Midnight_Madness Posted October 17, 2016 Share Posted October 17, 2016 Hi, I've recently learned there are numerous, false, sexual rumours going around about me. Decidedly I want to 'take it in my stride' but also seek out the cause of these rumours and correct the misinformation. Rumours; That I had sex with a male friend. Have had sex with multiple different people. That I am attracted to a different male friend and want to date him. People beleive these things about me which is upsetting as the only person I have been with I am still curently with yet rumours are circulating. What behaviours might I be conveying to give off these impressions and start these rumours??? Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted October 17, 2016 Share Posted October 17, 2016 Who knows? Ppl will always find stuff to gossip about. Don't change yourself just to accommodate them. I wouldn't even try to fix it at all, not the least reason being that it'll mainly just make you look like you're trying to manipulate a narrative, which'll likely just become the nest gossip point. Let them think what they want - they're going to anyway. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
mikeylo Posted October 17, 2016 Share Posted October 17, 2016 You can't stop people from gossiping. What you can do is , give two sh@ts about it and soon they will stop and find someone else to gossip about to get a rise it of. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
JuneJulySeptember Posted October 17, 2016 Share Posted October 17, 2016 Hi, I've recently learned there are numerous, false, sexual rumours going around about me. Decidedly I want to 'take it in my stride' but also seek out the cause of these rumours and correct the misinformation. Rumours; That I had sex with a male friend. Have had sex with multiple different people. That I am attracted to a different male friend and want to date him. People beleive these things about me which is upsetting as the only person I have been with I am still curently with yet rumours are circulating. What behaviours might I be conveying to give off these impressions and start these rumours??? How old are you? I could have a threesome with a female friend, a hooker and a transvestite and none of my friends would care because they're too busy cleaning the drool of their kids' mouths and deciding what costume to dress them up in for Halloween. Which is to say ... your problem is temporary. Once people mature and get older, they will no longer care about your sexual exploits (or lack thereof). Nothing that is said about you now will matter ... at all. Link to post Share on other sites
Imported Posted October 17, 2016 Share Posted October 17, 2016 Are you really nice and sweet to everyone? Some guys take that as indication a girl wants them. And then get angry and think the girl is now playing "games" when nothing ever comes of it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Nowty V Posted October 17, 2016 Share Posted October 17, 2016 Rise above it. Don't bite. If you take the bait and acknowledge it in any way, 'they' have won. You know its rubbish, don't give it space in your head, water off a ducks back. It's probably come from someone who envies you. Don't dignify it with a response. Link to post Share on other sites
planning4later Posted October 17, 2016 Share Posted October 17, 2016 My ex wife started false sexual rumors about me during divorce court, too. And I'm certain she's told her family and friends the same. It's a wonderful life. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted October 17, 2016 Share Posted October 17, 2016 If you didn't have an SO to think about, I'd advise you to do what I've always done, which is take the rumor and blow it up and run with it. They think you're boasting about it and not shriveling up like a wilted daisy, they will learn not to do it. Like one time years ago, I had this nemesis at work who lied all the time, like she wouldn't do the work I was instructed to give her and then she'd say I never gave it to her. She was a nut. She was always looking for something to try to get over on me. So one time I went out of town to see my then favorite band, just like 2 hours out of town, and someone she knew saw me there on the stage standing with one of the band guys I knew who were the opening band as we watched the headliner in this local convention center. So back at work that Monday, she thinks she has the goods on me. I'd had a little warning because she'd already said something to my assistant, who then warned me. Soon as I got sat down, here the little busybody came looking like the cat who ate the canary. She spit it out that I'd been seen with so-and-so in this town, and I just looked at her in puzzlement and said, "Yeah. So? I go see bands just about every weekend. What do YOU do on the weekends?" She was so crestfallen. Link to post Share on other sites
august14 Posted October 18, 2016 Share Posted October 18, 2016 I think when people don't like you, they will have no problem making things up about you just to make you look bad. I generally try to remain low key and yet found out (also recently) people have been talking about me. It was upsetting, but I think if you haven't done anything wrong you should call out people who'd use unflattering rumors against you. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted October 18, 2016 Share Posted October 18, 2016 I think the general attitude when people make up stuff about your habitually is to take a "Get a life" attitude toward them. If they had a life, they wouldn't be sitting around trying to butt into yours. Link to post Share on other sites
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