amlaanka Posted October 30, 2016 Share Posted October 30, 2016 (edited) FIRST THING: It doesnt matter if you are the dumper or dumpee...the question is-->> How did you treat them while in the r/ship?! If you gave them YOUR BEST and never took them for granted, cheated on them or direspected them yet the r/ship ended then go NC immediately( but dont block their number). They'll most likely get in touch from 4-8 weeks. If they text, ignore but when they do call receive the call but make sure to ask what their intentions are. However, if the break up was your fault cause you have done things to cause pain, chaos or drama then take responsibilty by giving them a call/ meet up to apologise. Dont make excuses/blame them, plead or beg. Only own what you did and NOT what they did then let the ball be in their court. MY EXPERIENCES ●My 1st r/ship lasted 2 YEARS. I was the DUMPER cause my ex bf cheated on me. Before the break up I used to give him chances to get his sh×t together but he continually took me for granted. Enough was enough and I dumped him! Went NC immediately; blocked him everywhere. 2 MONTHS of strict NC he came looking for me to work things out but i was over it and told him to go jump off the cliff with it. After 1 YEAR of him begging and pleading,he decided to move on. Phew!Good riddance that one! LOL ●My 2nd r/ship lasted for 1 YEAR. Damn! Really loved this one lol...he was cheating behind my back due to GIGS so i returned the favour and cheated on him too. Eeerrr tit for tat! He got super jealous when he found out so he dumped me. Being a DUMPEE sucks big time *ouch*. He continued dating the chic while rubbing it on my face. I immediately went NC and 2MONTHS later he came back for a second chance but i said NO! The grass aint greener on the other side after all lol. Long story short, we got back together after 1 YEAR AND 3 MONTHS of him begging and chasing. Sadly 3 months later I dumped him cause the same bullbutter came up. This one chases me upto date but I no longer entertain him...guess once bitten twice shy ● My 3rd r/ship lasted 6 MONTHS. We got into an arguement; there wasnt any fighting, screaming or yelling and the next thing he says is that he needs "time"...like WTF? Need time= keep you hanging around dry while i look for someone else? GO FIGURE. So after 2 WEEKS of silence from his "time" he asks for a meet up which we cancelled cause we didnt decide on the venue followed by him ignoring my call and texts. BYE FELICIA! Aint nobody got time for mind games. Been NC 5 WEEKS and at this juncture even if he comes back I dont want him back anyways...I dont want to be with someone who aint afraid to lose me! Edited October 30, 2016 by amlaanka Link to post Share on other sites
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