MandyPrincess Posted July 10, 2005 Share Posted July 10, 2005 I know people will say i'm being bitter but i'm not just hear me out.My dad not to long ago bought a 2005 dodge neon for my 25 year old loser brother who has yet to find a job (talk about lazy).Anyway i asked if i can get something to help me get to get to and from work and guess what i get a beat up 89 ford with a huge dent in it.I don't mind but then they have the nerve to say they don't play favorites which it sure looks like it Link to post Share on other sites
laRubiaBonita Posted July 11, 2005 Share Posted July 11, 2005 you may not know all the ins and outs of the "car deal". maybe it's incentive to get a job....at least he has transportation now. ....maybe he will pay your folks back some.....maybe he's older, so he gets a better car(a neon, yeah, right!)......you may never know, and it really will not change much, except make you seem bitter. so, just chalk it up to Good Ol' Family Politics, and try not to taint yourself with bitter poison, Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted July 11, 2005 Share Posted July 11, 2005 Well as LaRu points out there may be other factors there that you're not aware of.. My Sister always got more from my parents.. they bought her not one but five cars total They always seemed a lil easier on her, and didn't seem to push her as much as they did me... There were times I felt pissed about it, and wondered WTF was up.. BUT I can honestly say that number one, my Sister is an amazing person however she really did need the help more than I did, and number two with it all said and done now, I wouldn't change a thing... I believe it made me a stronger person, and My parents have told me on more than one occassion that they did things the way they did because they knew my Sis needed the help where as they felt I would be all okay and good to go doing a lot of things on my own... Link to post Share on other sites
Naive Posted July 11, 2005 Share Posted July 11, 2005 Originally posted by MandyPrincess I know people will say i'm being bitter but i'm not just hear me out.My dad not to long ago bought a 2005 dodge neon for my 25 year old loser brother who has yet to find a job (talk about lazy).Anyway i asked if i can get something to help me get to get to and from work and guess what i get a beat up 89 ford with a huge dent in it.I don't mind but then they have the nerve to say they don't play favorites which it sure looks like it I would be just as mad!!! It should be the same unless you opt to buy yourself a car but that would be totally different. They should have done the same they did for your brother to you. I guess parents can make mistakes too Link to post Share on other sites
Zaira Posted July 11, 2005 Share Posted July 11, 2005 Must be a boy thing. I'd be rather annoyed (mildly speaking). Link to post Share on other sites
danielle_rae Posted July 11, 2005 Share Posted July 11, 2005 well, i'd be pretty pissed about it lol Link to post Share on other sites
orta Posted July 11, 2005 Share Posted July 11, 2005 My first car was a 1986 Oldsmobile Cutlass Salon (Googling will reveal photographs). The car was very nifty-looking, but it drove like a piece of crap. My father purchased the car for me for $1,400.00, and I had to wait a few months before I had a license to drive it. My anticipation built up until we finally had it registered, and I was legally able to drive it around. The first day I put my keys in the ignition, and drove it around for a while, wind in my hair, finally able to get a CD to play in the very cruddy CD player that it came with, I was hit with a revelation: This car was a piece of crap, and my father was a cheap ass. Nearly every day, the car would stall out in the most inconvenient of places, and it especially loved to conk out while on the highway. I got pretty good at popping the hood, taking apart the air filter, spraying star-up fluid, and praying that the damned thing would start before I got into an accident or the cops would come. After driving it for a year, having my engine fail during a snow storm on the middle of a major highway was no biggie to me. I finally purchased my second, and present car, a 1996 Mercury Grand Marquis. I think my first car made me fall in love with the "boat cars", or cars that are exceptionally large. My sister, who has yet to even obtain her learner's permit, was given a 1994 Mazda two-door coupe (I don't know the exact model), replete with neons and sun-roof. My sister has always had things handed to her, and at times I am rather spiteful because of this. Still, my first crappy car was a learning experience. Even if the engine stalled out, and I could barely get the aging V-8 to go 0 to 35 MPH in one minute (I'm obviously exaggerating, but the car was really horrible), it was my car, and that is all that mattered. For me, having less than others drove me to succeed in life. I took a long while to get my life together, but I'm doing quite well now. It always seems that the most undeserving people get brand-new cars, especially in my area. I live in a rich town, and it isn't uncommon at all for a teen to have a brand-new, off the lot Acura, Mercedes, BMW, or Hummer while in high school. I enoyed my Cutlass as much as I could, but I certainly love my Grand Marquis more. I don't care that my vehicle is a stereotypical "old guy" car; the V-8 in it hauls major butt, and provides me a smooth ride anywhere I need to go. At least the Mercury is extremely reliable. Make the most of your vehicle. If you save up a few thousand, you will be able to buy a nicer, used car. I hope that the Grand Marquis lasts me until I finish my Associates degree. The next car I buy will hopefully be off the lot, brand new, or certified, pre-owned. I find it is much more satisfying to have worked for something, even if I can't afford the best. Maybe you will find this is true for you. Your brother may have been given something nice for nothing, but whatever you have to work for, you should appreciate. If you earn enough money for a slightly less-cruddy, used car, it will be far more than what your brother has. Link to post Share on other sites
StillHurtin Posted August 1, 2005 Share Posted August 1, 2005 Gosh, this makes me feel bad now. My dad bought a 86 Ford Mustang, wrecked. It was new, not even a year, and only 6800 miles on it. He owned and operated his own body shop so he got a great deal on it. He bought it for my mom but it was a manual so she didn't want it. He asked me if I wanted to buy it. I got the loan and he co-signed for it. He didn't charge me $1,800 like he paid for it but $5,500 b/c he counted in all the parts to fix it. My brother was so ticked my dad did this for me BUT I was paying monthly payments and I don't think my brother knew that either. My brother had a 70 Plymouth Duster and fixed it up, he still has it, awesome car. He put more money into that car w/ the help of my dad than what my car was worth so I was the one that didn't get as good of a car as my little brother in the end. Maybe your brother and dad have a deal worked out that as soon as he gets a job he will start paying on the loan or will have to pay your dad back. If not, and he just bought this car for your brother and doesn't expect a dime, then yes, I would be extremely upset. Link to post Share on other sites
A Fly onThe Wall Posted August 1, 2005 Share Posted August 1, 2005 I had to buy my own cars.. So did my brother.. But all my sisters (4) were bought cars.. Sometimes it's not about playing favorites.. Parents just do things out of responsibility Link to post Share on other sites
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