They always come back....

[HeCantBreakMe]

I know that my now exMM has came back many times in the past.. But I've always been there right in front of him, able to talk to him, etc.. And it's always been within a few days, no more than a few weeks.. Now that he's made the decision to cut abruptly cut me off for good, and has blocked me from any contact and not spoken to me in 4 weeks.. I'm thinking that maybe the always coming back was a game to keep the sex exciting, and once they decide they are done.. Like he has apparently decided this time, then they are just done. It's easy for them to pick up like it never happened and leave us to pick up the pieces. Maybe that's just my way of thinking bc I can't vent to him and in angry..or because we've never gone this long in almost two years without contact.. But, maybe when they're finished getting what they can get out of us, they don't come back?

 

To be honest you should only hope it ends that easily. You can pick up the pierces and heal and move forward. It is usually never that clean and they get lonely, horny, bored , whatever and do come back eventually - and then it gets messy again. Is that what you want?

[Lostgirl186]

It's not what I want... But when your caught up in the newness of it, almost four weeks blocked NC- the logical side of your brain battles the stupid side, the side that knows just talking to them will make the pain go away. Even when you know it's temporary. From reading these posts it seems when they do decide to cut you out, if they come back it seems to happen when you start picking up the pieces and making peace with it.

 

To be honest you should only hope it ends that easily. You can pick up the pierces and heal and move forward. It is usually never that clean and they get lonely, horny, bored , whatever and do come back eventually - and then it gets messy again. Is that what you want?

[Lillyp32]

I've been having a mean fantasy lately for if xMM breaks no contact (although I'm thinking he won't). In my fantasy I meet up with him and give him a big hug. While hugging I whisper, "Remember those times you disregarded me and when you blew off my birthday?" Then I give him a swift knee to the nuts and say, "Ignore that, Mother-F'er!" and walk away. Yep, that's where I'm at these days.

 

All the best to you, LS ladies!

 

I've had lots of similar mean fantasies like this! Wouldn't it be nice to be able to actually act one out!? Man a part of me wished for the longest time he would break NC just so I could tell him to F off. I realized this afternoon that it's been 2 months since dday which is also my 2 month anniversary of NC! I'm surprised at how much better I feel now than I did then. I still think about him a lot and I still miss him at times but that ache I felt in the beginning has faded. I'm hoping one day he won't even cross my mind anymore!