying to diffuse a situation between you and me, I got the wrong end of the stick and I have apologized to you for doing so. We both have good intentions here and that's to help the OP.

 

I do agree that if the OP thinks a perfect life will fall from the sky into his lap then he is misinformed and needs to wake up and smell the coffee because nobody gets anywhere in life without putting in hard work. I doubt anyone on this forum is where they are in their lives without hard work, commitment and determination to better themselves.

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[NuevoYorko]

It just happened again with another woman online today. I guess a man's job is more important to a lot of women than a guy's personality & common interests, etc.

 

 

When you just meet someone online, they don't know your personality or common interests. Things they can easily learn about you, like what your job is, is all they have to go on.

 

Women in your age range usually are looking towards the future, maybe having kids. Your job, education and living situation are indicative of your level of ambition, independence, self sufficiency, etc. There is not anything wrong with women valuing those things. Certainly they want to choose a man who has those bases covered, but ALSO who has a personality that they like and common interests.

 

It's not a trade off.

 

I wrote to you in another thread that you need to take care of your personal business right now, and put this obsession with getting a girlfriend on the back burner for a while.

[NuevoYorko]

 

I'd like to see women like you getting up at 5 am, putting 40kg on your back and running for several miles. I'd like to see you carrying 40 kg jerry cans without placing them on the floor or running 1.5 miles in 8:57 seconds. When you can do all of that is when you can come to me and call me unmotivated.

That's truly impressive, without a doubt. What has the OP done that exemplifies his motivation?

[NuevoYorko]

That sounds sexist, even if it's reality for many. Many women never have and never will be capable of contributing anywhere near 50% of all household bills, and don't even have plans to continue their education.

 

Any man who does not like the fact that she can't contribute more financially should definitely not go out with her, just like women who don't like the fact that the OP, at 30, lives with mom & dad and doesn't know what he wants to be when he grows up should not date him. And they're not.

[William]

Folks, it appears this is going nowhere so I'm going to close the thread and have a couple moderators review it for consistency and any members suspended or moderated will have their suspensions/moderations reviewed as well. Tip: Moderation does not take kindly to retaliatory reporting, or members ignoring our directives. For those who responded to the topical material and addressed the thread starter's topic respectfully, we thank you.