Kalicious Posted October 26, 2016 Share Posted October 26, 2016 Hello everyone! I have a girlfriend for 2 years. We are very happy, but in the last two month she acting strange. Sometimes she come home late, but do not want to said where she was. She only said to me that I should not ask it and I am so jealous. I know trust is very important in a relationship, but I think truth is important to. One of my friend advised me an investigator who doing background check. Would it be a mistake to hire him or what should I do. I dont want to ruin this relationship, but I must to know the truth. Link to post Share on other sites
NTV Posted October 26, 2016 Share Posted October 26, 2016 I think You can't really ruin that relationship because to her it sounds like it's already over. In fact it sounds like she's already started the next one. It's a hard thing to face I know I've been there. I think you should keep your eyes open and your mouth shut. And don't kiss her in the mouth when she gets home... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Davey L Posted October 26, 2016 Share Posted October 26, 2016 If things have got to the point where you feel the need to hire an investigator then is there any point in continuing? If so, then why waste your money? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted October 26, 2016 Share Posted October 26, 2016 Save your money and leave. While I have no time for jealousy, I also have no time for a partner who doesn't share about their day. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted October 27, 2016 Share Posted October 27, 2016 I dont want to ruin this relationship, but I must to know the truth. My friend, you're coming at this backwards. The truth isn't supposed to ruin a relationship... Mr. Lucky 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Noirek Posted October 27, 2016 Share Posted October 27, 2016 I really can't imagine at any point my husband and I (even while dating) not telling the other person when they asked where they were. And I actually did have an affair. I wouldn't bother with a PI. I'd straight of tell her that you can't be in a relationship where you are shut out of the other person's life and can't share about what each other did that say. Even if she is just being mean and not actually soing anything wrong she is breeding mistrust and not behaving with empathy. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
RecentChange Posted October 27, 2016 Share Posted October 27, 2016 Yeah - not supposed to ask? Since when? How about if she is honest and open with you, and RESPECTS you, she should be telling you her whereabouts without you having to ask. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Jersey born raised Posted October 27, 2016 Share Posted October 27, 2016 There are a lot of reasons, not good why a person might not want to disclose where they are but few that are good reasons. Background check or PI? Background checks are usually only good for financial, criminal, or marriage records. Might be a good place to start to eliminate other reasons than another person in the relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
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