foad Posted October 18, 2016 Share Posted October 18, 2016 My ex and I were friends before dating and friends after. he still wanted to be with me and we were still talking as friends and talked every day. then he just stopped talking to me and i didn't hear from him for a month. i found out he had been talking to another girl he met online. she lives in another sate like 9 hours away but they were talking online and on the phone. and he was telling her he loved her and hadn't even met her. then out of the blue he texted me to tell me his brother died. so we started talking again and i was trying to be a friend and to be there for him. i went to see him one day and he cried on my shoulder and we just held each other. when i left he kissed me bye/ he was still talking to the other girl online telling her he loved her. he didn't tell her about me coming over. and he didnt tell me about her. i told him when he stopped talking to me for a month i thought he moved on. he said he didn't. that he thought about it but didn't. that he didn't want anyone else and that he missed me and started telling me he loves me. i found out they had stopped talking cause he was mad at her for something and that's when he started telling me he loved me and still wanted to be with me. well i told him i still loved him too. we had plans to hang out again but it never happened yet. we were talking every day again. then 4 days went by with no message from him. nothing then i found out the friends he was supposed to ride with to go see her before were in her state. i also found out they started talking again. so he has just left and went to meet and see this other girl and never said a word to me about leaving the state or even just saying he wouldn't be around for a few days. he never even told me about this other woman. but i put everything together and from what i read and was told. how could he tell me he still loves me and wants to be with me and then just disappear and go see her the first chance he got. it really hurts a lot. should i just block him and not talk to him again or tell him i know about her first or what? i know he is going to just give me a line about not being online or something. he has lied about things in the past and he didnt even tel her when i came to visit he just told her he was at his mothers. he was but i also went with him there. i just feel so lost cause we talked every day. why come back into my life and then disappear again? Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted October 18, 2016 Share Posted October 18, 2016 how could he tell me he still loves me and wants to be with me and then just disappear and go see her the first chance he got. And that's because it was just words. Focus on his actions. Does this translate to someone that loves you? Nope. Both of you are options he ping pongs between depending on which one is giving him attention. should i just block him and not talk to him again or tell him i know about her first or what? Block him and disappear. I'm not sure why you've accepted this for so long in your life. Nothing will come from talking -- you even said he's a liar so nothing he can say will change the situation. why come back into my life and then disappear again? It's because you were an available option. It was what you taught him -- being accessible and staying available to him whenever he wanted. Link to post Share on other sites
NopeNah Posted October 19, 2016 Share Posted October 19, 2016 As a dumper: I still love my ex and always will. However, we're not good together(toxic) so, I will start dating again at some point when I'm ready. I wouldn't 'string' her along until I'm ready though. That's not fair to her and is what he's doing to you. Link to post Share on other sites
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