stemac Posted October 25, 2016 Share Posted October 25, 2016 hello all would like a little advice :-( I started re- decorating my bedroom today, I was happy going along sorting stuff out so I thought I would clear my bedside cabinet out as I was doing it I lifted some small boxes and few letters and right at the bottom of the draw were this photo packed you get developed at a supermarket and to my shock it was me and my Ex on a little holiday, she must have put it there without me knowing, I can't begin to tell you the sadness that hit me I burst into tears, as I write I have tears in my eyes all the hurt came flooding back like a tidal wave why would she do this ? she new I wouldn't see them for a longtime why would she want me to find them knowing she completely broke my heart I put them in a envelope and written inside I don't want them ! I feel really angry as well, I want to send them back to her, its been nearly a year and now it feel like it was yesterday Link to post Share on other sites
BluesPower Posted October 25, 2016 Share Posted October 25, 2016 You could send them back if you wanted... I am not sure what good it would do. It may have been an accident that they were there, who knows? Would it make her sad if she saw them? Would she care? If not, you could just get a bottle, I prefer bourbon but what ever, and have a burning party with the pictures. I might make you feel better. Hang in there... Link to post Share on other sites
Author stemac Posted October 25, 2016 Author Share Posted October 25, 2016 You could send them back if you wanted... I am not sure what good it would do. It may have been an accident that they were there, who knows? Would it make her sad if she saw them? Would she care? If not, you could just get a bottle, I prefer bourbon but what ever, and have a burning party with the pictures. I might make you feel better. Hang in there... thank you for you're advice blues, she put them there knowing they wouldn't be found for a longtime, if she wanted me to see them I know she would have put them somewhere I could easily find them I have all these photos, in a folder, why would you put photos in a draw for a person your going to hurt very much, can't get my head around it, I think its a cruel and horrible thing what she has done, if she wanted to hurt me, welldone it has Link to post Share on other sites
NopeNah Posted October 25, 2016 Share Posted October 25, 2016 thank you for you're advice blues, she put them there knowing they wouldn't be found for a longtime, if she wanted me to see them I know she would have put them somewhere I could easily find them I have all these photos, in a folder, why would you put photos in a draw for a person your going to hurt very much, can't get my head around it, I think its a cruel and horrible thing what she has done, if she wanted to hurt me, welldone it has Just trash them if they upset you that much. No need to send them to her and continue the 'suffering'. Link to post Share on other sites
AGrace Posted October 27, 2016 Share Posted October 27, 2016 If the leaving of the photo's in a hard to reach place, or a place she knew it would be quite some time before you'd go there and find them is just a baffling little game the departed I guess like to play. There weren't any photo in my case, it was an engagement ring! Like your photos being put in a place that eventually you would find them, my ex-fiance played a little game herself. At some point before moving out of what used to be "our home", somewhere along the way before her move out the girl goes off and gets something like a chair or step ladder and oddly thought it'd be a good idea to place her ring around the screw that held a glass cover over a ceiling light up! I guess she figured that eventually the high efficiency energy saving bulb will go out and I'd have to climb up, remove the cover by removing the screw and "taadaa" the ring would be there sliding around in the glass plate and would get my attention! She's been gone for approx 26 months now, for the most part I'm very much moved on, other than an occasional bout of emotional runs down memory lane, but I'm generically okay! Well, the bulb to said lighting system went out last month, pop, it was dead. I grabbed a sturdy chair and proceeded to make the small climb up, unscrewed the retaining screw and heard something like metal hit the top side of the glass cover protector. As I'm trying to get myself into a position to investigate the sound, it was moving around making sounds. I got off the chair and help the glass cover protector in my hands and was stunned! A flood of emotion, anger, rage, being upset, hurt, confused and the like all rushed to the surface. But after sitting on my bed, holding the ring in my hand, stunned because I thought she took it with her, after my fits, I slowed my mind enough to think....."pretty chicken s**t of a game"! Really? She went this far out of her way to make sure one day I find this? Probably hoping that finding it one day would devastate me beyond repair! Again the whole "chicken s**t" stuff came up a lot for me. Woman didn't even have the stones to even toss the ring back in my face, nope, but she's going to climb a chair and pray that one day I find it and be destroyed. After about 30-40 minutes I realized, she's never going to be able to witness her handy work, she'll never witness if this did or didn't destroy me! So the next day, rather than letting it destroy me, I went to the river, went to the very spot we used to like to pitch the blanket and hang out all day, you know "our spot"! I took the ring out of my pocket, had a couple heart felt minutes with it and tossed it into the river. Here she thought it'd destroy me, but in all actuality it gave me a reason to take a nice walk, get some fresh air, see some things and hang out at the river. I kind of chuckled on the way home thinking ............ "your not even here, but your plan backfired, nice try chicken s**t"! I agree with someone here who said have a picture burning with a bottle of good stuff! Link to post Share on other sites
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