pezzinni Posted October 28, 2016 Share Posted October 28, 2016 Hi im new to all of this but i need to get some understanding of everything thats going on. I have been with my partner for 4 years next month but we were going through some problems for the better part of a year. She had some issues with me having friends and doing things outside of her. Whilst i enjoyed having her around 24/7 i didnt think we should hve it that way because that can be unhealthy. She disagreed which caused countless fights and arguments between us because she has trust issues. I never once did anything to cause any form of distrust it was just the way her head worked. She kept telling me she would see someone about her problems but always "forgot" her appointments etc. It got to the point where i was unsure what to do anymore and knowing i loved her and wanted our relationship to last i stupidly broke up with her thinking it would kick start her into getting help for us. We still remained in the same house but in seperate beds and i tried to distance myself a little bit for her while i waited for her to get help. Now it has all backfired on me and she has up and left and moved in with her best friend and has told me that we are done because she needs to help herself. I explained to her that this is the complete opposite of what i wanted and that it was to try and help her see she needed to get some help for it. Now ive lost her and she is avoiding any feelings she has and is masking everything with alcohol and possibly drugs. I have told her that i dont want this to end and that i will do anything to help her and after a long discussion of her telling me it was done she told me she needed to take a few days which i accepted because that wasn't exactly a no. But she is being very cryptic about it all and when it gets bought up she says she hasnt been able to think about it even though she has tried. Now we still have this house together and i said to her that if she wasn't coming back i could start packing the stuff up and organizing breaking our lease etc and she said she would help but then said if i choose not to come home. Basically i am so so confused about what is going on and i am afraid im just being strung along....am i or is she genuinely taking time for herself? Link to post Share on other sites
LastAcorn99 Posted October 31, 2016 Share Posted October 31, 2016 I’m sorry about your situation. Do you have a mutual friend(s) who can look into your situation and help you with sound advice? If not, I would suggest you seek the help of a counselor. Take care! Link to post Share on other sites
Sweetfish Posted October 31, 2016 Share Posted October 31, 2016 (edited) So are the friends guys or girls? When you say appointments is she mentally unstable? Edited October 31, 2016 by Sweetfish Link to post Share on other sites
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