My Ex Wont Even Talk To Me After I cheated.

[Username2341]

This one's a long story, and yes, I know I am an *******.

 

So I had this girl that I met and we instantly became best friends. We dated for a couple weeks but then she broke up soon after because of personal reasons. We were still close. I really liked her and felt attached. But I asked her out and she rejected me.

 

What happened after, is I met another girl. She was really nice and liked me so I asked her out and we started our relationship. I realize that I never really felt an attachment to her, and we were more of friends than anything else. I was only dating her because I felt saddened that my best friend who I really loved didn't seem to feel the same about me. Here is where the problem begins. My best friend then gets really jealous and we fight a lot. A lot of fights over a lot of things happen. In the end, she admits she was mad because she wanted to ask me out. I felt guilty, and here is where I messed up. I told her I dumped the other girl and we got together.

 

So yes, I lied.

 

I was cheating.. The reason I didn't dump the other girl is because I was cowardly and didn't want to hurt her feelings after she's been a great friend and supported me. I didn't want to hurt her. I didn't know what to do. I kept the relationship with both people going. I was planning on breaking up with the other one, but I didn't get to it. Sadly, the truth came out to my ex. She now hates me...

 

I broke up with the other one, but now my ex still won't listen to me. I completely understand that I messed up. I did lie to her. Also, she had a boyfriend who cheated on her in the past so now she is at the point where she won't trust anything. I tried explaining that I didn't break up with the other one yet because I didn't want to be mean. She didn't believe it. She actually started ignoring me and wouldn't respond. I probably a novel's worth of texts telling her how regretful I am, how this is my fault, and how I love her more than anyone and she is the one I wanted. But no matter how many texts I said, she doesn't want anything to do with me. She said a few things. I asked for a second chance saying I'd do anything for her to make it up to her and I'd change, and she said she will never date me again. I kept messaging her anyways saying that I am not giving up and I love her too much to let go. She says she hates me and I can't change what I've done.

 

Also, she says theres a guy that likes her and has been helping her with this, and obviously shes doing this to make the break up hurt me even more. I've read that I should try to give her space, but the problem is, that if I am away I feel like it will be easier for her to get over me and fall for this new guy. I love her enough that if she cheated on me, I would probably be mad but forgive her. I am not sure if she actually loves me the same way and if it's even worth trying.

 

Even if it isn't worth trying, I am willing to take any chance I can get to get through to her.

 

Now, I don't know what to do. It is as if I am talking to a wall. Nothing I say makes any impact on her, no matter how much emotion I put into it. I have already poured my heart out for her and it has no effect. So now I feel hopeless. I know at this point I should probably leave because hope is lost, but I love her too much. I'll do anything for a chance to be with her again and I can't give up. I just don't know what to do.

[Satu]

You should give up.

 

She doesn't want to be with you.

 

Thats her choice, and you should respect it.

 

If you continue to pester her with communication she doesn't want, you will only drive her opinion of you further down, if thats even possible.

 

Accept it, and get on with your life.

 

 

Take care.

[basil67]

She hates you man. There's nothing you can do to turn this around.

[sandylee1]

You knew her Ex cheated on her and you went and did the same thing. I'd ignore you too if I were her. The best thing is to leave her alone and allow her to get over you and to get on with her life.

 

You sound rather young, so put it down to experience and learn not to hurt a girl you like by cheating.

[juniorrocha]

Everyone commits mistakes, but she doesn't have to give you second chances. You cheated, she doesn't want to be with you anymore. Respect that and move on.

 

The only chance you have, if I can even call that a chance, is to completely disappear from her life and let things cool down. In all honesty though, I don't think she will ever give you guys another shot, given the circumstances. And soon enough you should be over it - it was a 2 weeks relationship, dude.

[cucumber95]

At least you did something, my ex girlfriend doesn't want any contact with me and I did not do anything bad to her... :/