sandylee1 Posted October 29, 2016 Share Posted October 29, 2016 Don't ever be his or anyone's plan B. You let him back once and look what happened. It gives too much power to the other person. They think you can be picked and dropped as it pleases them. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Gr8fuln2020 Posted October 29, 2016 Share Posted October 29, 2016 So sorry for your pain. But if you filed for divorce now - he would be heavily obligated to support you and most likely carry insurance for you! There is that benefit to filing. He also may we'll pull his head out and realize he's got a lot to lose by not being with you - hence, the fun stops and dwindles with his OW when reality sets in that you can completely screw him over if you want to. Play hard ball! This is your future you're defending. If he wants to play then make him pay! Does anyone, the OP really want to stay with someone who stays b/c of he is afraid of the financial/legal obligations? Instead of genuine love and respect? Not me. Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted October 29, 2016 Share Posted October 29, 2016 I'm hurting guys, I really am. It's really heartwarming hearing your positive replies. I've just called a friend to come over. Went to see Dr today, they are trying to put my opp date forward o that I can have some relief from the pain. Im scared and lonley. I can't wait to hear the car come down my track. Thank God I have one friend who has a 4 x 4 and can get to me, the joys of living in the sticks. Still we soldier on! Cant believe he took up with a kiddie substitute whilst I was unwell. Bas***d, git, lethario, swine and git all rolled into one, they say after anger comes acceptance, roll on that. Sorry everyone Im a little needy right now. It too will pass.x We all feel somewhat needy when sick, and especially after everything that happened to you. I wouldn't be shy about that. There's always meetup groups if it gets to be a bit much. I'm also a Brownie Leader and I draw strength from that. I finding guiding the girls really helps pull me out of myself and restores my sanity. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted October 29, 2016 Share Posted October 29, 2016 He still hasn't contacted me and am feeling a little frantic. I don't know if she's left or not. I don't know what to do. Call a distress center and yak at them if you need to. Even if you are just feeling down. Don't contact his sorry butt. He doesn't deserve the wind from one of your farts. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Harriet1 Posted October 30, 2016 Author Share Posted October 30, 2016 Well he came over and announced he didn't like spending time with me that I always felt pressured, you see he wanted to go at 100 miles per hour and I could only go at 5, I was bloated, unwell and struggling, I couldnt help it. What a way to punish someone for being ill he said he was born with a silver spoon In his mouth and that he didn't care about anything g bar himself. I should have spatchcocked his balls with a rolling pin. I'm so hurt. I was and am very unwell what can I say. I am so hurt by his brutallity. Dreadful. I'm a kind good hearted loyal person. What did i do to deserve this? What? I'm frightened to face the his on my own but I have no choice, he wants her I can do nothing, I refuse to beg of sob in front of him, absolutely refuse. Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted October 31, 2016 Share Posted October 31, 2016 You'd have been better off going dark 2 Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted October 31, 2016 Share Posted October 31, 2016 Well he came over and announced he didn't like spending time with me that I always felt pressured, you see he wanted to go at 100 miles per hour and I could only go at 5, I was bloated, unwell and struggling, I couldnt help it. What a way to punish someone for being ill he said he was born with a silver spoon In his mouth and that he didn't care about anything g bar himself. I should have spatchcocked his balls with a rolling pin. I'm so hurt. I was and am very unwell what can I say. I am so hurt by his brutallity. Dreadful. I'm a kind good hearted loyal person. What did i do to deserve this? What? I'm frightened to face the his on my own but I have no choice, he wants her I can do nothing, I refuse to beg of sob in front of him, absolutely refuse. So... He came to tell you what a prick he is? Wow. Who does that, really? I know you are in so much pain right now. But I think you'll do better without someone so self-absorbed. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
BluesPower Posted October 31, 2016 Share Posted October 31, 2016 Harriet1 my dear I am so sorry, what a horrible man. I really cannot imagine. So now, dear one, you have to pick your self up and pull it together. I can only imagine how much this hurts but what choice do you have? You are not going to lay down and die. So, file for divorce ASAP, and go for the juggler. Once you get to feeling better, and you will, you will have almost unlimited options in front of you. He had shown you who he is, not show him what you are made of. And don't stop posting, we are here for you... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Ahurtgirl Posted October 31, 2016 Share Posted October 31, 2016 A man who is worth your love and affection would not leave you when you become ill. This shows who your husband really is. Save yourself future psin and let him go. Meeting him will only cause you more pain. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
wmacbride Posted October 31, 2016 Share Posted October 31, 2016 I know it may not feel like it right now, but this could actually be an opportunity for you. You have seen,up close and personal what he is like. he is a snake. Let him go to his ow and he can be her problem. He'll be cheating on her and you will be free of him and starting your new life, free of the albatross around your neck. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
cocorico Posted October 31, 2016 Share Posted October 31, 2016 I've been unwell for 3 years, hence the affair. Illness doesn't cause affairs. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
Toodaloo Posted October 31, 2016 Share Posted October 31, 2016 Well he came over and announced he didn't like spending time with me that I always felt pressured, you see he wanted to go at 100 miles per hour and I could only go at 5, I was bloated, unwell and struggling, I couldnt help it. What a way to punish someone for being ill he said he was born with a silver spoon In his mouth and that he didn't care about anything g bar himself. I should have spatchcocked his balls with a rolling pin. I'm so hurt. I was and am very unwell what can I say. I am so hurt by his brutallity. Dreadful. I'm a kind good hearted loyal person. What did i do to deserve this? What? I'm frightened to face the his on my own but I have no choice, he wants her I can do nothing, I refuse to beg of sob in front of him, absolutely refuse. Harriet There are two words you need to say to him. Just two. The first is f*** the second is off. Combine them together and slam the door in his face. You are ill. Concentrate on getting better. Your husband is the biggest wet fish I have ever had the misfortune to hear about. Thank God you have found out now rather than later. File for divorce on the grounds of adultery, name the woman. Do not let him back in the house. Get every penny you can out of him and then some if possible. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
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