law7057879 Posted October 25, 2016 Share Posted October 25, 2016 Okay, so my ex girlfriend and I have been broken up for about 4 months now, we had dated for 3 years prior to that. We could never fully break contact because we would still see each other every now and then because we're in the same friend group. We didn't text at all during this period though and had maybe one or two conversations. We broke up because she "needed space" and wanted to figure herself out. Needless to say, a few days ago we sat somewhat close to each other at a football game. A couple of times during the game we would make eye contact and start genuinely smiling at one another. We also did one of our little inside joke gestures to one another and both laughed and smiled. Well, yesterday she sent me a friend request on Facebook and today she sent me a request on Instagram. I feel like I'm overthinking the crap out of this, but I almost get the impression that she wants me to reach out to her? One of my friends talked to her about a week ago and told her that "He hasn't told me this directly, but I could see him possibly getting back together with you". To which she replied, "There's no way he would get back together with me". I'm wondering if I should maybe send her a casual text or just ignore it completely. I still really do love this girl and as far as I know she hasn't been in a rebound or anything like that. I'm just getting a vibe that she wants me to contact her, but I'm worried I'll be wrong and end up feeling like crap. What should I do? Link to post Share on other sites
Logo Posted October 25, 2016 Share Posted October 25, 2016 You can do what she's doing. It's as if you're starting all over again. She makes a step, you make a step. She backs away, you back away. Do it slowly and reciprocate according to what she does. Don't put all your cards on the table, but at the same time, don't ignore her. If she's truly interested, things will move along. Remember, when you're building a house, you're doing it one brick at a time. Take it as fast or as slow as she is and see where things lead to. Just be sure to let her be the one to make each step forward. That way, you're playing it safe. Please post back in a month or two, I'm curious how you guys will do. Good luck. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Pete2304 Posted October 25, 2016 Share Posted October 25, 2016 You've already decided mate. I hope it works out for you but take advice from someone who knows, if it doesn't work out this time, don't go back another time. Best of luck, hopefully see you post in a month or so as Logo says hearing that it's working out. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author law7057879 Posted October 25, 2016 Author Share Posted October 25, 2016 Should I text her though? I accepted her requests but I'm wondering if I should just sit back and wait or just go ahead and text her. Link to post Share on other sites
Logo Posted October 26, 2016 Share Posted October 26, 2016 It's up to you. You know her better than we do. But, human psychology is human psychology. You guys broke up because she needed space. My thinking is, she needs to be the one who should be making the first moves now. You accepted her requests, right? I would sit back and wait. See what her next move is going to be. Don't rush it. It's not going to happen in a few days. It's going to take time, a couple of weeks. Meanwhile, try to take your mind off of her and do what you've been doing so far in your life. But again, that's just me. Link to post Share on other sites
Been Posted October 26, 2016 Share Posted October 26, 2016 Man just text her. Why fight it? Text her and ask her if she wants to meet up for drinks. But may I ask you why she needed "space"? And if you get back together you can't bring up the past. Not many people can do that. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Pete2304 Posted October 26, 2016 Share Posted October 26, 2016 Man just text her. Why fight it? Text her and ask her if she wants to meet up for drinks. But may I ask you why she needed "space"? And if you get back together you can't bring up the past. Not many people can do that. Talks a hell of a lot of sense this chap. You're going to do it so just make it happen then at least you will know. Been is right though about not bringing up the past. It's nigh on impossible. Link to post Share on other sites
Author law7057879 Posted October 27, 2016 Author Share Posted October 27, 2016 Well she just sent me a text that said the following... "Hey, I'm not sure if I'm blocked and not sure if your gonna respond but I've been conflicted on sending this for a while now but I've been thinking maybe we can meet up and catch up and see how things are going with each other. I hate how things ended and I hate the awkward tension now and I hate how things were left. If you don't want to meet I completely understand, it may not be a good idea I'm just so conflicted and didn't know what to do and if you even would want to talk" Our breakup wasn't THAT bad honestly, and yeah it's somewhat awkward but that's usually how it is after breakups. What do you guys make of this? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Pete2304 Posted October 27, 2016 Share Posted October 27, 2016 Just do it for goodness sake!!!!!! You are looking for back up here to give you the green light for something that's going to happen anyway! Listen mate, there are some dreadful stories on here of break ups of marriages and long term relationships where people have been hurt and messed around so much they should never go back. Yours isn't one of them, you seem like a nice guy, you want her back so just go and get her!! If it doesn't work out then so be it, at least you tried. Stop messing around and go and get your girl back. Best of luck mate, truly hope it works out for you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author law7057879 Posted October 29, 2016 Author Share Posted October 29, 2016 Well I met up with her last night and she basically said she doesn't want a relationship right now but we can start working towards it again. The way things were and the things she was saying totally proves that she has still loved me this whole time. We both agreed that time away from one another is probably the best thing that could've happened for both of us because we were able to mature and improve ourselves, and also to show how much we truly love one another. She said she wanted to bang the crap out of me last night too, but that we should try and take things slow and work our way back like we're starting over. I'm super excited about this. Thank you all for the input! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Logo Posted November 4, 2016 Share Posted November 4, 2016 I'm happy for you. Really. Best of luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Jacob_Duluoz Posted November 5, 2016 Share Posted November 5, 2016 That's an awesome conclusion dude. Don't mess it up by rushing, but have hope that it will work out in the end. h/t Logo with the good advice. Link to post Share on other sites
Sweetfish Posted November 5, 2016 Share Posted November 5, 2016 Well I met up with her last night and she basically said she doesn't want a relationship right now but we can start working towards it again. The way things were and the things she was saying totally proves that she has still loved me this whole time. We both agreed that time away from one another is probably the best thing that could've happened for both of us because we were able to mature and improve ourselves, and also to show how much we truly love one another. She said she wanted to bang the crap out of me last night too, but that we should try and take things slow and work our way back like we're starting over. I'm super excited about this. Thank you all for the input! Dude... thread carefully Link to post Share on other sites
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