NopeNah Posted October 29, 2016 Share Posted October 29, 2016 So, I've been LC with my ex and her son's birthday is next weekend(21st bday).. I'm close with him and have already given him his gift and took him drinking.. I told her that it's still too uncomfortable for me and I'd feel like "The ex in the corner"...I'm VERY close to her family that'll be there and still speak to them on occasion so, I wouldn't be "in the corner". Her son has reached out and asked that I come...I replied with a "maybe..not sure what's on my plate, that night, yet." I just don't think I'm ready to hang out with my ex on a platonic level(probably never will be). Link to post Share on other sites
loveiswar101 Posted October 30, 2016 Share Posted October 30, 2016 Ok, just my opinion but to be honest I wouldn't go. The only reason I would go is if your completely over the Ex..your not. Pain..Pain and more pain will only come from this. Don't need to say to uncomfortable even though have. Just say "thanks but can't make it, have great night...catch up soon for a beer". You already have done the right thing..give present...took out for drinks. Haven't read your story sorry..but look at the outcome...do you honestly think you will be getting back together...why stay in contact with her family and her. Her son as well but that a hard one. Best of luck there. Look at the fool i am...get a call other day...it's her...she never phones...so thought ok give it a whirl.. all i get is "hi, how are you? The girls want to talk to you" (she has 3 young girls, who I adore and got on really well with). Stuck behind the 8 Ball, could hang up, couldn't be rude to the girls...but after PAIN PAIN. Think of the long term outcome of going to the party my friend...what will you achieve? Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Kelley Posted October 30, 2016 Share Posted October 30, 2016 I wouldn't go either I would just take the son out for a drink on your own, give him his present etc and just be honest with him why you can't go. You don't need the upset and it will just put you back. Link to post Share on other sites
Author NopeNah Posted October 30, 2016 Author Share Posted October 30, 2016 She even invited me over for a "family breakfast" this morning. Even her sons biological father is going to be at the breakfast(I get along great with him as well) but, I shot that invite down quickly. I don't think I'll go next week. I don't want to get back together with her so, what's the point? Link to post Share on other sites
Author NopeNah Posted October 31, 2016 Author Share Posted October 31, 2016 Was talking to a good friend about this 'scenario' yesterday...half way through explaining the plans they have for the bday he said: "Dude...Just listening to this is giving me anxiety!" Link to post Share on other sites
Author NopeNah Posted November 7, 2016 Author Share Posted November 7, 2016 Well...She kept calling me during the week so, we met up. Actually stayed at her place for a couple nights..bday was great/fun... THEN last night I went to the bar with her and she got plastered! I was only drinking water..get back to her place,with plans together for today..Instead she went INSANE on me as soon as we walked into her house! I actually took my phone out to video it just for my protection. I grabbed my stuff and was gone! Pretty sure that's the end of that. She's texted multiple times apologizing and I've sent her 17 calls directly to voicemail...Just have had the "WTF was that?" feeling all day..SO...NC..Here I come! Back to MY normally functioning life. Link to post Share on other sites
keiji Posted November 8, 2016 Share Posted November 8, 2016 Any ideas why she was suddenly mad at you? Was it completely random? Link to post Share on other sites
Author NopeNah Posted November 8, 2016 Author Share Posted November 8, 2016 Any ideas why she was suddenly mad at you? Was it completely random? Completely random! Not the first time she's gone into a drunken rage but, it will be the last time I have to deal with it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author NopeNah Posted November 20, 2016 Author Share Posted November 20, 2016 Well...She kept calling me during the week so, we met up. Actually stayed at her place for a couple nights..bday was great/fun... THEN last night I went to the bar with her and she got plastered! I was only drinking water..get back to her place,with plans together for today..Instead she went INSANE on me as soon as we walked into her house! I actually took my phone out to video it just for my protection. I grabbed my stuff and was gone! Pretty sure that's the end of that. She's texted multiple times apologizing and I've sent her 17 calls directly to voicemail...Just have had the "WTF was that?" feeling all day..SO...NC..Here I come! Back to MY normally functioning life. Guess who invited me to the bar and to sleep over? Yeah.. I put a quick "No Thanks! Not after last time." On that.. She, of course, promised "That won't happen again."...I just told her that I wasn't feeling it and would MAYBE be able to meet up at the end of the week before her trip..I feel like a damn heroin addict. I'd like to get heroin(see her) BUT, know heroin(her) is very bad for me! Link to post Share on other sites
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