apc4455 Posted October 25, 2016 Share Posted October 25, 2016 I've been doing pretty well into 3 weeks NC now. Almost felt completely fine the past few days. 2 days ago ex gf unblocks me on Facebook and then immediately blocks me again after the 48 hours expire (you can only re-block someone after 48 hours). Some backstory: - she was the one who dumped me - she dumped me supposedly because I was acting childish - she in fact got back together with her ex - I message her and told her it was a ****ty thing to do and could have at least be honest with me - they then both block me on facebook - they are still together right now The 'strange' part is that once you are not friends with me on Facebook you literally do not see anything whatsoever on my profile. She knows this because I unfriended her initially and then when she blocked me she had to saw. I also post like 1-2 times per year on FB, so there's really nothing to see. So, why the unlock after 2 weeks when she is with the other guy and she pretty much kicked me out like I'm nothing? Also why the immediate re-block after 48 hours? -- I know, I know. I should not care that much about this and not overanalyze. But still. What goes on in someone's head when they do things like this? Why do they still care if they dumped you that easily, especially when they are already with someone else? Also, I'm fine. It did upset me a little but I'm not going to lose sleep over this. I'm just a bit amused and curious. Link to post Share on other sites
RyanO1991 Posted October 25, 2016 Share Posted October 25, 2016 (edited) The only blocking/unblocking I worry about is the plumbing in my toilet after a visit from my ex-stepdad. Just ignore it. It's a big head game that - ironically - nutty neurotics like to play. Life's too short. Edited October 25, 2016 by RyanO1991 6 Link to post Share on other sites
Bialy Posted October 25, 2016 Share Posted October 25, 2016 When you see that she has unblocked you --- block her on your end. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
guest569 Posted October 25, 2016 Share Posted October 25, 2016 Would there be things on your page that she is tagged in? She might still be able to see that. Who knows. But if it happens again, block her during the 48hr window Link to post Share on other sites
Author apc4455 Posted October 26, 2016 Author Share Posted October 26, 2016 Would there be things on your page that she is tagged in? She might still be able to see that. Who knows. But if it happens again, block her during the 48hr window No, there are no tags, no nothing. I have like 3 pics on FB and if you are not friends you literally see nothing whatsoever on my profile. Yes, I do know I need to block her. I will do so once this happens again. I understand this. I was just curious why someone would want to unblock you and then block you again. She broke up with me to be with someone else and then was extremely mean and disrespectful with me and basically told to gtfo. Why does she care now? Why would she want to see my profile (even if there's nothing) and then immediately block again? Link to post Share on other sites
Kelley Posted October 26, 2016 Share Posted October 26, 2016 She is just checking in, curious to see if you are moving on and what you are up to. Looking for a bit of an ego boost, if you are posting that you are devastated, posting sad quotes etc. Next time you get the chance block her! Don't read too much into it and get false hope, don't let it put you back. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Mrin Posted October 26, 2016 Share Posted October 26, 2016 If you're trying to check her FB page then you're not NC. De-friend and move on. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
reckoner Posted October 27, 2016 Share Posted October 27, 2016 She is just checking in, curious to see if you are moving on and what you are up to. Looking for a bit of an ego boost, if you are posting that you are devastated, posting sad quotes etc. Next time you get the chance block her! Don't read too much into it and get false hope, don't let it put you back. This. 100% 1 Link to post Share on other sites
jo-ol Posted December 23, 2016 Share Posted December 23, 2016 She probably didn't noticed she had to wait 48 hours to block you again... She was just curious to see if you posted anything about the end of the relationship. That doesn't mean she wants to come back. Delete your facebook or try to block her back in the first opportunity. If she really wants to talk to you, she will find a way. Link to post Share on other sites
Methodical Posted December 23, 2016 Share Posted December 23, 2016 It is really shameful that ppl can't be honest and not play childish games. Many issues could be nipped in the bud if ppl would just sit down and have a mature conversation with their SO before letting animosity simmer and grow to epic proportions. Trust is broken, ultimatums are made, and before long, the relationship is irreparable. Link to post Share on other sites
Bromeo Posted December 27, 2016 Share Posted December 27, 2016 Reading this made me smile a bit. I am 38, and my ex is 36. She is a FB addict, I am not. However, I have moved a couple times, and try to keep friends from each locale in my friends list for occasional updates. A couple months after our rather abrupt breakup, and my rather childish handling of it, FB messenger notified me she was looking at my page. While shnogging a local morlock. Guess life isn't quite so grand, eh? Lol The block/unblock game is for kids. Know what I did? Every awesome thing I do, handsome picture of me, crazy party, beautiful girl, goes on FB to celebrate. And I have felt great and haven't felt the need to check her page. Living well truly is the best revenge. Dave 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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