Sm12345 Posted October 26, 2016 Share Posted October 26, 2016 My ex reached out last night on Facebook to "see how I was doing." We have a mutual friend, and her and I were talking on Twitter about my ex just off hand. She had mentioned moving in with her boyfriend, the guy she was seeing after me. She's also been visiting my LinkedIn and reading my twitter recently she said. And only as of the last week or so unblocked me on Facebook. I'm not sure if it matters, but I broke up with her. Thoughts? Link to post Share on other sites
Been Posted October 26, 2016 Share Posted October 26, 2016 Why did you break up? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sm12345 Posted October 27, 2016 Author Share Posted October 27, 2016 Our schedules/incomes didn't line up. Link to post Share on other sites
Been Posted October 27, 2016 Share Posted October 27, 2016 So it was agreed by both parties to break up? Need a little more info. Link to post Share on other sites
Pete2304 Posted October 27, 2016 Share Posted October 27, 2016 Just an initial observation but sounds like business is more important than love. People can live their lives in a million different ways and not saying that being work orientated more than anything else is wrong but I wonder if you got back together maybe a little more effort on that front might change the situation because quite frankly reason for a break up being our incomes/schedules didn't line up is one of the coldest posts I've ever seen on here. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sm12345 Posted October 28, 2016 Author Share Posted October 28, 2016 Did you guys miss the part where I said her and her boyfriend just bought a place together? I broke up with her because I didn't feel I measured up, job, finances, living with roommates. No, it wasn't a mutual decision. I decided, she pleaded and I moved on. Link to post Share on other sites
Pete2304 Posted October 28, 2016 Share Posted October 28, 2016 Did you guys miss the part where I said her and her boyfriend just bought a place together? I broke up with her because I didn't feel I measured up, job, finances, living with roommates. No, it wasn't a mutual decision. I decided, she pleaded and I moved on. Apologies if I've read the situation wrong mate but I know that if you truly want someone you would live in a camper van with them if that's what it took and in fairness you didn't say bought you said moved in. If she's bought somewhere with him then in all likelihood she's probably reminiscing a little maybe after a long period apart but if you two got back together or even just met up etc, you're going to end up hurt again. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
lonewalker Posted October 28, 2016 Share Posted October 28, 2016 Did you guys miss the part where I said her and her boyfriend just bought a place together? I broke up with her because I didn't feel I measured up, job, finances, living with roommates. No, it wasn't a mutual decision. I decided, she pleaded and I moved on. then why do sound like u care now? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sm12345 Posted October 28, 2016 Author Share Posted October 28, 2016 From what our mutual friend has said, they bought a house together. She had said that she knew my living situation was temporary. I wasn't so certain things in my life, at the time would improve, but they have. I get the feeling that she's settling with this guy, he's a smoker, not as active as her, isn't into the arts the way her and I are. But she seems happy. I've been blocked again after suggesting we meet to catch up, so I'm guessing either her boyfriend saw it, or she's reconsidered. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sm12345 Posted October 28, 2016 Author Share Posted October 28, 2016 then why do sound like u care now? I care because she moved on and so did I, but my life has improved considerably in the last year and if those reasons we broke up no longer exist and she's unhappy, I'm open to revisiting my feelings for her. She said yesterday that she didn't trust that the feelings I have for her are enough, and that she doesn't want to let me back into my life (even as a friend), because I might hurt her again. Link to post Share on other sites
DarrenB Posted October 28, 2016 Share Posted October 28, 2016 (edited) I care because she moved on and so did I, but my life has improved considerably in the last year and if those reasons we broke up no longer exist and she's unhappy, I'm open to revisiting my feelings for her. She said yesterday that she didn't trust that the feelings I have for her are enough, and that she doesn't want to let me back into my life (even as a friend), because I might hurt her again. You don't get to gallivant back into her life when you choose to, just because you've 'improved considerably' from a year ago. At the moment, she's currently with someone else. Respect that, and leave it for now. She knows where you are when and if she figures out for definite what she wants. Let her work out for sure what she genuinely wants. Also ensure that she calls things off with her current boyfriend if she does choose to want to reconcile with you. She's made the right choice for now. You don't want to be involved in some random love affair. Edited October 28, 2016 by DarrenB 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sm12345 Posted October 29, 2016 Author Share Posted October 29, 2016 She sent this tonight: "I dont understand you. I dont understand how you contact me but have the nerve to ask me why I got in touch with you. I dont need to understand you though and thats the best part. We can both go on with our lives....Take care. No need to get in touch again." I didn't contact her, not for almost a year. Regardless, perhaps this is for the best. Link to post Share on other sites
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