RecentChange Posted November 10, 2016 Share Posted November 10, 2016 Well, at this point you deserve to get burned like old shirt said. I guess sometimes you have to realize that you can't save them all, and there are winners and losers in this world. Some are losers due to unfortunate circumstances, others are losers by choice. We all get to choose how to deal with the hand life has felt us. Some appear to simply lack the capacity to make correct decisions. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted November 10, 2016 Share Posted November 10, 2016 You really didn't have to come back to tell us that you took him back because we all knew you would. Good luck and wish you happiness. Link to post Share on other sites
Sweetfish Posted November 11, 2016 Share Posted November 11, 2016 (edited) I just wanted to give a final update of what happened. After much deliberation I have now finally decided to forgive and get back with him. Well, I didn't genuinely "forgive" him. I have instead deiced to simply forget and get past of what has happened in the past and never bring it up again. I don't have the time and energy to deal with that now. The last few weeks have been a bit rough. We got into a fight 3 weeks ago because he was still messaging back and forth with a girl he had met earlier this year. He told me she was a loose end and he'll get rid of her. After that I told him I need time to think about it and we did not meet for the next 3 weeks. He still does not have a job after 2 months but I told him he needs to fix that himself and that I will not help him. He will cheat again in the future but seems to be determined to be with me in a relationship because we are just too attached together after so much time and we also complement each other. I just don't want to know about it in the future anymore if it happens, and to be completely honest, unless I know about it, I don't really care anymore... If he does it he should do it in secret from now on. This decision is because I do not think I will have the patience and energy to meet new people. My horrible job is super stressing, I barely sleep and have even out-of-job assignments I need to attend to. Sometimes I even work 12+ hours per day (and sometimes even 36! - no joke) and I doubt any new guy will accept this... the previous guy who I was with this summer also started to be dissatisfied with this. So it would not have worked with him anyway... I don't have time to meet a large number of new people to maybe find one that is fully understanding. I'm not a very outgoing person anyway, so even if I would have time the chances would be very low. With him at least I know it will be fine, because we were together 4 years. No new surprises. It's as good as it gets. I know people will disagree with me but it's my decision. This is the decision I'm emotionally more attracted to. When you get AIDs or some std disease... You'll will eat your words. It makes me sick how many men here would do anything to get their ex back simply because the ex feelings changed and you allow this guy to abuse you and use you like a dog waiting for table scraps... while he sits around having his cake and eatting it too and maybe since your so desperately waiting at the foot of the table for his "love" that he distributes to each of his mistresses you will thus live a satisfying love life as long as the other strays are masked in the shadows. You think by taking the pain away of temporarily loneliness, by being bonded by this fool because some how he is your "soulmate" you have only sailed thru the storm. The real pain is yet to come and this is your chance to avoid the actual damage that will be inflicted. I'm soo gald you took the time to "deliberate" because I don't wish your future on even the worse of my past exes Glad you gave your man an endless boundary to do what ever he wants without you in mind. When eventually he see's he doesn't have to tap off your supply of sex and shelter anymore and gets some other girl knocked up or he leaves you for good.. That's when the real pain will rush in... because... it's gonna happen... I bet on it Good luck lady...get some help.. Edited November 11, 2016 by Sweetfish Link to post Share on other sites
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