regarding love Posted October 28, 2016 Share Posted October 28, 2016 Hey guys, General question I have heard guys ask recently and wanted to ask your opinions. How can you tell if a girl likes you as something more than just a friend? What if she is trying to hide it from you? Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted October 28, 2016 Share Posted October 28, 2016 When you ask her out on a date and she says yes......that's how it's done. Link to post Share on other sites
Author regarding love Posted October 28, 2016 Author Share Posted October 28, 2016 Of course. I mean before you may make the mistake of asking when she never showed interest in the first place. Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted October 28, 2016 Share Posted October 28, 2016 Of course. I mean before you may make the mistake of asking when she never showed interest in the first place. Unless you have a crystal ball or are a mind reader, you don't know. It's just part of the dating process. It's not about them, it's about YOU. If you're interested in enough to make the leap/take the chance, then do it and be mature enough to realize that not everyone will accept/be interested in dating you and take it with a grain of salt if they turn you down. Link to post Share on other sites
IfonlyIknew Posted October 28, 2016 Share Posted October 28, 2016 If she responds to you in a timely manner, not saying right away but it won't be all day. Link to post Share on other sites
Herbalist Posted October 28, 2016 Share Posted October 28, 2016 Generally it will be that she treats you differently than she does all the other guys she interacts with. And of course they would be positive differences. Not like if she glares at you but nobody else sort of thing. Link to post Share on other sites
Bialy Posted October 28, 2016 Share Posted October 28, 2016 When she says yes to meeting up with you every single time, she's into you. She's excited to see you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
loverboy69 Posted October 28, 2016 Share Posted October 28, 2016 Hey guys, General question I have heard guys ask recently and wanted to ask your opinions. How can you tell if a girl likes you as something more than just a friend? What if she is trying to hide it from you? Thanks I've been told I'm a "strong intuitive." I'm very perceptive. For me body language does all the talking. Keep in mind men and women are told all over the internet to hide their feelings or play coy. That works a little bit if attraction is already there but even it has an expiration point. If you've been friends for a while and joke around like siblings but then suddenly she's nervous around you and you start to notice she is taking better care of her appearance that could be a sign? Notice how she acts around other guys she isn't attracted to? A very confident woman will look at you straight in the eyes with an unmistakable look of seduction. Others may have a hard time keeping eye contact with the object of their affection due to nerves. For the love shy: It doesn't matter so much if they are outgoing or aloof with you. What really matters is that they are treating you "differently," than everybody else. Link to post Share on other sites
Author regarding love Posted October 28, 2016 Author Share Posted October 28, 2016 Well I used to work with a girl and at the time we were both in relationships (I still am) and we kinda clicked, although it's fair to say we are quite different and a few years apart. We would often sit next to each other, if she saw me she would in most opportunities come and sit with me. She gave me lifts home on occasion and would take breaks with me on several occasions, we got on well and people did comment on our 'friendship'. I assumed we got on well due to the fact we were both in relationships and could almost trust one another. We did eventually stop talking/hanging out so much at work, me due to the fact that I felt I was getting too close/flirtatious. Why she stopped I have no idea. We moved on to different areas within the company and never saw each other afterwards. Then she asked to meet and shared with me the end of her relationship and was rather upset. I had nice chats with her and we spoke at length about relationships, moving on and an odd embarrassing chat about sex. I avoided that, although she initiated it. She would ask about my relationship and ask to meet me most days at work for several months and she was telling me about guys who liked her or were chatting to her, or who she thought was hot. Eventually she just stopped meeting me and we never really spoke, maybe for the best as I am still in a committed relationship. However when I do see her around it's like she notices me but doesn't want me to know. We do glance from time to time and I swear I see her in the corner of my eye looking, I may be mistaken. If I speak to her friends and she's there, her phone or bag becomes suddenly more interesting. Honestly I am not sure if she actually likes me and is trying to hide it or is actually pissed at me or not interested in being my friend suddenly. Very confused by the whole thing. Link to post Share on other sites
Herbalist Posted October 28, 2016 Share Posted October 28, 2016 Sounds like she liked you but also a lot of it was probably due to her having problems with her relationship and then also her feeling bad after the breakup. You know like the rebound sort of thing. But most people won't just rebound with anyone. They can still go after someone they actually like. So chances are that yeah she liked some things about you but it was a messy situation and you did good to distance yourself and not get tangled up in it. Hopefully sounds like she also started to get herself together emotionally and is being more professional and respectful of your relationship now. So I would say go ahead and let yourself feel a little flattered someone took a fancy to you but keep doing right and let it go. Link to post Share on other sites
SoThatHappened Posted October 28, 2016 Share Posted October 28, 2016 You'll know if a girl likes you if she's not hiding it. If she's hiding it, in my experience, you'll be uncomfortable around her because of how weird she makes things. Case in point: Coworker of mine had a crush on me for 11 years. She always made me feel uncomfortable around her. Then she was leaving for another job, and at her going away party, she got hammered, was all over me, and told me that she'd wanted me from the first day she saw me. For 11 years I thought she couldn't stand me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author regarding love Posted October 30, 2016 Author Share Posted October 30, 2016 Thanks for the replies. I'd be lying if I said I didn't have a little something for the co worker, she's very much my type in several ways. However I felt it was getting a little too 'friendly' perhaps, as I said above I don't even know if she had/has feelings for me, I really can't work it out. In another life perhaps I would have found out and tried to see if she did/does. But I want to stay faithful to the girl I am with; who is more like me and more caring. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted October 30, 2016 Share Posted October 30, 2016 Well I used to work with a girl and at the time we were both in relationships (I still am) and we kinda clicked, although it's fair to say we are quite different and a few years apart. We would often sit next to each other, if she saw me she would in most opportunities come and sit with me. She gave me lifts home on occasion and would take breaks with me on several occasions, we got on well and people did comment on our 'friendship'. I assumed we got on well due to the fact we were both in relationships and could almost trust one another. We did eventually stop talking/hanging out so much at work, me due to the fact that I felt I was getting too close/flirtatious. Why she stopped I have no idea. We moved on to different areas within the company and never saw each other afterwards. Then she asked to meet and shared with me the end of her relationship and was rather upset. I had nice chats with her and we spoke at length about relationships, moving on and an odd embarrassing chat about sex. I avoided that, although she initiated it. She would ask about my relationship and ask to meet me most days at work for several months and she was telling me about guys who liked her or were chatting to her, or who she thought was hot. Eventually she just stopped meeting me and we never really spoke, maybe for the best as I am still in a committed relationship. However when I do see her around it's like she notices me but doesn't want me to know. We do glance from time to time and I swear I see her in the corner of my eye looking, I may be mistaken. If I speak to her friends and she's there, her phone or bag becomes suddenly more interesting. Honestly I am not sure if she actually likes me and is trying to hide it or is actually pissed at me or not interested in being my friend suddenly. Very confused by the whole thing. Maybe once she realized you're still in a committed relationship, she lost interest in you when she realized you were flirting with other women while in a committed relationship (her). Link to post Share on other sites
Author regarding love Posted October 30, 2016 Author Share Posted October 30, 2016 Maybe once she realized you're still in a committed relationship, she lost interest in you when she realized you were flirting with other women while in a committed relationship (her). Maybe. Although she seemed to like the flirting. I'm the one who dialed it back. Link to post Share on other sites
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