what456 Posted July 11, 2005 Share Posted July 11, 2005 why would a guy go out of his way to tell you he doesn't love you NOT in a nice way but in a really mean way..esp. since you have been nothing but nice to him? it was almost as if he was trying to hurt me.... but at the time of out conversation, i hadn't said anything about love even though he knew that i did love him. we still maintained contact but i knew he didn't love me....but it was like her was reinforcing it over and over again. that hurts Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted July 11, 2005 Share Posted July 11, 2005 Sorry.. he's an assclown Could be that he felt he had to be mean in order to get his message across.. that perhaps this was something he had been trying to let you know for awhile in other subtle ways and felt you weren't understanding what he was saying or that you didn't believe what he was trying to tell you... OR maybe he's just really an assclown... Either way, you're I'm sure better off without this kind of crap in your life... Hang in there Link to post Share on other sites
Author what456 Posted July 11, 2005 Author Share Posted July 11, 2005 well, i knew he didn't love me. i think he was mad at me because i broke up with him two years ago..twice. he actually one time told me that he loved me (on the phone) and then when i didn't say anything back he started laughing and said it was a joke! Merin, it's funny how people can be fake. i saw him a couple of weeks ago. we spent the night together and he was so respectful/gentle and sweet. NO SEX...and it was nice. he also treated me like a princess...and now this? then i told him again how i felt and knew that he didn't feel the same way...and he was so mean to me!! i have known him for two years..and never thought he would act like this. i was like so thats it you are going to dismiss me just like that...he was like "yes, i am..just like that. i am going to dismiss you". Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted July 11, 2005 Share Posted July 11, 2005 You want to stop yourself from hurting? Keep yourself away from this guy so that you don't add any new hurts to the collection. He has nothing to offer you but pain. He will not change, so you have to: stop talking to him. Don't contact him and don't let him contact you. From your other posts, it is clear that you two have very different goals in mind for this relationship and no room for compromise in what it is either of you want. i saw him a couple of weeks ago. we spent the night together and he was so respectful/gentle and sweet. NO SEX...and it was nice. he also treated me like a princess...and now this? Why exactly do you want to keep him? You broke up with him, and now you are wanting to spend the night together? It sounds like you may be inadvertently sending mixed signals. A guy who wants sex from you tends to read things a bit differently than a guy who doesn't want sex from you. You will have to stop the intimate physical affection, immediately. No cuddling, no 'hold me', none of that. That sends a very unclear message to a guy who is in it for the sex. If you want friends - it has to be friends. Don't do stuff with him that you wouldn't do with your girl friends. It sends very, very unclear signals when you do. Link to post Share on other sites
Author what456 Posted July 11, 2005 Author Share Posted July 11, 2005 you are right. the only problem is that i will be seeing him at a wedding in two weeks. i am so scared. i wish we ended things in nicer terms than what had gone down. Link to post Share on other sites
Author what456 Posted July 11, 2005 Author Share Posted July 11, 2005 he also told me he still has feelings for me but i didn't believe him because of the way he was acting....what a liar. Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted July 11, 2005 Share Posted July 11, 2005 If you know he still has feelings for you, why are surprised that he wanted sex from you? I don't see any reason for you two to be friends, as long as he feels this way about you. He can't just turn it off because you want friends. He especially can't turn it off if you are spending nights with him. You'll have to back way, way off from this. He is getting the wrong idea, that you aren't meaning to give and you are both getting angry and frustrated about it. Best to stop giving him ANYTHING which might be taken the wrong way. Link to post Share on other sites
Author what456 Posted July 11, 2005 Author Share Posted July 11, 2005 well, me and him have never had sex. we just shared a nice sweet kiss... i think you are right. i am just going to stay clear out of his way. i actaully sent him a text message because i wanted us to settle things and part ways on better terms than we had. i also didn't want to feel wierd around him at the wedding seeing as though we would see each other. he didn't respond back..and i am going to back off. i don't know if he is mad at me or he is mad because i asked him if that's the only thing he wanted from me. He didn't respond to that either. i told him i love him...and i do. but i don't want to give up my virginity until i am married.... thanks, as always for your help. Link to post Share on other sites
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